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Sanmao once wrote: If a marriage does not fall into the real life of dressing, eating, counting money, and sleeping, it will not be easy to last forever. Yes, regarding marriage, it is easier said than done. People outside the besieged city look glamorous. Only those who are inside know how many trivial things and collisions of daily necessities and daily necessities are involved in the days in the besieged city. And most of these things are... It’s about money.
If you ask married people, most of them will tell you that poor and humble couples suffer from everything. Money can solve 90% of the problems in the world, and the remaining 10% cannot be solved. Can be relieved.
Does it sound a bit materialistic and utilitarian? But anyone who has been in a marriage will understand deeply that life is not a fairy tale, and it is not just about romance.
But, do we have to live for money, only seek profit, and throw away our bottom line as long as someone gives us money?
Of course not. I hope you won’t think about the problem in such an extreme way. I tell you that money is important. I hope you can be more rational when facing life and considering problems, and don’t have any unrealistic illusions. Rather than letting you chase material things and give up everything else.
If you are really too extreme, then you will be counterattacked by material things and lose the happiness that should belong to you. When the time comes, you will only regret it.
Just like many couples who break up because of money when they are talking about marriage. They are originally in a good relationship and are still close to getting the final happiness, but because of money, they worry about it. In the end, the relationship is in crisis.
You have to know that when those eternal oaths collapse, all it may take is a gentle push, and the cold test of material may just be the hand of evil.
So, when facing these problems, I hope you can be rational, but also cautious, just act within your ability, don’t covet what should not be yours, consider the other party’s situation more, and don’t Push people to the edge.
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Of course, some people must say that these things before marriage are all tests. If you are not willing to pay at this time, it is better not to get married.
You are right. For some marriages that have their own problems, if they end due to these conflicts before marriage, I think there is nothing to regret. But if the relationship was originally good, it will end because of this. I think it is really heartbreaking and regrettable that some problems that are dispensable and can be solved properly lead to parting ways.
So, when you are talking about marriage, you can put forward any conditions, and there is nothing wrong with whatever bonus you want. Just don’t go too far and don’t let some small things ruin your marriage. Don't kill the happiness that should belong to you with your own hands.
A good life requires two people to work together to create it. There will be a long time to come, so please think twice if you are not in a hurry.
Never be like the heroine of today’s article who was rejected by the groom on the wedding day. Many people may not understand why the usually gentle groom suddenly got angry on the wedding day, but after hearing what the bride did, you will understand.
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The groom, Mr. Guo, is 29 years old this year. His family is very ordinary, his parents are both working class, and although his own income is not too high, it is still very stable.
Mr. Guo has a gentle personality, but because of his introversion, he has not had a girlfriend in the past few years. More than a year ago, I met Ms. Yu through the introduction of relatives. She has a sweet appearance. Although her family conditions are average, her cheerful personality is very lovable.
Two people with completely different personalities hit it off immediately and felt that each other was the right person. They soon became lovers. During the more than half a year of their relationship, they have been very harmonious.
Seeing that Mr. Guo is about to turn thirty and Miss Yu has passed the marriageable age, the family is anxious to get them married. The two felt that their relationship was so good and almost complete, so they readily agreed and put the marriage on the agenda.
Mr. Guo’s parents’ salary is not high, but they have worked hard to save some money over the years, paid a down payment, and bought a house for the young couple. Ms. Yu's family proposed that the young couple would repay the loan together in the future, and the house should have two people's names on it. Mr. Guo's family is very reasonable and they think it's okay. They are going to be a family anyway and will live together for the rest of their lives. How can they live together without this little bit of trust?
With this guarantee, Miss Yu was very happy, but then they asked for 88,000 yuan in gift money. For Mr. Guo's family, all the money is planned and used. After buying the house, it will be enough to renovate the house, hold banquets, buy three gold coins, etc. According to the custom around him, the betrothal gift is 20,000 to 30,000 yuan. , this time there are so many, but it puts the family in a dilemma.
