Engaged.
An important custom of marriage between men and women. During the late Qing Dynasty and the Republic of China, matchmakers shuttled between the families of men and women as matchmakers. If the woman's family agrees, that is, the eight characters of that year are red, then the man's family will send the eight characters of both men and women to the fortune teller for calculation, commonly known as "eight characters". If you agree to this marriage, you will keep the woman's character, otherwise you will return the woman's character. After the eight characters were combined, the matchmaker immediately reported the good news to the woman. As long as the woman has no objection, the marriage is basically settled. Subsequently, the man brought the bride price and eight characters to the woman, and the woman returned her shoes and hats to the man as a sign of marriage. This is called engagement. After 1949, feudal matchmakers gradually disappeared, and so did the bad habits of central media cutting and eight-character matching. Marriage between men and women is generally through self-knowledge and introduction, and then mutual understanding, love construction and relationship determination. The introduction of others only serves as a bridge. Whether married or not, both parties are independent, and no third party is allowed to arrange and interfere.
Cai Li
When a man and a woman are engaged to get married, the man's family will send pork, chicken, cigarettes, wine and tea to the woman's family, and the rich family will send pearls, gem ring, bracelets and necklaces. This is a traditional and ancient custom in Hunan Province. The amount of bride price depends on the economic conditions of the man's family. This custom continues to this day. With the improvement of living standards, men give more bride price to women. However, the bride price given by the man, except the dishes of the banquet, is generally brought to the man as the dowry of the woman.
Crying to get married
Weeping marriage is an important wedding custom in some areas of Hunan Province, especially in Chenzhou, Yongzhou and Hengyang. Crying marriage not only means that the married girl cries alone, but also means that the mother and daughter cry together, and the married girls cry together and each other. You cry, I cry, and my face is full of tears. The content of crying is complex and diverse, including crying for parents, crying for uncles and aunts, crying for sisters and so on. And there are rituals such as etiquette, opening face, combing hair, and offering sacrifices to ancestors one night before marriage as the content of crying. On the wedding night, crying marriage reached its climax. Married girls, together with their partners, cried one by one according to wedding etiquette, and cried almost all night. Crying for marriage is a way to express one's heart, and it is also related to the traditional idea that only crying can make one's family prosper, and crying can make one's family prosper. Crying for marriage implies deep feelings, and the crying method is different from the usual crying method, that is, it is not wailing or sobbing, but a performance-based crying and singing, which is repeated from slow to fast. Being able to cry, reputation is the symbol of education, and it is the result of training in the marriage of partners in the past. After 1949, the marriage custom of crying marriage gradually disappeared.
marry
The so-called marriage. After the man chooses the auspicious day for his wedding, the matchmaker will notify the woman with stickers a few months or earlier before the wedding, so that the woman can prepare the dowry. The amount of dowry depends on the amount of bride price given by the man and the wealth of the woman's family. Poor people have only one or two beds and a small amount of furniture; For the rich, reserve big beds, tables and chairs, cabinets, or prepare farmland and handmaids, and give cattle and horses. When the man gets married, the man prepares the sedan chair, and the accompanying band is guided to the woman's house by the matchmaker. A table of incense was placed in front of the woman's house. When the sedan chair arrives, it is called "receiving the sedan chair". Later, a banquet was held to entertain the reception team. That evening, the woman's family prepared a banquet, set up a banquet hall, sat next to her mother, and chose Fuze's old woman to guide her drinking, which was called "Li Niang wine". Sprint three rounds, take the daughter back to her room, invite the aunts and sisters to sing, each song is an empty space, and the matchmaker wants money for the flower box, which is called "playing the flower box". The next morning, the sedan chair was transferred at the right time, and the bride wore a bronze mirror on her chest and a rockhopper or an oolong handkerchief to bid farewell to her ancestors. Then, Fukuzawa's wife carried her daughter into the sedan chair. After the bride gets on the sedan chair, she locks the door and her little brother or other relatives and children take care of the keys. Sedan chairs are also covered with rice, the band is beaming, and things go first. Many women's uncles, brothers and male relatives were sent to the man's house. On the way to the sedan chair, if you meet an official sedan chair, the sedan chair takes the main road and the official sedan chair takes the small side. If the sedan chair meets the sedan chair, the bride exchanges scissors with each other. When crossing the mountain or the bridge, the bride will give the bearers red envelopes to express comfort and hint that they should be more careful. When the head shop was carried to the man's house and entered the first door, Fu Xuan's wife symbolically weighed it with a scale, saying "heavy", which meant that Duff's married life was older. Sedan chair and husband should meet outside the village and take umbrellas and other things to see them off. At the same time, set up an incense table to pick up the sedan chair and choose Fuze as the maid. The servant girl leads the bride into the ancestral hall, and the husband and wife worship their ancestors, heaven and earth, and go to Gaotang for the second time. The husband and wife worship each other, and then the aunt and uncle greet the guests in turn, which is called "welcoming the bride". Then the maid will lead the bride into the bridal chamber and let the bride and groom hold ginger tea to entertain guests. The day before the wedding, the media, the day after the wedding.
Brain orient
Also known as the noisy bride. It is a custom that guests will tease the bride on the wedding night of the bride and groom. After the wedding reception, all the guests asked the groom to "see the bride". So, the groom accompanied everyone into the bridal chamber. When entering the bridal chamber, people often say four congratulations. At the beginning of the bridal chamber, one of the maids or guests pushed the red jujube lamp in the bed account, which was called "Tian Ding". After the tripod, the maid stood in the room with the bride and groom, and the guests sat around. If the new house can't accommodate guests, quarrel with the bride in the main hall. When the bride presented the host with tea with wedding candy and sweet tea, the host deliberately refused to accept it, but gave it to the person sitting next to him, and the person sitting next to him also gave it to his neighbor. In this way, although the bride paced up and down the room, everyone ignored her, so the quarrel with the bride began. Later, the bride was asked to sing and dance, or the bride and groom were asked to hug. Some of them put forward some difficult questions for the bride and groom to answer. Some of them played practical jokes, wet the bed of the bride and groom or put ants on it, which made it difficult for them to sleep that night. In a word, the programs and ways of bridal chamber are varied and humorous. "Making trouble with the bridal chamber" and "making trouble with the bride" are meant to bless the bride and groom, so men, women and children can make a scene. For the bride and groom, of course, it is a great trouble, but we have to accept this "celebration". Today, although the custom of having a bridal chamber has changed a lot, it is more civilized and full of the characteristics of the times, but this custom has been inherited.