The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a difficult problem that cannot be improved. Many mothers-in-law don't like their daughters-in-law, and many daughter-in-laws don't like their mothers-in-law either. They can't tell what is right and what is wrong.
I have been married for 15 years and have a good personality. I don't like to quarrel with others. So I was bullied by my mother-in-law for 15 years, and I discovered 5 characteristics of an "evil mother-in-law". If I meet her, it’s better to stay away as soon as possible to avoid being treated unfairly like me! 1. Being foreign to you Generally speaking, after you marry into your husband’s family, you become a member of your husband’s family. How do families meet outside?
Therefore, if you enter your husband's family and they still treat you as an outsider, and if they are very strange to you, it means that your mother-in-law does not sincerely accept you and does not treat you as a member of their family. Naturally, she will not accept you. Be good to you. 2. Whatever you do is wrong. Many newborn daughters-in-law want to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so they try their best to coax and please her mother-in-law, just to leave a good impression on her. Regardless of the size of the family affairs or the dirty work, we have to do it quickly so that the mother-in-law can enjoy it comfortably.
Some mothers-in-law just avoid their daughters-in-law and do not do this. They feel that their daughters-in-law are taking credit from her and are helping themselves to do evil, and they are despised by their daughters-in-law. Many people of the older generation live a hard life and are used to working, which makes things complicated. ) 3. Praise other people’s daughters-in-law. Some mothers-in-law have low emotional intelligence and don’t care what their daughter-in-law thinks. They will directly express their dislike for her. For example, praising someone else's wife in front of others or mocking one's own wife is particularly hurtful.
So, if you find that your mother-in-law praises other people's wives in front of you, you will feel that you are not good enough in some aspects to satisfy her; secondly, I don't like you. As for why I don't like you, I can only study it myself. 4. Don’t look down on your son being nice to you. Every mother is nice to her children. There is no doubt about this at this time. But some mothers go too far.
Apparently his son married a daughter-in-law and started a new family. In the eyes of the mother-in-law, her son is always hers and must be the closest to her. Her wife is just like a third party, very unhappy.
They always feel that the children they have worked so hard to raise have been robbed, and they feel miserable, unwilling, and even jealous. Then he started targeting his wife.
Such a mother-in-law never thinks about herself. It is not she herself who can accompany her son until he grows old, but her daughter-in-law. She will spend longer time with her son than with him. 5. Complain to your son. Men earn money to support the family, while women share their children with their husbands! This is a very common marriage phenomenon. Men want a better family, better conditions, and work hard outside. My wife and mother usually take care of family affairs at home.
It is precisely because of the long time together that conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will gradually appear and deepen.
Some mothers-in-law are unreasonable and scheming. When their sons come back from get off work, they complain quietly and realize that they have been bullied. A tired son who hears his mother's complaints again one day later can easily lose control and even accidentally blame his wife, causing the relationship between the couple to break down.
This kind of mother-in-law who will complain to her son and sow discord between her son and daughter-in-law is the most unbearable. There are also many families that are separated by their wives for this reason.