However, Miss Yu’s family refused to say anything, saying that the eighty-eight thousand was a calculated number, and it was the best match for Miss Yu’s horoscope, so it must not be less. Mr. Guo found Miss Yu and asked her to help and beg for mercy, but Miss Yu said: "This little money is really nothing. I am the only daughter of my parents. They will definitely spend it on me in the future. You are not married yet." If I refuse, they will definitely feel that you don't value me, and this marriage may not work out.
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After listening to her words, Mr. Guo had no choice but to go to relatives and friends to borrow money. Finally, the bride price was given, and preparations for the wedding were in full swing.
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On the day of the wedding, Mr. Guo took a motorcade to welcome the bride. When he arrived at Miss Yu’s house, he blocked the door and passed the customs one by one. Although he asked for a lot of red envelopes, fortunately, Mr. Guo was prepared in advance.
After the bride and groom finished their ceremony, Mr. Guo was about to carry the bride out. A woman came out of the bride’s house and stopped the wedding procession and said, “Hey, hey, don’t be anxious, our family has rules, you guys are getting married. , the younger brothers and sisters have to change their name to brother-in-law, and they have to pay money for the change. ”
Mr. Guo was confused. He had only heard that the bride and groom had to pay for the change of marriage, but he had never heard that the younger brothers and sisters in the family also had to pay. And isn’t Miss Yu an only child? When did she have younger brothers and sisters? ?
Just as I was thinking about it, I saw several children coming out of Hula La, standing in a row. They said they were all the children of Miss Yu’s relatives. They called her cousin. Mr. Guo didn’t. I had seen something like this before, but I didn’t dare to neglect it. I quickly took out all the red envelopes I had and gave one to each child.
I thought this formality would be over, but who knew that the children were on the spot. When I opened the red envelope and found that it was all worth ten or twenty yuan, the woman immediately quit and said that there was no such thing, and each child must be given six hundred and sixty-six dollars.
My mother's family members all paid. Echoing, Mr. Guo and the people who are welcoming the bride are extremely embarrassed. However, after going through so much hard work to get to this point, there is no way to get stuck here. Mr. Guo has no choice but to start pooling money with the people who are welcoming the bride. But who would carry such money with them when they get married. After spending a lot of money, everyone finally managed to collect the few thousand yuan.
In this way, Mr. Guo finally married the bride, and he thought everything would go smoothly. , but I didn’t expect that there was something wrong with Miss Yu’s family.
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Originally, the convoy coming from the groom’s family was well arranged, but when it was time to get on the bus, all of a sudden. There was chaos. Except for the groom and the bride, three more children squeezed into the wedding car. No one else could get in.
Mr. Guo was very surprised, but looking at Miss Yu, she didn't seem to be surprised at all. Not wanting to cause trouble, he arranged for the convoy to leave quickly. When they arrived at Mr. Guo’s house, the groom got out of the car first, but the three children blocked the bride and refused to get out.
They said, “Brother-in-law, We are the bearers on the sedan chair today. You have to give us a red envelope, a big red envelope of 6,600 yuan, before we can come down. Otherwise, we will take your sister home and you will not have a bride. ”
This made Mr. Guo feel embarrassed again. He had heard of sedan bearers, but he had never heard of three sedan bearers being arranged. Moreover, the sedan bearers were a good bonus, including red envelopes. The husband's family gave it according to their own opinions, and I never heard that they had to specify the amount.
