There is a saying that two people should go together before they get married, and then they will know if it is suitable.
Traveling abroad is different from simply going to the streets at ordinary times, so traveling can test whether two people are suitable.
However, I think it is not enough to rely solely on tourist inspection. There is a difference between traveling and staying at home.
To test whether two people are suitable for marriage, they need to live together in addition to traveling.
If you look at the date carefully, you can't go to his house.
When two people get married, they want to form a family and live together. Cohabitation before marriage can be said to have experienced this kind of marriage life in advance.
If there are contradictions that cannot be solved during cohabitation, it is even more impossible to solve them after marriage.
Ancient marriage paid attention to parents' orders and matchmakers' words. Usually the matchmaker comes to the door and introduces a girl/boy from a certain family.
If both parties are satisfied with the matchmaker's introduction and the eight characters match, they can finalize the engagement on auspicious day.
Before marriage, most of the husband and wife have never met, and even their parents-in-law may not have met their daughter-in-law and son-in-law in advance.
In other words, it is all because of the matchmaker's mouth. Even if the deceased was described by her as a living person and the man as a woman, the couple would not know each other before the bridal chamber.
When Li Cheng entered the bridal chamber and lifted the veil, he realized that he had been cheated, but it was too late.
Now we have more choices. Free choice of love object, find the next one if it is not suitable, premarital sex has become commonplace.
In that case, what reason is it not safe? Is there any reason to get married rashly?
The ancients could not choose, since they had a choice, why waste a unique opportunity!
Generally speaking, the decision to marry a person, if there is no accident, is probably not for divorce, they want to live together for a lifetime.
Even in modern times when divorce is easy, marriage is by no means a child's play, but it is responsible for oneself, the other party and even two families.
In order to avoid some unnecessary contradictions after marriage, it is necessary to live together for a period of time before marriage.
A person can present two completely different States when he goes out and at home, so even if he goes out a hundred times, you may not be able to guess what kind of image he is at home.
There must be contradictions between people. Marriage between two people means getting along day and night, and the contradiction is even magnified.
Contradictions cannot be eliminated, so we can only seek expedient measures. If you can't find it, those two people obviously can't live together.
Everyone has shortcomings and certain living habits. If the other person's shortcomings and living habits are unacceptable to you, then you can't live together.
In order to reduce the occurrence of this situation and the probability of divorce, it seems necessary to live together before marriage.
You can get to know each other more comprehensively and make the next decision better.
Some people refuse to live together on the grounds that there will be contradictions. I don't think the contradiction is caused by cohabitation, but it already exists. If it doesn't happen during cohabitation, it will break out after marriage.
Stop loss in time if you find it inappropriate before marriage, or end up in divorce after marriage, which is more important?
Some people think that cohabitation before marriage is irresponsible. After all, there is no marriage certificate and it has no legal effect.
To put it another way, cohabitation before marriage can also be said to be an act of being responsible for yourself and the other party. Isn't the tacit rule of free love that together is not together?
Isn't it better to live together for a period of time and test whether they can get along well and whether they have the conditions to get married than to find out that they have unresolved contradictions in their living habits after several years of love and marriage?
Marriage consumes manpower, material resources and financial resources. Isn't it possible to save these resources by finding out the unsuitable ones in advance? There is no need to waste time and feelings.