Marriage is the safe haven that each of us wants. In a warm little home, two people can understand and take care of each other. Full of hope for life and more motivated for the future.
But it is undeniable that among so many families around us, domestic violence exists in the vast majority of families. Domestic violence is one of the most hurtful behaviors between two people, and it is also the beginning of many family misfortunes.
Imagine that you get up early to cook for him every day, and then make dinner and do housework after get off work. After you two have a child, you may choose to quit your job and become a housewife. This choice may very well turn you into a "yellow-faced woman".
Or maybe you persisted desperately and did not lose the job you loved. But every time I drag my tired body back home, I have to face a mess, and there are even comments from my husband or husband's family.
Not only did these efforts not win her husband’s understanding and support, but she received harsher accusations and dissatisfaction, and she also suffered physical pain. Such a marriage is not a safe haven, but an abyss of fire.
Before entering into marriage, you must consider all aspects of your partner's performance and carefully consider whether this man is worthy of your trust for the rest of your life.
In love, these three types of people are too dangerous and not suitable for marriage. Please let go as soon as possible.
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First: Do extreme things
Some people act like a good guy when dealing with things, adhering to the idea that no one will be offended; some people deal with things with ease and can do both You can do this without offending the other party, and you can do it without losing yourself.
Whether it is a good old person or a smart person who is easy to handle, these are not the worst. There is also a kind of person who is very extreme when dealing with things and refuses to leave a way out for himself and the other party.
People who do extreme things are often possessive and controlling. In a relationship, it is best not to have an overly strong person, otherwise the relationship will be unbalanced and naturally it will not be conducive to the two people getting along.
Because of the abnormal possessive and controlling psychology, once you make him unhappy, or when you deal with your interpersonal relationships normally, it will cause friction between the two.
When he tries to use quarrels and cold wars without leaving you any room, and uses his extreme thoughts to correct your behavior, the next action he will take is far from violence. Not far away.
This may be a perverted and twisted way of loving someone. It is very tiring to get along with such a person. Even when you break up, he will still use various threats and reasons to treat you. Incessant entanglement.
When you decide to use love to influence him and make him normal, you will find in despair that the difference between domestic violence is zero times and countless times.
Staying away is the best choice.
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Second: No sympathy
Sympathy is what many people call "compassion." Compassion can be divided into many types, such as compassion for children, compassion for the elderly, compassion for stray animals, etc.
Once a person loses his compassion, he also loses his kindness to a large extent.
When he saw orphans, he felt not distressed but just right; when he saw lonely old people, he felt dirty instead of sad; when he saw stray cats and dogs, When you don’t feel pity but indifference.
When you face his ruthlessness towards you, he will naturally not feel that he is at fault.
Kindness is something we must carry when we walk in this world. As a human being, we all want to be friends with those who are kind and loving, let alone those with whom we spend our lives?
If he has no sympathy for the experiences of strangers, he will naturally not understand the pain you suffer in your marriage in the future.
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Third: Bad interpersonal relationships
Although good interpersonal relationships seem to have little to do with married life, in fact, a A person's interpersonal relationships are often his biggest fetters when he is impulsive.
If he grew up in a harmonious and loving family, had a happy childhood, his parents loved him very much, he had several good brothers who drank and played games together, and he also had an idol that he aspired to be. figure.
Generally, people who grow up in such interpersonal relationships tend to be calmer when encountering problems.
He will seriously think about whether doing this will have any negative impact on the people around him? It will greatly reduce the chance of doing something wrong on impulse.
Every girl hopes that her partner’s eyes and heart are all about her, and they revolve around her all day long. But this is actually a bad emotional relationship.
Once the other person only cares about you in his eyes and heart, he will not care about anything else in the outside world, which greatly increases his chances of being impulsive.