First, the boyfriend has a strong desire for control
1. If WeChat doesn't reply, it will be bombarded by SMS, or even call to confirm immediately.
If you care about your girlfriend, you will be too sad to sleep.
I want to know my ex-boyfriend.
4. Gifts are often given
Although I don't want to do that, I sometimes become irrational.
6. Hair style and dress should interfere one by one.
7. Always ask your girlfriend about her day's itinerary.
8. Always ask, "Do you like me? 」
9. Have no confidence in yourself.
10. Always say "Show me your mobile phone"
Second, what should my boyfriend do if he is controlling?
In love, we can't satisfy each other 100% because we have our own hobbies and lives.
How to reconcile? This requires two people to negotiate, and sometimes even one party gives in. Of course, sometimes I compromise, sometimes he compromises. If a person endures himself forever and meets another person's requirements, such love is too tired. On the contrary, if one person always makes another person submit to himself, such love is too overbearing. Even, I wouldn't call it love, but one person controls another person and looks for a sense of existence in her. The other person can't live without love, or he can't see through his feelings and be deceived.
In fact, it is not difficult to know whether he really loves you or controls you.
First of all, you can pay attention to whether you have an equal right to speak with him in love. If you bow your head and admit defeat every time you quarrel, and he has the final say in every decision, then your right to speak in love is not equal, and he has the desire to control you.
Secondly, you can try not to meet his requirements and obey his arrangements. What if he takes back his love for you after you disobey him, even if there is? Love? Threaten you to compromise and prove that his kindness to you is conditional. Once you disobey, love will cease to exist.
For a controlling person, he will think it is love only if you live according to his words. And every time you have a conflict with him, it is a betrayal. It is difficult for him to forgive your disobedience, and even inspire him to take some radical actions to maintain his dominant position in love.
This feeling is mostly caused by the unequal pattern of the two. You want him, or you are financially weaker than him and need him to buy things for you, or you have more emotional needs than him and need to feel loved from him. This gives him the right to dominate love. If he is a controlling person, he will invade your life and change you more unscrupulously.
I always believe that love needs two people to manage, not one who makes rules arbitrarily and one who obeys them unconditionally. This kind of love is too unequal and lacks respect for each other.
So, see if he loves you or just wants to control you. If he really loves you, he will be willing to do it mainly for you. If he only wants to control you, then you should leave as soon as possible. Don't get lost in his control, don't let the so-called? Love? Lost myself.