Engagement etiquette in Changxing county

In the old days, the parents decided to get married. On the basis of the right match, the man's birthdates central matchmaker was sent to the woman's house first, and the woman's house asked someone to match the characters, and the man was informed within half a month to one month. If the parents of the woman agree, the man will ask the woman for a "moon birth" and get the "eight characters" of the man's fortune-telling. Only when the "eight characters" of the man and the woman are combined can they choose an auspicious day for the engagement ceremony. Giving money to the man's family as a gift is called "giving money to the woman's family", and the unmarried daughter-in-law is invited to the door, and the next of kin will accompany the reception. The elders give "meeting money", which is commonly known as "called Yue" in places such as Liu Xing. The unmarried son-in-law is also invited to the door when the female family is in good condition, and the elders also give "meeting money", but it is slightly lower than that of the male family. After the auspicious date is set for buying clothes, the male family will send the female family money for buying clothes, while the female family will prepare a dowry. Hengsha is ok. The male family gives gifts to the female family according to the annual festival. When getting married, the man usually holds a banquet for three days. The first night of the wine for the matchmaker, a banquet is held to invite the matchmaker, which is called wine for the matchmaker. On the day after the wedding, the groom led a group of people to greet the bride at the woman's house with a wooden wheelbarrow or a sedan chair. When the bride went out, she cried, saying that she counted pearls and made her rich, and at the same time carried a dowry. The bride went to the man's house just before dark. When you go to a man's house, you have to go to the first house. The bride has to go through the "three lights" and then enter the house with two alternating cloth bags, which is called "generation". After entering the room, we will have a wedding ceremony, pay homage, enter the bridal chamber, sit on the bed, eat and enjoy the reunion. After the banquet, it is necessary to make trouble in the new house, saying that "three days without age, uncles and uncles can make trouble." The third day of waiting period and ancestor worship is "waiting period" and "ancestor worship". As the saying goes, "Have a family meal, be like family, and worship the ancestors' family." And meet with the elders, who give gifts. On the fourth day of the full moon, the newlyweds go back to the woman's house together and visit their parents, which is called "receiving the full moon". When the local bride gets married, the woman's family still needs "belly pain money" and "diaper money". When the bride returns home, Changxing will choose a double date, which is called "Jiman Day". Those who get married on a double date will return home overnight, often late at night. Hengsha returned to the door during the three dynasties. There are interesting things about making trouble in new houses and making trouble in public. The newlyweds of the two islands also plant evergreen and other flowers and trees together on their wedding day (or the next day), symbolizing the faithfulness of love and growing old together.