Newborn family is a family composed of husband and wife, excluding the parents of both husband and wife.
Every family has a systematic arrangement, and families can be divided into family of origin and newborn families. Family of origin and newborn family are a set of relative concepts.
Correctly measure the relationship between the family of birth and the new family.
When our family is still in family of origin, children should honor their parents, and parents should care about their children's lives. When we have a new family, the wife and husband should integrate into this new family. We should try our best to get rid of the dependence or influence on family of origin mentally and materially, pay attention to the integration of husband and wife in the new family, and pay more attention to the opinions of husband or wife in the new family.
The influence of family background on the relationship between husband and wife.
1. It is impossible for a person to have emotional needs from family experiences, such as from an insecure family, and want to find security in his spouse.
2. When we choose a spouse, we want what we didn't get in family of origin emotionally, such as parents' affirmation and the need to feel unique.
We are all burdened with these unfinished emotional burdens, hoping to be solved in a new marriage or family.
4. If we can't get the satisfaction from our families in family of origin, we will only care about what we want and have no ability to pay for choosing a spouse. Although this view is a bit pessimistic, if we are brave enough to face our own problems in Origin and Fate, we will have new motivation to love again.
5. The problems in the relationship are mostly due to the unsolved knot of family background, but more because of the lack of commitment, care and love. This view may contain understanding and hope. Of course, behind it is not to encourage you to blame the family, but to face up to the problems left by the family.