1. Cultivate good family traditions
The Chinese nation is known as the "land of etiquette" and has always attached great importance to family education. It is not uncommon for family mottos to be found in classics throughout history, and there are many that have been praised by future generations. "Unwritten" is also a major feature of our country's national rules and family precepts, and has become an integral part of the behavioral norms of daily life. Remove the dross and take the essence, and integrate the essence of some family traditions and family mottos into new moral construction. Many popular family mottos have become "family mottos" and formed "every family style."
Family tradition is a relatively stable collection of moral norms, traditional habits, ways of being a person, style of life and lifestyle formed by a family from generation to generation. It first embodies the power of morality. Paying attention to the construction of family tradition is the foundation of many people with lofty ideals and benevolence in the history of our country. From ancient times to the present, Yan Zhitui's "Yan Family Instructions", Zhuge Liang's "Book of Commandments to Children", Zhou Yi's "Encouragement to Children", Zhu Zi's "Motto on Family Management", "Zeng Guofan's Family Letters", "Fu Lei Family Letters", etc. are all popular among the people. It is widely circulated and shines with the ideological light of good family tradition. In history, "Meng's mother moved three times", "Mother-in-law tattoos", etc., also show good family traditions. "Without indifference, there is no clear ambition, without tranquility, there is no way to reach far", "Always think about the day when there is no day, don't wait until there is no time to think about the time", "Don't be greedy for windfalls, don't drink too much wine" and other ancient sayings taught to children are still relevant to this day. Respected by the world. A good family tradition is not only beneficial to you, your children and your family, but also gradually affects the moral level of the public and the atmosphere of society.
"Wash your hands before meals, do not move your legs when sitting at the table, and do not knock the bowl or chopsticks. Only after the elders in the family have started eating can the younger ones use their chopsticks..." These small rules, Basic family rules and etiquette are the words and deeds of my parents, which have been deeply reflected in my family. These small rules not only contain etiquette and civilization, but also respect for the elders. "Diligence is the foundation of a family, and frugality is the way to run a household." Whenever she sees the wasteful behavior of children eating half of their food and scattering half of it, the mother always scolds them while picking up the dregs of cakes and small jelly beans. In his mouth, he picked up everything he could pick up. I always sneer at this kind of behavior, thinking it is too old-fashioned and I don't bother to follow it. Mother still goes her own way.
Family tradition is not only the character trait of a family, but also a moral norm within the family. Family tradition is inherited by many families from generation to generation, including family education, family rules, housekeeping, family affairs, family reputation, as well as family etiquette and standards of conduct, etc. It covers all aspects of the outstanding cultural history of the Chinese nation and is an important part of the five thousand-year long history of the Chinese nation. The important foundation of a good family tradition is unity, equality, and harmonious family relationships. If family relationships are disharmonious, with mutual accusations, complaints, and fights, children will feel coldness and hostility, leaving painful scars deep in their hearts. So what are some good house rules in our family? What effect does it have on the healthy growth of children?
Family tradition, as an invisible force, has been influencing us in a subtle way. Our food, clothing, housing and transportation, how we treat others, how we behave, and how we behave ourselves and respect our elders and relatives all come from the words and deeds of our parents. Therefore, whether we are parents or children, , it has become particularly important to inherit and cultivate your own family tradition. Parents who do not pay attention to the construction of family tradition will make their children take detours in their growth and may go astray. "Hoping for their children to become dragons and for their daughters to become phoenixes" is the beautiful ambition of every parent to educate their children. Family tradition plays a key role in these ambitions, and family tradition is a kind of education that cannot be given by any kind of school education. Therefore, creating and continuing a good family tradition has become an unshirkable mission for every parent. Family tradition benefits the entire family and children. Parents inherit and cultivate their own family tradition, and a good family tradition will lead to a good social atmosphere. When the social atmosphere is improved and the atmosphere is upright, it will benefit everyone, so that every family has a good family tradition, and every family cultivates civilized people. This concept of family tradition spreads to everyone, and then the family, a small social cell, has its The ethos plays a role that cannot be underestimated in the overall social atmosphere. The country is large, the people are numerous, and thousands of family traditions are connected together. Through words and deeds from generation to generation, they silently express the core values ??of today's society. It is the accumulation, inheritance and promotion of Chinese traditional virtues and concepts in modern society. Therefore, we must inherit and cultivate good family traditions, because social progress, development, and civilization are closely related to family traditions. Whether the Chinese nation is highly civilized or not, whether our country of etiquette lives up to its name, family tradition is even more important.
Good family tradition and tutoring are the guarantee for the healthy growth of one generation after another and the positive energy that promotes the progress of social civilization. A good family tradition is like a school, because although family tradition is invisible and latent, it has a huge impact on children. It is not only a subtle and subtle education for children's growth, but also a guide for children's behavioral norms. The "regulator" is a natural "melting pot" for cultivating children's moral sentiments.
Let’s all take action together to inherit the essence of running a family and raising a family from our fathers, and build a modern civilization that cultivates small families in the new era! Let a positive and healthy ideological atmosphere, the foundation of hard work, a frugal living atmosphere, and civilized habits shine in your life.
