What's the difference between bride price and dowry?
1, bride price
In China's traditional wedding customs, there is a classic saying called Six Gifts, which refers to the six links in the wedding customs, namely, "receiving gifts, asking names, receiving gifts, inviting guests and welcoming relatives". The bride price we often talk about now is actually the six gifts derived from marriage customs. The traditional ceremony is that both men and women have a good impression on each other. Through the divination of birthdates and other information, the two sides have reached a relatively certain understanding of the engagement. At this time, the man can take the bride price items to the woman's house to give gifts. To put it simply, when you two are ready to get married, the gift that the man personally gave to the woman before the formal wedding ceremony is the bride price. There used to be many kinds of bride price, such as gold coins, clothes, jewelry, furniture or wedding cakes. But now the form of bride price is relatively fixed, generally choose from gold coins, houses and cars. Conditional families will also add some small items such as furniture.
2. Dowry
Dowry, as well as dowry, makeup, dowry and other names. Dowry refers to something that a woman's parents prepare for her daughter when her children get married, which may be a house, a car, furniture, etc. The choice of dowry depends on different local customs, and there will be different stresses. There are two main reasons for the formation of dowry. The first reason is the woman's parents' subsidy for her daughter's new life. When children form a new family, at the beginning, there will definitely be times of financial stress. The dowry given by parents can be used as a daughter's household to help the new family get on the right track as soon as possible. In the past and now, dowry is often the woman's private property. In the past, if a woman's dowry was invaded, it was a very immoral thing. At present, dowry is the property purchased by women before marriage and is not regarded as the same property of husband and wife. If it is time for divorce, there will be many conditions for the return of the bride price, but the dowry belongs to the woman and the general court will support it.
What is the appropriate ratio of bride price and dowry?
This is a headache for many young people now. According to the time-honored tradition, dowry is richer than bride price. In the past, when a big family prepared a dowry for their daughter, they would start preparing it long in advance. When my daughter was born, she buried several jars of good wine in the pit. When your daughter gets married, I will share it with you, or give it to your daughter as a dowry. In fact, the emphasis on bride price and dowry is not very harsh now. If the bride price given by most men is gold coins, the gold coins in the dowry of the woman will not exceed the bride price. But besides gold coins, there will be other items with him. These things together, the total value is often similar to the bride price. Whether it is a bride price or a dowry, both men and women should do what they can. Don't pay exorbitant bride price, and don't force the woman to bring a high dowry. Bride price and dowry are only a courtesy in marriage customs, not a medium for comparison and show off.
How much is the normal dowry and bride price?
1. There is no unified answer so far. The amount of bride price and dowry is different in different regions and places. However, they all have similarities. Everyone should do what he can, not just look at money. Emotion is the most important thing. When getting married, the two families should discuss it well and force each other to get married reluctantly. How do two families get along and live a good life? So be sensible and know how to make concessions appropriately.
2. There is no specific standard for the ratio of dowry to bride price. If the woman has money at home, it is very likely that the bride price given by the man is nothing at all. Instead, the woman prepared a house and a car as a dowry. There is no uniform answer to many problems in the real world. As a person with relatively ordinary family conditions, if the man gives a bride price of 6,543,800 yuan, the woman will basically give a dowry of 6,543,800 yuan to 200,000 yuan. In a word, we should consider all aspects comprehensively. As for how much dowry to give, it is also the mind of the woman's parents. If some women's parents don't give it, in fact, the bride price given by the man is equivalent to repaying the parents for their years of parenting.
Although there is no specific ratio, I believe that both parents want their children to live very well after marriage, so it will still be beneficial to follow a certain ratio. It is very important to make the final choice according to the conditions of the other family. Don't ask for too much bride price and don't care too much about the bride's dowry. Although marriage requires a certain economic foundation, if you care too much about the economy, you may hurt your feelings. Therefore, we should take eternity as the principle and achieve relatively satisfactory results within the scope of economic conditions.
When will the bride price be given?
1, the day of proposal
Not every place has the saying of proposing marriage, but in general, before the newlyweds get married, men will formally visit the woman's house. Whether in name or not, men can choose this day as the day to send bride price. Marriage proposal is not as formal as engagement. You can give the woman a part of the bride price to show your attention, and then give her the rest of the bride price in front of all relatives on the day of formal engagement.
Step 2 get engaged
Engagement is more formal than engagement, so it is more appropriate to choose the date of engagement to give a bride price. On the engagement day, not only the woman's parents will be present, but also the man's parents and important relatives and friends will be present. At this time, giving the bride price to the woman can not only highlight the man's attention, but also make the man look more "arranged". It seems more joyful to add the ornament of bride price on festive days!
3. The day before the wedding
In some areas, there may be no mention of marriage or engagement, so the date of bride price can be set on the night before the wedding. However, the night before the wedding has some shortcomings, such as the hasty time and informality, and the hostess's family may be busy preparing for the wedding and have no more time and energy to concentrate on accepting the bride price. However, the day before the wedding also has its advantages. For example, the bride price can be placed directly in the hall of the woman's house. If guests come the next day, you can see the bride price, which shows the atmosphere of the wedding.