Everyone is familiar with him these days. The question is, what can we learn from the children of ordinary families? There really is. It's three o'clock.
The first is full of energy. Gu Ailing shared his secret weapon more than once, that is, sleeping for ten hours every day. Adequate sleep makes him energetic every day. His mother also said that her education for children is, first, sleeping, second, studying, and third, playing. Positive and rich emotions are the physiological basis that affects a person's motivation.
Second, respect interests. Many people may think that a child's success is due to his persistent efforts. In motivational psychology, besides insisting on arousing, that is, stimulating interest, is the first core. Gu Ailing liked skiing at first and showed amazing talent, but his mother agreed with him. As long as he didn't give up studying, would her mother fully support his hobby?
Respect children's choices, and children also abide by the agreement with their mothers. He even said that without skiing, learning would be boring. Gu Ailing looks forward to skiing every week. Because time is limited, she wants to do a lot of things, so she can only stay focused when doing anything, and then switch to the next link cleanly after finishing it efficiently. So ... Let children have the motivation to do one thing, not just insist, but first awaken and satisfy their own interests. This is also what his mother mentioned about respecting Irene and encouraging him to develop his interests and strengths. Can this inspire many parents who struggle with their children's weaknesses every day?
Then there is the actual sense of accomplishment. A child needs to have the opportunity to feel that he can do a good job, and he needs to experience the experience that he will fall but still get up, which will give them a sense of control.
Therefore, when a child fails, don't be busy comforting, hinting and helping him. But like Gu Ailing's mother, she accompanied him through the emotional trough and encouraged him to get up where he fell. The seemingly superficial success is actually a combination of educational wisdom, positive emotions, respect for emotional interests and a sense of accomplishment. No matter how different each child is, these are the psychological nutrition for their growth. You can do whatever you want.