2. Inheriting good family traditions
China has always attached great importance to family inheritance and family education. There have been many family mottos since ancient times. Even today, some famous families still continue to inherit the traditions of their ancestors. When we talk about these family traditions and mottos, we will naturally have a special feeling and a special feeling of pride.
I remember when I was a child, whenever I went out, my parents would instruct me in every possible way: open your eyes tightly, open your mouth slowly, be modest and prudent, be polite when dealing with others, and so on. It’s no wonder that these educations from my parents taught me to be cautious in words and deeds and to be low-key. Although the words of these teachings are not grand, they are quite applicable and pertinent, and they are just right to be used among ordinary people in dealing with people.
Whenever you walk through the alleys of a famous cultural city, you will inadvertently see the plaque that reads "Loyalty is passed down to the family for a long time, and poems and books are passed down to the next generation." Although the house is old and simple, these family mottos that travel through history can better show the vicissitudes of the owner's past experience and the inheritance of family peace brought by the continuation of family tradition from generation to generation. Savoring these ten words carefully will inevitably lead to deep contemplation and profound aftertaste. To a certain extent, the inheritance of "family tradition" is as important as the inheritance of blood. "Loyalty" and "poetry" are the ideal spirit and cultural characteristics that the ancient Chinese strongly pursued. The ancients longed for this spirit and lifestyle to be passed down from generation to generation, so they regarded it as a totem symbol of family prosperity and pride.
Ancient China focused on farming and mulberry cultivation, and "farming, reading and passing down family traditions" was the most ideal way of life for the ancients from generation to generation. Plowing the fields not only produces crops, but also produces abundant crops. It not only supports the family, but also provides a stable life. Reading is to know poetry and books, and to understand etiquette and justice. It is to be able to strive for self-improvement and to be virtuous. However, although most ordinary people in Chinese history are not related to famous families, they all have their own family traditions. From a historical perspective, each family’s good “family tradition” can be regarded as a belief that the Chinese people have passed down from generation to generation for thousands of years. Therefore, “farming and reading family traditions” are all Chinese in the Chinese nation, which is famous for its agricultural civilization. Everyone has the same family tradition. "Farming, studying and inheriting the family" not only allows Chinese people to learn to be a good person, but also allows them to learn to make a living. It has been deeply imprinted in the hearts of every Chinese from ancient times to the present.
There are few families in history that can be passed down for dozens of generations and have everlasting glory. Most of them were prominent for a while, but later due to the failure of the family tradition, the descendants were unable to maintain the family tradition, or the world changed and catastrophe came, causing the family to fall apart and disappear in an instant, leaving the descendants with the infinite sigh of "it's all gone". Just like the "good song" in "Dream of Red Mansions" is sung as desolately, "The humble room was empty, but the bed was full of wats; the grass and poplars were withering, it was once a singing and dancing venue." The lingering fragrance of the song will float us out of history. The sadness and desolation of the past. However, among the thousands of families today, how many "frogs croaking, rice waves, and poems and books are singing" can still be described? The drifting away of "farming, reading and passing on the family" may just become the infinite nostalgia of today's people.
I was fortunate enough to read "Zeng Guofan's Family Letters". The whole book is based on the purpose of "valuing morality and cultivating one's moral character". It is true and detailed, and can educate future generations in a common and profound way. Zeng Guofan had very high requirements for himself and his family. Not only did he become a moral model for self-cultivation and family governance at the end of the feudal Qing Dynasty, he was also praised by Confucian scholars who advocated etiquette as "the crowning generation of moral articles." Zeng Guofan believes that the following ten things should be paid attention to when raising a family: manage family affairs diligently and strictly enforce family rules; fulfill filial piety and brotherhood and eliminate arrogance; be accustomed to hard work; do not have excess wealth; marriage does not necessarily mean a wealthy family; avoid extravagance and frugality in family affairs; pay attention to the following in housekeeping: The horoscopes are Kao, Bao, Zao, Sweep, Shu, Shu, Fish, and Pig. When interacting with relatives, it is advisable to focus on feelings rather than things. Don’t get tired of household chores. Choose a good teacher for advice. "Zeng Guofan's Family Letter" can be said to summarize the basic life concepts and traditions passed down from generation to generation in ancient China. Whether it is about cultivating oneself and managing one's family, making friends and raising children, handling affairs and managing finances, studying politics, etc., it is very detailed and detailed, and it is worthy of being a vivid guide to life for us in this world. These teachings still have educational and guiding significance for modern people, and they should also be deeply felt by modern "dandy boys" and those "fathers" who have been cheated by "second generation officials" and "second generation rich"!
In life, we must understand reverence and have a bottom line in life. This is the teaching we summarized in traditional Chinese education. Even today, when we do not understand reverence and lack a bottom line, there are still countless Chinese people who insist on it. . We must adhere to a good family tradition. A good family tradition can cultivate the pride of the family and the pillars of the country; establishing good family rules can cultivate more citizens of the country with good conduct.