With the development of the times, Chaoshan people's weddings have become more and more fashionable, and many young men and women have long since got rid of the marriage custom of "parents' orders and matchmakers' words". However, traditional weddings still exist. Propose marriage, also known as marriage proposal. That is, the matchmaker proposes marriage to the man, or the matchmaker introduces the woman's situation to the man first, and the man approves it before proposing marriage to the woman.
get married. There are two links here. After the two sides propose marriage for approval, the matchmaker writes the woman's name, birthdates, place of origin and ancestors into Geng stickers and sends them to the man. It is called "good for three days" if there are no unexpected and unlucky things in the man's house within three days, such as breaking bowls and pots. With this good sign, the man agreed to exchange Geng posts. After changing the Geng post, please ask someone to divine and get married, and confirm whether the men and women are born together or together. Engagement. After the marriage, it entered the betrothal stage, that is, the man prepared the gift and the woman made the engagement. Gifts are usually a pair of gold earrings or a gold ring, as well as gold necklaces, sugar and noodles, which are tokens of engagement. When the woman is engaged, she should distribute candy and cakes to her relatives and neighbors, inform them that the engagement has been made, and then engage in betrothal gifts. Hire, also known as send hire. In the past, the bride price of rich people was gold and silver, colored satin, pig and sheep wine and fruit; The poor are betel nuts and chicken wine. Chaozhou people regards betel nut as a symbol of good luck, and it is a very distinctive employment gift. Modern betrothal gifts include in-kind and cash. There must be more than four kinds of objects: white sugar, noodles, Daji (Chaozhou orange), gold and silver jewelry, cloth, cakes, etc., but they must not be odd, but must be even. Cash, also known as betrothal money, is divided into one, two and four, but all of them are multiples. In the engagement, the woman should return the gift, that is, return the cake and food in the engagement, and give back "Yuanyang banana", orange, pig heart and so on. Mandarin ducks and bananas are two bananas that coexist, symbolizing a hundred years of old age; The orange homonym "Ji" symbolizes good luck; The pig's heart (half left in the woman) symbolizes concentricity. At this time, the two sides will also solemnly distribute the cakes and food in each other's gifts to relatives and neighbors to report the wedding ceremony. Friends and neighbors should also return gifts to congratulate them. Invitation date, after the betrothal ceremony, we should choose the date of marriage and tell the woman, including telling her when to cut the wedding dress, when to "pull the face", when to bathe and when to get married. Most of the time invited by the invitation is in the dark, and the tide custom keeps the wedding custom of welcoming the bride in the dark, which is really an ancient legacy.
Wedding ceremony, which is the ceremony for the groom to marry the bride at the woman's house, is also the most important procedure in the wedding. There are two kinds of wedding reception: one is the groom's wedding reception, and the other is the man's invitation to a "lucky man" to greet him. At this time, the bride often burst into tears, which is called "crying marriage". On the one hand, I cry for leaving my parents far away. On the other hand, it is said that only tears can make my parents rich.
The sedan chair comes to the door of the husband's house, and the husband's house will set off firecrackers to welcome him. The groom kicked the sedan chair, rolled up the curtain, pulled off the wishful thinking on the bride's head and put on airs on the bride's forehead. Kicking the sedan chair and tying the best wishes is intended to give the bride a scare: everything must be as her husband wishes in the future. This is a hint of husband's power. Then the bride stepped over a pile of burning "fire smoke" under the threshold with the help of the bridesmaid. After the bride enters the house, accompanied by the "mother-in-law" invited by her husband's family, she will have a "marriage" with the groom, enter the bridal chamber, and go to the hall to serve tea to the elders and peers. At this time, the green mother should recite carols beside her. On the day of the bride's wedding, the bride's family will send her brother-in-law lily soup to the man. May the bride be agreeable to everyone in her husband's family. The next day, I will send the bride fungus pig heart soup, hoping that the bride will not forget her family and relatives. Only for the third time can I stay at my parents' home for a few days and pour out my feelings of missing my parents.
There is also the custom of giving "sister money" to girls here when they get married. "Sister money" is given by the groom who comes to marry to the younger siblings who send the bride on the road. Generally, it is 4.8 cents for 4 yuan. Give sister money to a pair of men and women, which means "good". 448 points, which means "the world is good" and "the world is not divided (separated)".
When decorating the new house, the groom should hold a solemn "bed-setting" ceremony. When I was in bed, I invited the fortune teller to choose a date, and the orientation of the bed was also particular. When you are in bed, you should do "four sentences" for good luck.
when the bride puts on the sedan chair with bright makeup, people in the bride's family will carry a basin of clear water and splash it on the sedan chair, saying, "When the bowl of water is poured on the sedan chair, the bride will become a new person." Send my best wishes to the married bride. However, of course, it is no longer the sedan chair that is spilled now, but bicycles or motorcycles and cars. In the past, the bride had to have two pairs of wooden shoes in her dowry, which not only facilitated her daily life, but also meant "to grow old together" or "to follow suit". After the bride goes through the door, she has to get up early every other morning to cook and cook a bowl of sweet rice herself. When the old man, the old woman and her husband's brothers and sisters get up, they are invited to taste a little. It is said that this bowl of sweet rice, sugar should be brought from the bride's family, and one mouthful of one's saliva must be mixed into the rice soup when cooking. Of course, saliva mixed with rice soup has to be done quietly, and people who eat it don't have to ask more. This custom means that the husband's family eats sweet rice containing the bride's saliva, and the bride and the whole family can get along well and live in harmony.
within three days of their wedding, the bride and in-laws should avoid meeting each other. The fourth day early in the morning, the bride will go to the public well where her new home is located to draw water. Before pumping water, put a handful of brown sugar and a handful of soil brought by her family into the well. This is to make the bride not "acclimatized" and live in harmony with her neighbors. In recent years, a folk activity that has arisen in the noisy bridal chamber is to worship the god of wealth at midnight. No matter where it is, the climax of the wedding is "making a wedding." The same is true of Chaoshan. The sachet was embroidered by the bride hiding in the boudoir before her marriage. People should judge the bride's dexterity, clumsiness, diligence and laziness from the skill and quantity of these embroidery crafts.
If you want to see the bride's face, you must say "four words" of good luck before the bride will put down the fan. There are also some humorous rowdies who use the method of suppressing before promoting or suppressing before promoting, leaving a bride at a loss as to how to answer. In the past, there were many special marriage customs in Chaoshan area. With the progress of society, some of these marriage customs have been eliminated, while others still have their names, but their forms have completely changed.
refers to marriage (also known as young marriage): old friends or close relatives, whose parents decide to designate two pregnant babies as future husband and wife if they are a man and a woman, which is called fingered marriage. When both men and women grow up, whether they like it or not, their parents choose a day to get married, which is called "changing houses"