1. Matchmaking: In the past, young Hakka men and women could ask a matchmaker to help them arrange marriages after the age of sixteen. Usually, the parents of the boy's family ask a matchmaker to go to the girl's family to talk. Sometimes the girl's family asks a matchmaker to visit the boy's family first. 2. Seeing girls: The male and female families negotiate through a central mediator. If both parties are interested, they will agree on a time to "see girls." 3. Write a Geng Tie. After both parties agree, they must tell each other their birthdays and horoscopes. After returning home, each of them asked a fortune teller to "calculate their horoscopes". If the eight characters match each other and will not conflict with each other, write out Geng Tie (common name for marriage list) and place them on the incense table. If there are no ominous signs within three days, the marriage will be decided. (If the eight characters do not match, the husband will The female Geng Tie is returned to the female family). 4. Compiling red slips is also called “red wedding slips” or financial gifts. The man's parents, clan relatives and matchmaker go to the woman's family together and issue the financial gifts that the man wants to give to the woman's family. Some of the red slips also include gifts for the son-in-law, such as hats, silver flowers, clothes, shoes, socks, etc. During the process of opening a red order, both parties will bargain and finally negotiate and finalize. After the red orders are drawn, the men and women also exchange tokens such as rings, handkerchiefs, etc. Finally, the man came back after lunch at the woman’s house. 5. Engagement is also called "making a big gift", which means officially confirming the marriage again. The young man and his parents will go to the girl's house and bring pig heads, fish, meat, etc. The girl's parents, brothers-in-law, uncles, grandparents, etc. will all be present. After lunch, the girls will come out to meet each other and call the boy's parents parents, and the parents of the two families will call each other their in-laws and in-laws' mother. 6. Housekeeping is when the woman goes to the man’s house to see his family. Some of the time is before the “big ceremony”, and some is after the “big ceremony”. In addition to the girl and her parents, the woman’s aunts, sisters, etc. will also go there. , there were more than a dozen people, big and small, without any gifts, even if they brought some, the husband’s family would not dare to accept them. 7. Send-off date After the wedding is decided, the man should ask a fortune teller to choose a date for the wedding, including the day and time when the bride goes out and the time when she returns to the groom's house. In addition, the day when the woman will cut her red dress and the man will make the bed should also be chosen at the same time. Certainly. 8. Delivering vegetables and carrying dowry. One or two days before the bride comes to the house, the groom’s family will ask relatives to deliver the betrothal gift and fish, meat, poultry, noodles and other items specified in the red slip to the bride’s house by more than ten people. Bring the dowry, furniture, etc. back to the groom’s house. 9. Welcoming a bride is also called receiving a bride or passing through the door. The day before the wedding, more than ten people from the groom's family will go to the bride's house to pick her up. There will be a drummer band, some will set off firecrackers, some will carry sedan chairs, and some will burn incense (they will go to the bride's ancestral hall, temple, or commune to burn incense), and one person will carry the burden. There is a lead chicken (one male and one female) on one end, wine and pineapple on the other. A woman has to bring the bride's clothes, and two people carry wooden baskets, and they have to carry fish, meat, wine, and cakes. , cigarettes, firecrackers, candles, etc., the matchmaker will also go. Some grooms will go, some will not. If the groom goes with him, the groom will also have to make a sedan chair. The one who sets off the firecrackers is the man's plenipotentiary, and he will bring one or twenty red envelopes with him. indivual. After the bride-to-be arrives at the bride's house, she first eats snacks, and then the bride's family members take them to the ancestral hall to burn incense and pay homage to their ancestors. The girl's family will host a banquet at noon or evening. The bride usually leaves in the middle of the night or Mao hour. The further she goes, the brighter the sky becomes, which symbolizes her move towards the light. If she goes out at night, she will not encounter unlucky things such as carrying a coffin. In the front of the wedding procession are the lantern players, followed by the music players, the sedan chair is in the middle, and behind are the people receiving the bride. When the bride arrives at the groom's house, if it has not yet arrived at the stipulated entry time, she must wait on the square at the gate or in a house next to the door. Entrance is usually at seven or eight or eight or nine in the morning, and some even have to wait until noon. At the entrance moment, the bride has to kick the sedan door, and the groom's bridesmaid will lead the bride out of the sedan, and then "cross the fire" at the gate. The bride steps over the fire made of fir branches before entering the gate. 10. Worship: After the bride enters the hall amidst the sound of drums, she begins to worship. The incense table is arranged in the hall, with parents and elders standing on the east side, relatives on the west side, relatives on the north side, and juniors on the south side. Before the ceremony, the bridegroom's wife should hang a red cloth on the groom's body with a five-foot-long red cloth. He chants: "Holding a red flag five feet long in hand, I use it to pretend to be the groom, so that the groom can give birth to a son. If he gives birth to a son early, he will be the number one scholar." When worshiping in the hall, the groom stands on the left and the bride stands on the right. The rites call: "Bow to heaven and earth." , the second time is to worship the ancestors, the third time is to pay homage to the high hall, and the fourth time is the couple is worshiping each other. At noon, we hold a banquet and a wedding banquet, and use loud cannons to invite guests. The cannons are fired every half hour, and three times when the banquet begins. Then the etiquette will give a list of names, and there will be two seats at each table. According to their seniority and closeness, they will be arranged to sit at the table first, and then the others will sit at their leisure. Male and female guests sit separately, and the bride and groom go to the table to toast. 11. Making trouble in the house. One kind makes trouble in the hall, the other makes trouble in the new house, and some make trouble in the hall first and then in the new house. During the riot, firecrackers were set off every few minutes until midnight. 12. Return door: also called "revolving door". Usually on the third or fifth day after the wedding, the woman sends the bride’s sisters and other female family members to invite the bride and groom to be guests together. The matchmaker and the groom’s sisters also go with them. There are 7-14 people. After lunch, the wedding will be held on the same day. return. 13. Send the full moon. One month after the wedding, the bride’s family will come to send the full moon. At the same time, they will send chickens, vegetables, seeds, grain seeds, beans, etc. to indicate a good harvest and a prosperous fortune.
14. Mother-in-laws are often strict with their daughters-in-law, and they have to start working three days after they get married