How to prevent children from puppy love 1 know the harm of puppy love
To prevent children from puppy love, we must first let children know the harm that puppy love will bring. The most direct harm of puppy love is that it seriously interferes with study and life. Children think about their favorite opposite sex every day, which will make them have no mind to study, and even become less and less interested in learning, making it difficult to concentrate in class. If you don't concentrate, you don't pay attention in class, your class efficiency is low, and your academic performance will get worse. Therefore, only by recognizing the threat of puppy love to life and study and improving children's vigilance can children be more involved in learning.
Step 2 put out the torch of love
The establishment of love is the wishful thinking of two people, and the end of love also needs the consent of both parties. To end a relationship, you must break it with a firm will. Cut off the feelings of both sides, just like boiling frogs in warm water. You can tell your child the advantages and disadvantages of puppy love in appropriate conversation. At the same time, it is necessary to tell children that puppy love is very harmful to learning, and to persuade them to end their love and put more time and energy into their study and life, which is more conducive to the development of their personality.
Step 3 stop emotional communication
The characteristics of adolescent feelings are mainly friendship and affection, and it is normal for men and women to have feelings. Children in this place need more emotions to express in their lives, and love is a manifestation of a strong call for emotions. Because of the limited reason and inhibition of middle school students, it is difficult to end love decisively. Therefore, to end a hazy puppy love, it is necessary to reduce the emotional communication between two people in a subtle way and avoid two people getting along alone. When feelings go through a frozen process, reason will take the initiative to control the expression of feelings, and finally become an ordinary communication relationship.
The correct guidance of the daughter's puppy love 1, first sincerely congratulate the child:? Congratulations, have you grown up?
When parents find that their children do have a tendency to puppy love, they must be calm and objective. Instead of taking a tough attitude to oppose it, it is better to understand the child's real thoughts first and start the dialogue between you in a praise tone, for example? Knowing that you are in love, mom is really happy for you, baby, which shows that you are beginning to know how to love and be loved! ? I believe that children will definitely not make a scene with their parents when they hear such words. Maybe the child will take the initiative to say that he is in love after listening to your words? What is the specific situation? .
2. Tell your child your attitude:? No objection, but let me know your progress. ?
When you know that your child is puppy love, parents must clearly show your attitude: although we don't object, we don't support it. You can fall in love, but you must abide by the bottom line and let us know your progress at any time. ? In addition, parents should clearly state the bottom line, such as not stealing forbidden fruit, maintaining enthusiasm for learning, and not marrying early for this unstable love, so that children can know that although parents do not object, these bottom lines cannot be touched.
3. Talk to children more? Same to you? : what kind of person is TA?
Know that the child is a teenager? Love? At this time, although parents don't object, they still have to talk to their children more. Which one? On the one hand, I know what kind of person that TA is. Only by knowing this child can I know if my child may be taken away? Deviation? On the other hand, through communicating with children, I can grasp it more clearly? How to get children back on track? .
4. share it with children? Real life is cruel, and life is not just love. ?
In life, parents can convey an idea to their children in combination with the reality of life. Only with better people can you live a happier life. There are many more important things in life besides love. ? Let children know the cruelty of reality. Love without economic foundation will suffer more in the future. Let children know that life is long, everyone's thoughts are changing, and the feelings at this stage are fragile and turbulent, so that children can understand the uncertainty of this relationship.
5. let the children know that you will always love TA and you will always protect TA.
What are the manifestations of children's puppy love? 1. Compared with before, they began to pay attention to their appearance.
2, communicate with parents less, often appear emptiness, a person smirking.
There is less communication between children and parents. In the past, they were willing to talk about any topic with their parents. They always seem to be absent-minded recently. Sometimes they even sit there giggling. This shows that children are really likely to fall in love. Because I am caught in my own little mood, I will communicate less with my parents.
3. On weekends or holidays, I always find reasons to go out to play.
Of course, if the object of puppy love is local, I'm sure children will find opportunities to go out, especially on weekends or holidays. They used to like to stay at home, but now they always like to go out, either to see this classmate or that classmate. When they go out, they will come back very late, indicating that the children are beginning to have their own little secrets.