The wedding etiquette in Chaoshan area is 1 1, which is also called marriage proposal. That is, the matchmaker proposes to the man, or the matchmaker introduces the woman to the man first, and then proposes to the woman after the man approves.
Get married. Here are two links. After both parties agree to get married, the matchmaker will send the woman's name, birthday, place of origin and ancestors as a Geng sticker to the man. If nothing unexpected or unlucky happens in the man's house within three days, such as throwing bowls and basins, it is called "three days is good" With this good sign, the man agreed to exchange posts with Geng. After changing the Geng post, please ask someone to divine and get married to confirm whether men and women are born together or together.
2. Enter the engagement stage after marriage, that is, the man prepares the bride price and the woman decides the marriage. Gifts are usually a pair of gold earrings or a gold ring, as well as a gold necklace, sugar and noodles, which are all symbols of engagement. When the woman is engaged, she should give candy and cakes to her relatives and neighbors, inform them of their engagement, and then engage in bride price.
3. Employment, also known as employment dispatch. In the past, the bride price of rich people was gold and silver, colored satin, pig and sheep wine and fruit; The poor are betel nuts and chicken wine. Chaozhou people regards betel nut as an auspicious symbol and a distinctive employment gift. Modern bride price includes physical objects and cash. There must be more than four items: sugar, noodles, Daji (Chaozhou orange), gold and silver jewelry, cloth, cakes and so on. , but they must not be odd numbers, but even numbers. Cash, also called bride price money, is divided into one, two and four, but they are all multiples. During the engagement, the woman should return the cake and food in the engagement, and give back "mandarin ducks and bananas", oranges, pig hearts and so on. Yuanyang and banana are two bananas that coexist, symbolizing a hundred years old; The orange homonym "Ji" symbolizes good luck; The pig's heart (half left in the woman's body) symbolizes concentricity. At this time, the two sides will also solemnly distribute cakes and food from each other's gifts to relatives and neighbors to report the wedding. Friends and neighbors should also congratulate them in return. Invitation date, after the engagement ceremony, choose the date of marriage and tell the woman, including telling her when to cut the wedding dress, when to "pull a face", when to take a shower and when to get married. Most of the invitations are invited in the dark, and the hipster custom still retains the wedding custom of welcoming the bride in the dark, which is really an ancient heritage.
The wedding ceremony is the ceremony for the groom to go to the woman's house to marry the bride, and it is also the most important procedure in the wedding. There are two kinds of wedding banquets: one is the groom's wedding banquet, and the other is that the man invites a "lucky man" to meet him. At this time, the bride often burst into tears, which is called "crying marriage". On the one hand, I cry for being away from my parents. On the other hand, it is said that only tears can make my parents rich.
5. When the sedan chair comes to her husband's door, he will set off firecrackers to welcome her. The groom kicked off the sedan chair, rolled up the curtain, pulled off the wishful thinking on the bride's head and put on airs on her forehead. Kicking a sedan chair and tying a greeting message are intended to give the bride a fright: everything must be as her husband wishes in the future. This is a hint of husband's power. Then the bride stepped over a pile of burning "fire smoke" under the threshold with the help of the bridesmaid. After the bride entered the room, accompanied by the "mother-in-law" invited by her husband's family, she "married" the groom, entered the bridal chamber, and served tea to her elders and peers in the main room. At this time, the green mother will recite carols beside her. On the bride's wedding day, her family will give her husband lily soup. May the bride please everyone in her husband's family. The next day, I sent the bride a soup of fungus and pig heart, hoping that the bride would not forget her family and relatives. Only for the third time can I stay at my parents' house for a few days and talk about my feelings of missing my parents.
