"The laziness of a scholar can still be said. The laziness of a woman cannot be said" comes from "The Book of Songs? Meng",
We can understand this sentence like this:
If a pair of lovers fall in love together and are addicted to love, then the man can quickly get out of the quagmire of Love Island, but if the woman falls into the quagmire of Love Island, she will not be able to get out of it. Get out.
I learned this poem when I was a sophomore in high school, and it still impresses me. Or it was the "sensitive" love that appeared in my student days in the boring high school textbooks, or it was the mental impact that the heroine in the story who dared to love and hate brought to me. In short, I was very impressed with that class. The impression of the class is still very deep.
Next, I would like to talk about my views on this poem.
Storyline
First of all, if we only look at the beginning of the poem, we will feel that this is a sweet love story.
The rogue Chi Chi holds cloth and silk. The bandits come to trade silk, and when they come, I plan to send their son Sheqi to Dunqiu.
The lively and lovely heroine, the honest and honest male protagonist, they like each other. We are looking forward to it and discussing when we can get married.
The gangster is my fault, and I am an unscrupulous matchmaker. The general will not be angry, but the autumn will last
However, it can be seen from this paragraph that there is a problem in this relationship. When the heroine and the hero were discussing getting married, there was a conflict. The heroine said to him "It's not that I want to delay the marriage, but you didn't ask a matchmaker to propose marriage." From here we can see that the male protagonist's family is relatively poor, and he has no money to hire a matchmaker to propose marriage. But the male protagonist not only did not feel guilty because of this incident, but instead became angry. "A general is not angry, but autumn is the future." At this time, the female protagonist compromised. She said to the male protagonist, "Don't be angry, let's get married in autumn!" ”
In this paragraph, we can see the signs that “it is possible to say that a scholar is lazy, but that a woman is lazy cannot be explained.”
Ride on that wall to hope that the pass will be restored. Not seeing the return pass, I burst into tears. Seeing the return pass, I laughed and talked. Erbu Erzhen, the body has no blame words. Come with your car and move with my bribe.
In this section, the heroine is addicted to her love. She will be very happy when she sees the hero coming, but she will not be happy if she does not see him. Later, they found out through divination that two people could be together, and finally the heroine married him with her own dowry.
If the story ends here, then maybe it is a sweet love story, and they have a happy ending, but this is not the end, but the beginning.
The mulberry trees have fallen, and they have turned yellow and fallen. Self-imposed, poor at the age of three. The water in Qishui is flowing, and the curtains and clothes are gradually falling. Women are also unhappy, and scholars behave differently. Scholars are also extremely ignorant, but only have two or three virtues. She was a wife at the age of three, and she had to work hard at home. Working hard and sleeping late at night, there is always a day of dynasty, and once the words are fulfilled, they become violent. My brother didn't know, so he laughed. Think about it quietly and bow to yourself in mourning.
In this poem, we can see that the heroine actually lived a very unhappy life after marrying her sweetheart. It seems that her sweetheart changed after they got married. After getting married, his sweetheart changed her mind and no longer loved him, and would even beat her.
In fact, such things exist both in ancient times and modern times. Before getting married, they were good at pretending, but after getting married, they changed their appearance. Faced with such a change, many women may choose to compromise, tolerate, and submit.
But the heroine of this story did not compromise or give in.
As we grow old together, old age makes me resentful. Qi has a bank, and Xi has a bank. At the banquet of the general manager, he talked and laughed, and made vows without thinking about the opposite. On the contrary, if you don’t think about it, that’s enough!
We can see from this passage that the heroine was actually reflecting. When she found out that her sweetheart was no longer good to her after getting married, he began to reflect on the relationship, and finally she decided to stop Hand in hand with him till old age.
When I was studying this text, I once thought about this question, why should I learn this poem in high school textbooks? It wasn't until I grew up that I gradually understood the good intentions of the people who wrote the textbooks.
Although we are in school when we are seventeen or eighteen years old, because our minds are wandering between maturity and immaturity, we may not have a good understanding of love, and we may also be easily stunned by temporary love. Blinded. After we learn this poem, we can understand our truth about love from the story in this poem.
First, be careful with a man’s sweet words.
In this article, in fact, the heroine became addicted to his sweetheart because she listened to his sweet words, and she even married him with her own dowry without a matchmaker. In today's terms, it is the love brain.
Secondly, when it comes to love, don’t love too much
“It’s okay to say that a man is too lazy, but that a woman is too lazy can’t be explained.” Throughout the ages, it seems that this has always been the case. Women are always more likely to be addicted to love than men. In fact, women are too emotional, and they will love to the fullest, as if there is only love in the world and nothing else. Therefore, Even if we have love, we must leave some space for ourselves. Don't love others too much, but know how to love yourself.
Third, you must know how to stop losses in time.
In this poem, what I admire most is the heroine’s character of daring to love and hate. When I love you, I can marry you regardless of anything. When I find out that you are not good to me, I can also leave you regardless of anything. It’s hard to imagine that this was the behavior of an ancient woman, because many people now can’t do it and can only indulge in the quagmire of Love Island. This story tells us that in love, we must stop losses in time and dare to love and hate.
Finally, I hope that all girls can be in love, dare to love and dare to escape, and no longer be bound by men. I hope that everyone can find their beloved.