The groom's family members were standing outside the car, but the bride and her three children just refused to get out of the car. Hello, Mr. Guo. He persuaded me with words: “Dear, can you come down first? You didn't tell me beforehand that I wanted the money, and now you're telling me where I can get the money. There are so many people watching, let’s not keep everyone waiting. I owe this money first, and I will make up for it later, okay? "
The groom begged the bride to get out of the car in such a condescending manner. Everyone said that they had not seen each other for a long time, but even so, Miss Yu still refused to get off. She said: "No, this is our family rule. It means everything goes well and it is unlucky not to give it. Go home and get it. It's less than 20,000 yuan, so it's impossible for your family to be without it. ”
Hearing this, Mr. Guo’s mother turned around and wanted to go back to get the money, but Mr. Guo grabbed her mother. At this moment, he really couldn’t bear it anymore. He went to the woman’s house to arrange for the children They have to pay for the change of mouth, and now they have arranged for the children to pay for getting off the bus. Miss Yu's family has not considered the feelings of herself and her family at all, deliberately making things difficult and embarrassing everyone. She has tolerated it in every possible way, but it still doesn't work. If she continues If you compromise, you won't be happy even if you get married in the future.
He said to Miss Yu in the car: "I feel that everything is not going well today, so there is no need for everything to go well. I've always respected you and your family, but you haven't respected me and my family at all. I think it's better not to get married. You should go back with your family now, and we will go through the formalities later. ”
After saying that, they closed the car door with a bang and asked the driver to take them back. Although everyone looked at each other, they also understood Mr. Guo’s mood at the moment and drove away very cooperatively.< /p>
Miss Yu in the car could not calm down for a long time. She did not believe that her husband, who had always doted on her, would return the goods on her wedding day. This was a great shame for her. At this moment, she realized that she was wrong, but it was too late. She and her family ruined their happiness with their own greed.
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Afterwards, Miss Yu felt so sad. She found Mr. Guo for the first time and said that she was wrong and wanted nothing more. She just wanted to live a good life with him. However, Mr. Guo no longer had any feelings for her. He said that from the betrothal gift, to the change fee, to the exit fee, he had lost everything. Miss Yu was given opportunities again and again, but she kept trampling on his bottom line. This made him understand the truth that when facing someone who doesn't love you, even if you lower yourself to the dust, her heart will not I feel a little pity for you.
Mr. Guo said that there is no possibility for him and Miss Yu anymore, and he hoped that she would return the bride price as soon as possible and complete the procedures for de-naming the house. From now on, they would be safe and sound.
Isn’t it a bit embarrassing that such a pair of beautiful people in the eyes of everyone have become passers-by. They once loved each other but now they hate them?
I really feel sorry for Mr. Guo. After all, he and his family have sacrificed so much. They just want to find a good girl to live a down-to-earth life. But meeting such a family is really good luck. Unfortunately, I am very helpless.
As for Miss Yu, she and her family are really a model of insatiable greed. I find it incredible to ask several children for the change of confession fee, and even arrange for several children to ask for the exit fee. He really does everything he can to make money. They bet on their marriage and happiness, making sure that the other party will not fall out and will respond to every request. In the end, they slap themselves in the face and ruin their own happiness. It is really ironic.
I felt quite happy to finally see them get their comeuppance. Such unhealthy trends cannot be condoned and should be suppressed. They must be made aware that no matter how kind-hearted people are, they have their bottom line. .
Of course, some people may say that Miss Yu’s family really just wants a good fortune and a good meaning of success. But dear, if you really just want a good fortune, six dollars and six and sixty-six are all meanings, why does it have to be six thousand and six? I feel that this is no longer a problem of money itself, but that this family has evil intentions and only cares about immediate interests without considering the feelings of others.
I support Mr. Guo’s decision. It’s better to draw a clear line with such a family as soon as possible. Otherwise, there will be countless such little things to deal with in this life. No matter how hard he tries, he can’t cover it up. They are mercenary.
Finally, I would like to remind people who are preparing to make all kinds of excessive demands when discussing marriage that marriage is not a child's play. Don't try to test the other party's bottom line with the mentality of a gambler, let alone use Your greed hurts the sincerity of the other party. Some conflicts cannot be eliminated after they arise. At least it will be painful for the rest of your life, or at worst you will regret the marriage on the spot and be unable to stand down. No matter which one it is, you have lost your dignity. Your character, and your happiness.
Happiness is hard to come by, and marriage is even harder, so do it and cherish it.