The seventh sense-new concepts of psychology, brain and interpersonal relationship (excerpt)

Change will never happen like that, we must work hard for it.

Sixth sense: internal intuition, including balance and proprioception, knowing one's spatial position, feeling hungry, feeling internal signals from muscles and teeth, skin pain and touch. And the feelings of internal organs, such as the feelings of the heart, lungs, intestines and other internal organs, that is, the inner feelings. Collectively referred to as "endogenous action".

The seventh sense: psychological theory, psychological language, telepathy, psychological sensitivity, mind, and the psychological mentality of the reflection function set. Psychologicalization affects the attachment pattern and the existence of personality abnormality.

Looking inward, the ability to perceive psychology, the response to feelings. Helps to achieve a balance between the body and the brain.

Seventh sense cultivation:

1. Cultivate the seventh sense through effective steps. Creating happiness is a skill that can be learned.

2. Shape the brain structure by concentrating. The reflex skill of the seventh sense can activate the neural circuit that produces resilience and happiness, which is the basis of empathy and sympathy.

3. Establish connections in life and use the seventh sense to help the brain achieve and maintain integration, thus generating happiness. Integration is the core of our contact with each other in a healthy way, respecting each other's surprises and keeping in touch. When the left and right brains work at the same time, they will show creativity.

Perception and understanding of thoughts and emotions will make us understand them and will not be controlled by them. Be aware of your impulses and develop the ability to pause and choose to respond.

Part I: Damaged brain. The seventh sense and the body

Neuroplasticity: the ability of the brain to produce new neural connections and new neurons in response to experience.

After brain injury, it can regain some original functions, grow new neurons and produce new neural connections. Affect complex abilities and personality characteristics.

The feeling of losing someone you love cannot be fully expressed in words. We try to cope with the loss, struggling with a sense of severance and despair, and our hearts are full of pain. The brain area that deals with physical pain coincides with the nerve center that records the breakdown and rejection of social relations. People will cling to familiar things and established expectations psychologically, so Wei falls into disappointment, confusion and anger, resulting in a painful inner world.

Only when you begin to accept what you have now can you let go of what you have lost.

The prefrontal cortex, the outer part of the brain orifice, is related to most complex thinking and planning. The activity in this brain region promotes the discharge of neurons, and the progressive nerve represents the nerve? Representation, that is, a "map" about all aspects of the surrounding world, and creates a psychological picture. The more abstract and concrete the representation, the higher the level of the nervous system and the higher its position in the cortex.

The prefrontal cortex can produce complex representations, which make people form the concept of the present, think about past experiences, plan and imagine the future. Produce a neural representation of one's own psychology. This side of the brain can do something "psychological first" and be aware of it.

The brain regions used for observation and evaluation are different.

The seventh sense map:

My map: Learn more about yourself and gain insight into your thoughts and emotions. Lack may be overwhelmed by your own thoughts or emotions.

Your map: Know the inner world of others. Give compassion.

Our map: the representation of interpersonal relationships.

When your heart and other people's heart keep the same frequency, and the other person keeps the same frequency with you, the world of two people will be integrated. Facial expressions, intonation, gestures and movements are transient and difficult to capture, but they can gradually resonate with others.

The whole created together is greater than everyone's identity.

Stillface, static face experiment: From protest, self-consolation to despair, children's coordinated response to their parents to maintain inner balance. The intimate interaction between children and caregivers and the formation of corresponding neural circuits in the brain are the basis of self-feeling.

Happiness triangle: interpersonal relationship, psychology and brain.

Children usually feel guilty when something bad happens at home. Will become paralyzed in regret or confusion.

The seventh sense can make people understand their feelings and express their sadness in a healthy way.

Understanding the different functions of the brain can, to a certain extent, keep people at a sufficient distance from damaged or harmful relationships and make people have more sympathy and understanding for themselves and others.

Feeling of love: The network of nerve cells around the heart and the whole body communicates directly with the brain area responsible for social interaction, and uploads the feeling of love to the middle part of the prefrontal lobe. (-resist physical contact. )

Part two: Anger? The seventh sense and interpersonal relationship

Between brothers and sisters: the strategic interaction and the action of fighting back at any time in order to protect rights, thus gaining the recognition and praise of parents.

In the middle part of prefrontal cortex, the emotional responses of the lower margin system and brain stem are calmed down, and the evoked energy cannot be adjusted, that is, the coordination and balance of the brain are destroyed.