6. Girls here also have the custom of giving money to their sisters when they get married. The "sister money" is given by the groom who came to marry to the younger brothers and sisters who sent the bride on the road. Generally, 4 yuan's score is 4.8. Give your sister money to a man and a woman to show "good". 448 points, meaning "the world is good" and "the world is not divided (separated)". The groom should hold a solemn ceremony of "fixing the bed" when decorating the new house. When I was in bed, I asked the fortune teller to choose a date, and the orientation of the bed was also particular. When you are in bed, you should do "four sentences" for good luck. When the bride wears heavy makeup and gets on the sedan chair, the bride's family will pour a basin of water on the sedan chair and say, "When the water is poured on the sedan chair, the bride will become new." Send my best wishes to the married bride. However, of course, it is no longer a sedan chair, but bicycles or motorcycles and cars. In the past, the bride had to have two pairs of wooden shoes in her dowry, which not only facilitated her daily life, but also meant "growing old together" or "following suit". After the bride enters the door, she has to get up early to cook and cook a bowl of fragrant rice by herself. The old man, the old woman and her husband's brothers and sisters got up and invited them to taste some. It is said that this bowl of sweet rice, sugar should be brought from her family, and when cooking, you must mix your own saliva into the rice soup. Of course, saliva mixed with rice soup has to be made quietly, and people who eat it don't have to ask more. This custom means that the husband-in-law eats fragrant rice with the saliva of the bride, and the bride and the whole family can live in harmony.
7. Within three days of their wedding, the bride and in-laws should avoid meeting. On the fourth morning, the bride will go to the public well where her new home is located to fetch water. Before pumping water, put a handful of brown sugar and soil brought by her family into the well. This is to make the bride not "acclimatized" and live in harmony with her neighbors. Making trouble in the bridal chamber: a folk activity that has arisen in recent years is to worship the god of wealth at midnight. No matter where, the climax of the wedding is "holding a wedding". The same is true of Chaoshan. The sachet was embroidered by the bride in the boudoir before marriage. People should judge the bride's dexterity, clumsiness, diligence and laziness from the skill and quantity of these embroidery crafts.
8. If you want to see the bride's face, you must say "four words" of good luck before the bride will put down the fan that covers her face. There are also some humorous hooligans who use the method of first restraining and then promoting, or first restraining and then promoting, so that a bride does not know how to answer. In the past, there were many special wedding customs in Chaoshan area. With the progress of society, some of these marriage customs have been eliminated, and some still have names, but their forms have completely changed.
Finger marriage (also known as early marriage): an old friend or close relative, a man and a woman, two pregnant babies are designated by both parents as future husband and wife, which is called finger marriage. When both men and women grow up, whether they like it or not, their parents choose a day to get married. This is called "changing rooms"
Wedding Customs and Etiquette in Chaoshan Area 2 Although the wedding customs of Chaoshan people vary from place to place, the relatively consistent forms and ceremonies are: marriage proposal, engagement, hiring people, inviting guests and welcoming relatives, commonly known as "six rituals". It is also summarized as "four rituals": writing, inviting, sending, hiring and marrying.
Begging the media to propose marriage.
Proposal, marriage and engagement are the "Wen Ding" of the four rites. First, the matchmaker goes to the man's and the woman's house to propose marriage. After obtaining the consent of the woman's family, the matchmaker will go to the woman's family to ask her name, date of birth, place of origin and three generations of ancestors, and write a wedding letter and send it to the man. If nothing unlucky happens in the man's house within three days (commonly known as "three-day shun"), it will be convenient for the man to hand over his letter of appointment to the woman, and both sides can divine the marriage (commonly known as the time). Engagement, also known as betrothal, betrothal and fixed food, is a gift prepared by the man and an engagement at the woman's house. Gifts are usually a pair of gold earrings or a gold ring, as well as cakes, sweets, sugar and noodles, and the woman must return them. When engaged, the man will go to the woman's house to "eat", usually eating sweet eggs or sweet noodles (if there are four sweet eggs, only two can be eaten; If there are two, you can only eat one, and the other should be split in two with chopsticks. Both men and women should send cakes and sweet noodle soup (mostly noodles and sugar now) to relatives, friends and neighbors, and report that the marriage has been decided.
Choose your own luck and arrange your dowry.
