Why is the gap between people in life so big and getting bigger and bigger? Here we introduce a life transition technique, which is to change the mental model. "Tear down the walls in your mind" written by the classics.
What is tearing down the wall of thinking?
The prerequisite for dismantling thinking is to change the fixed thinking pattern in people's minds. People talk about inertia, habits, path dependence, etc. These are all things like this.
Interesting is more important than meaningful
There is a famous saying from the TV series Xu Sanduo that this matter must be meaningful. In daily work, the education we receive is generally more important than interesting, because meaningful means valuable, productive, and responsible for the results. We remember in our minds that all important things and valuable things may be meaningful, and the icing on the cake, things that make ourselves happier and more comfortable may be interesting.
The theory mentioned in the book may make people's hearts more willing to accept interesting things, which will make you more motivated and willing to do it well. So from another perspective, if you often have a dialogue with your inner self, find something you think is interesting, and continue to do it, it may become meaningful.
Let yourself lie down and give yourself a way out. This book mentions a point of view. In fact, letting yourself relax and not putting too much pressure on yourself may have the same effect.
In addition, the book cites the example of a motorcyclist to demonstrate how to find an activity you love and become an extreme athlete. Fan Deng believes that teaching is something he loves very much, so he enjoys it and does not find it a difficulty or obstacle. In fact, the difference between whether you love this thing or not is that some people calculate its commercial value and probability, while extreme athletes do not consider these and only focus on the thing itself. This is a state that is not easy to reach, but once you reach it , you may enter your flow state.
Interesting is the right kind of uncertainty
The COVID-19 pandemic started three years ago. To this day, we still don’t know when the epidemic will end. The COVID-19 pandemic has brought us the biggest crisis. Uncertainty. Nowadays, people living in Beijing have to take nucleic acid tests every day, and the shelf life of a person is not as good as the 48-hour shelf life of bread. And once the word "appropriate" is added to this uncertainty, it becomes interesting. This is a very interesting interpretation. This is why some people create some surprises in family life, or we call them baggage. The principle behind them is the same, the right one is good.
All success studies are untrustworthy
Through the description in the book, we have a new understanding of what success studies are. The so-called success studies have two main views. First, he believes that his knowledge and methods will be successful as long as he uses them. The second view is that anyone who uses this method will be successful, so he does not consider the matter itself. The complexity and probability of it do not take into account that different people have different innate conditions. This kind of success theory is not credible.
A lot of the success in my mind is chicken soup for the soul, and the effect is different for different people. Despite this, many people think that this chicken soup for the soul is still effective. We need this Chicken soup for the soul, so you can stay high.
If chicken soup for the soul, it constantly stimulates people's potential, constantly stimulates people's subjective desires, constantly encourages positive actions, and constantly mobilizes people's positive, positive and active emotions. , in fact, this is not success learning, this is optimism, this is a good spirit, this is what any team, any company, or even any individual needs.
Face your fears and give them a smile.
I have learned a saying for many years. When a disaster strikes, the only effective way is to face it and accept it. The book gives an example: smile at the fearful shark and it will disappear. . So learn to put fear into the "fear safe". This extends to the topic of security constraining career development. When people work with professional security as the core, they will encounter obstacles when their careers change. If a person wants to live his true self, he must not label himself. Whether it is the zodiac sign, the birth date, or the character and destiny labels brought to people by the zodiac, they must be removed. Just what you want to see is that we are selectively accepting all day long, and then constantly verifying our past experiences, making ourselves more and more stubborn and blindly confident, so we brainwash ourselves. The most severe one.
Many people think that mental models are thinking models, but this is not the case. Thinking models are still at the level of thoughts and can be transformed, but many mental models are used in your body and are at the subconscious level. If thinking models are a kind of software that can be mastered, then mental models are sometimes system hardware. field.
Why are rich people unhappy?
For most people, in the early stages, their business and happiness are in equal proportion, that is to say, the richer they are, the happier they are. However, many rich people have already passed this stage, and many have passed this stage. Yes, some people can't find another way to make themselves happier. They will think that I am unhappy because I want to make more money. When I find that I am still unhappy after making more money, then their answer There just isn’t enough money, so I have to work hard to make money. When such desire and greed are intertwined, you will fall into a state where the more money you make, the more emptiness you get. In fact, at this time, he should find another starting point, such as doing extreme sports to find happiness. Mountain climbing, bungee jumping, diving, skiing, and various sports will allow him to find different feelings and achievements.
Is there any way to prevent yourself from hitting the wall?
Record yourself your goals and the results you want. For example, my goal is to be happy and my goal is to make money. If once you find that you have made a lot of money and achieved your goal, but you don't feel happy, it means that the goal has not been achieved. If you feel that it is ineffective, you must stop and think about it. What is the final purpose of setting this goal? Is this goal the most effective? The purpose is where you want to go, and the goal is the means and carrier, or what we call the indicator. You can constantly change the goal, but you cannot change your original intention and motivation.
How to change your mental model
So it is not difficult to change your mental model. What is difficult is that many people dare not stop, and they keep hitting the wall without even thinking that they have a problem. So you are always at the first level, and the second problem is that all situations are bets, because your past mental model has been proven to be profitable, and the new model is actually unknown and certain, so whether to switch is a matter of course. The issue of safety.