Middle prefrontal cortex: a highly integrated area of the brain,

1, regulating the body, responsible for heart rate, breathing, digestion and other physical functions, divided into sympathetic nervous system = throttle, parasympathetic nervous system = brake.

2. Coordinate communication, change the inner world, and resonate with the inner world of others. This is the core of feelings in intimate relationships.

3. Balance emotions. The degree of emotional awakening can make people feel that life is full of meaning and vitality without being overwhelmed or out of control. Based on the calm of the brain, the ability to stay awake and concentrate in the face of storms inside and outside the body.

4. Flexible response and the ability to pause before action-an important part of emotional intelligence and social quotient. Fully understand what is happening, control the impulse, and know how to make a comprehensive choice.

5, calm fear, similar situation, the middle part of the prefrontal lobe is directly connected with the limbic system, so that the neurons in the amygdala that inhibit and regulate fear discharge. γ -aminobutyric acid (spraying some γ -aminobutyric acid on amygdala) can inhibit subcortical discharge and alleviate the outbreak of limbic system.

6. Empathy, "You have a map." The middle part of the prefrontal cortex has developed from resonance to more complex perception, to feel what you observe from other people's perspective. Perceive other people's intentions and imagine the meaning of an event in your mind.

7. Insight ability, "my map", produces "psychological time travel", connects the past and the present, and produces expectations for the future. Experience yourself as the subjective center of gravity.

8. Moral awareness. This means that we can think and act for social welfare. Moral reasoning can not only perceive the emotional significance of current challenges, but also restrain the impulse to produce moral behavior to deal with these challenges.

9. Intuition. The way the middle prefrontal cortex enables us to gain physical wisdom. Receiving information from the inside of the body gives us a deep and instinctive feeling, and lets us know what to do and what is the right choice.

The meta-representation of people's basic internal perceptual activities comes from the anterior insular lobe of the right brain, which provides a basis for people to subjectively imagine themselves as a sensory entity, that is, an entity with emotional cognition.

(Anger) When the limbic system breaks out, you can't get intuition. Paradoxically, you may feel that what you are doing is reasonable.

Reflection: after losing your mind, regain control of your thoughts. From openness, observation and objectivity.

1. Openness: Keep an accepting attitude towards anything that comes into consciousness. Let go of expectations and accept things as they are, instead of trying to make them what we want. Perceiving things more clearly gives us the power to identify restrictive judgments and frees our psychological shackles.

2. Observation, the ability to perceive yourself when experiencing an event. Broaden our horizons, self-observation lets people see a more complete background of their lives. Get rid of automatic behavior and habitual reaction.

3. Objectivity: Have your own thoughts or emotions and not be overwhelmed. The ability to collect psychology is temporary in current psychological activities, such as thoughts, emotions, memories, beliefs and intentions. Doesn't mean who we are.

Part III: The seventh sense and psychology.

Thoughts and emotions are only psychological activities, not absolute reality. Develop insight.

Meta-cognition: cognition refers to the ability of the nucleus to regulate these processes: the understanding and control of the learning activities of the thinking nucleus.

Flow: Immersion experience refers to a stable and pleasant state when people devote all their energy to an activity.

Reflection enables people to acquire the key ability to cope with strong emotions without losing them. Observing your own automation behavior, with a deeper understanding, your behavior will be different in the future.

Let the anger cool down, take the initiative and rebuild contact. Don't blame yourself too much, this is the key to overcome the shame and guilt you feel after temporarily losing your mind. Being tolerant of yourself helps to repair the relationship and deal with the initial rejection. Reflection needs to be in harmony with the tolerant and supportive self, rather than questioning and belittling.

The key gesture is not to judge who is right or wrong, but to accept him.

A deliberate and temporary attitude of talking only about facts is very beneficial at some moments, and the key is temporality.

Psychology is the process of the formation of physical and interpersonal relationships, regulating energy flow and information flow. Interpersonal relationship is the way we share information flow and energy flow, and sharing affects these flow adjustment methods to some extent. The brain is the physical mechanism through which energy flow and information flow pass, and psychology is the process of regulating energy flow and information flow.

Our internal subjective state directly affects our health, and the stress hormone cortisol will have a negative impact on the immune system's ability to resist infection. People who suffered mental abuse in childhood have a higher risk of mental illness in the future. Mindfulness exercise can improve the response ability of the immune system.

Modern science is based on measurement, statistical results and numerical analysis, and can be repeated and verified by objective observers. The subjective world foundation of psychology is often the first-person explanation of people with related psychology.

Adjustment mechanism-psychology. Sharing mechanism-interpersonal relationship, intermediary-neural mechanism of brain