"betrothal", also known as "betrothal", is a relatively grand etiquette, and there are strict regulations on the types of marriage documents and bride price. Before the Qing Dynasty and the early Republic of China, rich people sent gold and silver colored satin, as well as pigs, sheep and wine. In addition to chicken wine, poor families also send betel nuts; Most places will also send pork, commonly known as "washing excrement meat", to show their gratitude to the woman's parents. In the 1960s and 1970s, besides gold and silver, radios (televisions), bicycles, sewing machines and watches were also given. At present, most of them are paid employment After receiving the betrothal gift from the man, the woman was rehired and given some gifts, mainly including: mandarin duck and banana (double-win banana, indicating the close relationship between husband and wife), pig liver and pig heart (indicating the harmony between liver and gallbladder) and a male and a hen (symbolizing the harmony between mandarin duck and hen). When the woman is re-employed, she should also consider the elderly in the man's class. If her mother (grandmother) is in class, give her a "mother cake"; Father-in-law is in the hall, giving "husband cake". Before sending the pig heart to the man's house, the woman's house must cut a piece, cook it with sugar and onions, and eat it with the woman; After the man's family receives the pig's heart and liver from the woman, it should also be cooked with sugar and onions and eaten with family and relatives, which means "men and women are one."
Invitation is also called "choosing a date", "sending an appointment" and "keeping an appointment". After the appointment, the man chooses the auspicious day of the wedding, including cutting the wedding dress, "holding the face" and taking a bath, determining the time and hour of the wedding and informing the woman. At this time, relatives and friends of both men and women should give gifts. The gift for the woman is called "sending pollen". In addition to preparing the dowry, the woman should also prepare special items to carry when she gets married, mainly including: First, five pairs of "sedan chair shoes", one pair in spring, summer, autumn and winter, and one pair of water shoes, indicating that the husband and wife share joys and sorrows and will go well in the future; Second, black silk and white silk are juxtaposed, which means that after marriage, you will have a son early, and the husband and wife will grow old together; The third is a bowl of dried longan with orange cake (commonly known as "in-laws' bowl"), which is used to worship "flower parents" when they are newly married, symbolizing the sweetness of life, and "Guilin is full of grandchildren"; The fourth is powder and five-color silk thread. Before marriage, the woman should use silk thread to "pull her face", which means "opening the forehead" (starting to be sensible and managing the family), and also "pull her face" when she is married for four months, commonly known as "pulling her job". The silk thread used in "Holding Face" should be hung on pomegranate flowers; Fifth, five-color seeds such as red shell, wine cake, mung bean, early millet, sesame and so on. , which means "the five sons are admitted to the branch", and the fortune is prosperous; Six, "Yuanyang belly bag" (also known as "purse" and "waist bag") is used to hold five-color seeds, newly cut "Yuanyang grass" (two coarse grasses) and a pair of "ruyi", which means that married couples are in pairs and are lucky. Seventh, the handkerchief is twisted with brown sugar. The bride should twist a handkerchief wrapped in brown sugar in her hand at the beginning of her wedding. When you arrive at your husband's house, before you build a well, you should pour brown sugar into the well to express the bride's wish of "closing the door and caring for others". Eight are "flower heads", fans (homophonic "send children") and so on. In the old society, wealthy families married women, in addition to dowry and the above-mentioned special items, they also married fields and even longevity boards (coffins); Now he marries an electric appliance, a motorcycle or a car.
The ceremony to marry the bride was grand.
The last ceremony is the "wedding", that is, the man goes to the woman's house to marry the bride. There are two forms of wedding reception: first, the groom comes to pick up the bride; One is to send a "lucky dog" to pick up the bride. The groom waits for relatives at home, and the bride is accompanied by a bridesmaid. There are many procedures and grand ceremonies to greet the bride. The bride should "eat five bowls of bread" at home and after her in-laws' home, and give her brothers and sisters a "penny rice" and a "sister table" before going out. Before the bride gets on the sedan chair, the family should carry a basin of clear water and sprinkle it gently on the sedan chair. Others carry a small bucket of clear water and spray the sedan chair and sedan chair with safflower (pomegranate flower) dipped in clear water.