"I'm tired of being so busy every day and my salary is still so low."
"What bad luck! It's raining so hard that I don't have an umbrella. "
"Why does everyone else live so well? My life is a mess. "
Are these negative energy words familiar?
Many mothers are particularly sensitive to the disappointments in life and will unconsciously express them in words.
How difficult it is to make money, how tired it is to work, and how hard it is to live, people feel full of negative energy.
Dr. Hong Lan's research shows that:
From the perspective of human evolution, women's emotional energy far exceeds that of men.
Mother is the soul of the family. Mom is happy and the whole family is happy. Mother is anxious, and the whole family is anxious.
Mothers play an important role in family education.
It can be said that the mother's mood will not only affect the children, but also determine the atmosphere of a family.
1. A mother with negative energy will make her child an emotional rescuer.
A girl told her personal growth experience: Dad has a bad habit of always smoking, drinking and playing cards and staying out at night. My mother takes care of the family's diet and daily life by herself. She is very tired and wronged, and her face is always sad. Mom and dad often quarrel, and mom always complains in tears in front of her, telling her how heartless and irresponsible dad is.
From the beginning of being sensible, she unconsciously acted as a "rescuer" of her mother's emotions: she worked hard, always ranked first in grade, and always behaved very diligently and sensibly at home, hoping to lighten her burden and make her happy.
But her own emotions and feelings are always suppressed and ignored. Under the long-term influence of her mother's negative energy, her personality is always full of faint sadness, sensitive and inferior, and she can't grow up healthily like other children.
Growing up in such an environment, children are prone to lack of security, self-confidence and dare not be themselves.
2. A mother with negative energy will make her children form negative thinking.
I have observed the common manifestations of a 7-year-old child's negative thinking: seeing that his writing is actually very good, he always says "my writing is not good", and no matter how encouraged, he repeatedly says "bad"; Not only do you not recognize yourself, but you also like to speak ill of others, criticize people and things and vent your dissatisfaction. It is also easy to lose your temper and sulk.
How far a child can go in the future depends more on his inner character than on his ability. Among them, a positive and optimistic attitude is a very important quality. Some children are very smart and capable, but when they encounter something, they will only see the negative side. When they encounter a little disappointment, they will easily give up and fear. Some children may have average qualifications, but they always think positively about problems and try to find solutions instead of feeling sorry for themselves. In the long run, life will be more successful.
3. Be an optimistic mother and give her children support and strength.
Every mother, while educating children and worrying about family chores, please don't forget to pay more attention to children's emotions and States, learn to pay more attention to the positive and happy side of life and discover the beauty of life; Use positive thinking when encountering problems, don't complain and vent your negative emotions in front of children, and put more energy into finding solutions to problems. When a child makes a mistake, objectively point out the cause of the mistake, don't magnify the mistake indefinitely, and don't rise to the problem of personality quality; When a child encounters setbacks, what he needs most is a positive and optimistic mother to support and help him, teach him to face negative emotions and guide him to develop a positive attitude; Be a mother with rich heart, optimistic attitude, bright eyes and loving heart, learn to appreciate and enjoy the beauty in life, and convey confidence, diligence and courage to children.