I don’t think having sex is a lack of self-love. After all, if you love someone, how could you refuse to give yourself up? Lack of self-love is not actually reflected in whether you have sex or not, but in whether you are responsible for your future and whether you love or cherish your body.
If you are not sure that this boy can give you happiness and can shoulder the responsibilities of marriage, then you just hand him over casually. This is a lack of self-love. Or you might think that if you play first, someone will take over when the time comes. This is not self-loving. Also, getting pregnant when the two of you are not even married is a lack of self-love.
Sexuality is a physiological need of human beings, and it can also serve certain psychological needs. In this open era, it is impossible to ban premarital sex. We don’t require girls to be as chaste as they are, but we just ask them to love themselves. Whether you give yourself to him because you love him, or you just think you can have fun first, please take safety measures and be sure to wear a condom.
This allows you to reduce the probability of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, reduce the damage caused by bacteria to the body, so that you do not have to have an abortion, keep your body in the best condition, and also allow your real husband to accept it with peace of mind. your past. To allow you to love yourself is not to limit your feelings and behaviors, but to hope that your feelings and behaviors can be balanced and appropriate, and that you are responsible for your future and your body.