1 Zhang Ailing said that life is a gorgeous robe full of lice. In fact, so is love.
Love is subtraction, you only see him, and he only sees you; However, life is addition, and you need to make an incision after the first meeting in life and keep digging behind each other.
So two people love each other, to some extent, is a kind of tolerance, not only love each other's advantages, but also love each other's shortcomings. She works, she worships money, she is exquisite, she has a big temper, he is other, he is stingy, he is sloppy and he smokes. You can't just see the scenery in your eyes, but also see the decline.
Love is often trivial, and millet and sesame seeds are scattered everywhere. Why do women get angry for no reason? It is in the details that the man didn't fall in love with her, forgot his birthday, forgot his gift and was late for the date. However, this person is also careless and doesn't pay much attention to details. He feels that there has been a substantial relationship, so they can treat each other wholeheartedly, without paying too much attention, forgetting the needle in the girl's heart and the cloud in the woman's heart. They used to belong to microscopes.
Many people are together, not because they don't love each other, but because of endless unbearable details, many a mickle makes a mickle, which devours the happiness and sweetness together, so that they can't love each other.
In Naked Marriage, Liu Yiyang, played by the article, said: Details triumph over love. I have nothing better than you except that I love you more than you love me. I just learned a truth today, what is nothing! ? What I hate most in love is that in the end, no matter how hard you try, you can't catch love. No matter how hard you draw your sword, you have no enemies. You will understand that you love something, but you have nothing to lose. You were defeated by yourself.
I am deeply touched by this. Once talked about a girlfriend in Shanghai? She doesn't necessarily think I'm her boyfriend. I graduated from drama major, and now I am an executive of SAIC. I am smart, capable and talented. To be honest, just like Tong, I have no better conditions than her. In life, she is a typical Shanghai style, exquisite, exquisite and exquisite. Eat and drink first, travel first, leisure first. For a Capricorn pig, I certainly can't do this. Although I have worked hard, it is still in vain in her eyes.
Later, after breaking up, I finally understood that it was not that she was critical of me, nor that I was hostile to her, but that her lifestyle was critical of me, and that her growing background was critical of mine. I can't blame her or me, but because the things behind each other are incompatible and inconsistent. Like Liu Yiyang, I was finally defeated by these details and fled.
One party is different in nature from the other. These things are hard to come out at first sight, even if they come out, they will turn a blind eye, but after the hormonal period, they will have an effect, from a battle to a battle, and finally form a war zone.
All encounters are accidental encounters, and all separations are prepared separations. From the moment you were together, all the deep-rooted things behind you gradually began to exert themselves, jumping out all the time, beating you to flee and be alone.
A friend of mine from Zhejiang went to work in Beijing and soon found a Beijing girl. Once they had dinner with some friends, and when it was time to pay the bill, the buddy suggested that everyone pay the bill themselves, because that's what eating in Zhejiang is like: eat together, share equally and go Dutch. At that time, the girl really froze, gouged out her boyfriend's eyes, and paid the bill herself in the embarrassed eyes of all her friends. Not long after, I heard that they broke up.
It is not necessarily said that the bill paid led to their breakup, but I think it at least reflects some problems, if not explosives, at least it is the fuse. And in essence, it is not a question of how to pay the bill, but reveals the different regional personalities of Beijing School and Shanghai School. It is estimated that Zhejiang boys have no room to talk anyway!
Although I said? Loving women and loving women are not the same thing? But that's for women. It is to let women understand the difference between love and love, and distinguish what is true love and what is technical love.
For men, it is not enough to love women, but also to learn to love women, especially when there is no rigid advantage, no talent, no money, no appearance, no heart, no technology, so many men, why did she choose you? So love is a technical activity, not just passion.
The murder of love is not whether you love her or not, but whether you love her or not. Many men, after getting a woman, put it on the shelf. The longer they love each other, the less details they have. A woman is a meticulous animal. She would rather be embraced by details, looking for stability and security in details, decomposing an eye into many factors and extracting countless elements from a gift. It's natural.
At the time of hormonal climax, love is an ideal country, metaphysical. As long as there is moon, sunset and starlight, dust like hemp can be abandoned and ignored. But after the hormone ebbed, life became a secular country, and it was physical, and eating and drinking Lazarus came.
At the beginning of love, we made a top-level design and chose a high commanding height. But as everyone knows, almost all love begins to fester from the base and details. An inconsistency, a bump in the wall everywhere, a little inconsistency in interests or subtle similarities and differences can all start a prairie fire thousands of miles away, burning your patience, running-in and intersection, and finally sinking the sail.
Therefore, in today's love, women choose men in details. There are all kinds of standard chicken and dog pieces, such as horoscope, blood type, horoscope and habits, especially virgo girls, which are simply arrogant and have a perfectionist cleanliness. However, in the end, all the details are satisfied, and finally we will break up. Why?
I don't think women can talk about details, but they can't just talk about details, but also talk about direction. The direction should be thin but not thick, and the details should be thick but not thin. If the direction is right, you can ignore the details, but if the details are right, you must strictly control the direction. When choosing a man, the direction is decisive, but after choosing the right person, the details are decisive, and different stages should have different emphases, otherwise grabbing the beard and glaring will definitely kill love.
However, for men, women are, after all, detailed animals and are easy to associate with details. If you want to win a good woman, you must think carefully about the details. On the battlefield, a nail damaged a horseshoe, a horseshoe killed a general, and a general lost a war; In love, an expression breaks a face, a face disrupts the date, and the date loses a love.
In troubled times, details determine a war, prosperity, details determine a love.