Entrust a matchmaker to propose marriage. It is commonly known as "It doesn't rain unless there are clouds in the sky, and there is no marriage without a matchmaker on the ground". The most important thing is "the orders of the parents and the words of the matchmaker". After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the custom of matchmaking still existed, but independent marriage and free love became the mainstream. After the 1980s, marriage agencies were set up in cities and towns, and marriage advertisements and other contact methods were also popular in newspapers, magazines and on the Internet.
Combined eight characters. That is, the birth year, month, day and time of both men and women are determined by combining the heavenly stems and earthly branches into eight characters, and the fortune teller will calculate whether there is a "zodiac conflict" phenomenon. There is an "anti-marriage song" circulated in Yuexi and other places: "Always a white horse" Afraid of the golden ox, the sheep and rats break up when they meet each other, the snake is like a knife when it sees the fierce tiger, the golden rooster sheds tears when it sees the dog, the monkey and the pig are in different pens, the dragon and the rabbit are not enough." After the founding of the People's Republic of China, most people were not superstitious.
Blind date. Divided into male-female and female-male categories, there are projects such as fortune telling and fortune telling to conduct inspections and interactions to enhance understanding. Guo Geng. Also known as Chuan Geng, Chuan Tie, Xia Ding, etc., that is, exchange of Geng Tie for marriage permission. The invitations are called red and green slips, Yuanyang Script, Yunqiu Script, Xiao Shuzi, etc. They are wedding invitations that write the names, birthdays and names of parents of both men and women. The man wrote the word "respect" in the post, and the woman replied with the word "respect". This custom no longer became popular after the founding of the People's Republic of China.
Give a betrothal gift. Also known as guoli and betrothal, the man sends a bride price to the woman. The size of the gift depends on the family's financial situation. Generally, there are even amounts of chicken, fish, cakes, and sugar. The gift pole is covered with red cloth, lined with cypress branches, red dates, longan, peanuts and other mascots, and a bright red double "Xi Xi" is posted on it. "Sent the word. After being hired, the man must also give "boxing gifts" to the woman's family every year during the Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival, and Spring Festival. This custom is still popular in rural areas. However, due to different regions, the life and death of giving chickens as betrothal gifts are different. In April 2002, a young couple in Jieshou City got married. The groom's family sent two wedding cars to pick up the bride. The gift box that came with the car had a live chicken hanging on it. The bride burst into tears after hearing the news. According to the bride's wedding customs On the wedding day, a cooked chicken should be given, and live chicken is a local custom for funerals. The bride and groom's families are more than a hundred miles apart, but their wedding customs are so different that the wedding was a big fuss and the bride returned to her parents' home after the ceremony. The groom angrily filed a lawsuit in the city court and was granted divorce. This shows that marriage customs are not a trivial matter.
Select a wedding date. Also known as announcing the day, choosing auspiciousness, passing the big book, etc. The wedding date is agreed upon in advance, and a fortune teller is asked to choose an auspicious date and write it on red paper. The man prepares gifts and asks a matchmaker to accompany them to the woman's home.