? On the evening of February 9, 65438, Mr. Lin's long-awaited narrative journey began. Before listening to Mr. Lin's class, I found Mr. Lin's decoking course in Himalaya and listened to his related courses. He speaks with moderate speed, humorous language and very delicate explanation.
This course is mainly about narrative therapy. The first lecture is "narrative practice (narrative therapy) philosophy and therapeutic concept". Narrative is a school with temperature, and I prefer narrative. The following is a summary of this course:
First of all, about the name of the psychic wizard
Narration is influenced by postmodern philosophy, and postmodern therapy is de-pathological. Narrative therapy can be learned well because the eyes are red, that is, narrative consultation is moving.
? Expectation of healing: let the confidante meet the beauty of his life in humble and respectful chat, visit and study. Visiting is to learn from him and let him teach us. Man is the master of life and his beauty is hidden in his life. All we have to do is help him, assist him, catalyze him, and show him how hard he works and how persistent he is behind those difficulties. Narration is more concerned with what is the value of care in life, where is the significance of concern, and how to tap the beauty in his life.
Life is full of challenges, and it is normal for people to have challenges. Narration is to go deep into people's surprise and consciousness, find the amazing side, see his respectable side, listen to what he cares about in life, try to make life different, what's the point, and hope that life is different.
? Man is the master of life, and he will not gain wisdom if he does nothing. Narration should guide a person to find the wisdom of life from experience and experience the experience of life. The wisdom and experience gained by one's efforts will never be forgotten. One should have the wisdom and courage to face the difficulties in life.
? ? Second, narrative therapy.
Helping others is an exploratory job. Everyone has a unique treasure. How to find the treasure together in the dialogue requires appreciation of the treasure and listening to the inner code.
In the dark, know the hopes he needs, the things he cares about in life, the expectations and longings behind his complaints, the hopes and concerns he wants.
? ? Consultants should think before helping others:
1. What is my role in the family? How does it affect helping others?
? Who are you at home? Adler said that the order of birth will affect a person's psychology.
2. Why should I be a helper (psychological counselor)? (motivation)
3. What kind of psychological counselor do I want to be? (value)
4. How do I usually solve my troubles? What's the effect? The method we use may not be suitable for the speaker.
5. What are the benefits of helping others? What attracts me most about helping others?
Helping others is moral, and the welfare of visitors should be the first.
? ? Psychological counseling:
? 1. The double cultivation course of Fu Hui (the gift of life)
Follow the visitors to learn how to face the difficulties in life.
2. Life affects happiness project (we can't give what we don't have).
How deep we know ourselves, we can lead a person to know ourselves.
? People only use wisdom in adversity, so don't wish a person smooth sailing. Some people say that this is a vicious blessing, because a smooth life is impossible, and smooth sailing can't inspire him with more wisdom and courage.
Consultants should always be aware of themselves. If he didn't touch himself so bravely and wisely, it would be impossible to lead others into the secret garden of his heart.
What kind of visitors do I like?
A: Smart, kind and grateful.
B: stupid, questioning you, not knowing how to love yourself.
Do you still need your help? Maybe you don't like B very much, but it is B who will come to psychological counseling. If you don't like them, you won't create happiness. Look at the place where b is liked from a deconstructive perspective. They may not be loved, or they don't know how to love themselves. They need to learn how to be with themselves.
? What kind of counselor do I like? The process and connotation of the talks?
Only when you can understand me, be kind and have affinity, be close to me and understand my counselor can you really help me and help me solve my problems.
The sooner the pain is solved, the better.
? Third, about people, about people's psychology.
? 1. How do you know people? How to understand human psychology?
2. People's inner psychology-cognition, emotion, behavior and demand.
3. Interpersonal psychology-relationship (interaction and communication; Love and be loved)
4. History, social culture and human psychology
With the change of time and space, aesthetic standards are different, some like to be fat and some like to be thin.
? Fourth, the key physical and mental preparation for helping others.
? Get ready to listen: concentrate.
Listen: Listen, listen and understand.
Narrative emphasizes understanding very much, and narrative consultation emphasizes greeting questions. Don't feel that you understand so quickly.
Secret: focus on body and mind, empty, and collect your mind.
? 1. Listen to what the other person really wants to say, not what he wants to hear.
? Most people just want to hear what they want to hear, so they can't hear what the other person wants to say.
2. When you hear each other's words, you can talk endlessly and get to know yourself better.
? Expression: considerate, positive and warm words.
For example, I'm useless.
In fact, it expresses "I am eager to be valuable" and understands the desire from complaining to caring.
Another example: life is boring. What he longs for is to find a meaningful life. There are hidden values that he cares about and wants to live.
? ? About narrative therapy
? Before class, listen to your impression and understanding of narrative therapy.
1. Please explain your understanding of narrative therapy in one sentence.
2. What is the most curious thing about narrative therapy?
3. What is the most puzzling thing about narrative therapy?
Some thoughts on narrative therapy
1. This is a school that needs storytelling very much.
2. Postmodernism raises many questions.
I am not soft enough for such an emotional school.
I just keep telling stories ... It seems that I haven't solved the problem yet.
5. There is no clear treatment goal? No specific steps? Difficult to use? It doesn't work?
? Have you ever met a visitor who only spoke five sentences for 50 minutes? Did you spend 50 minutes talking about 45 minutes?
Narrative therapy needs people who can listen to stories and understand them. During the Chinese New Year, the most unpopular question: When will you graduate? How much is a month's salary? Do you have a date? When are you getting married? When is the baby born? When do you want Bauer? These questions are none of your business.
? You should teach your friends how to care about you, for example, write 10 questions that you want others to ask you: What is your most rewarding book this year? A movie? The most impressive conversation? The most interesting person you have ever met? The best food you have ever eaten? Where is the most beautiful place you have ever been? ……
What questions can open the inner world of visitors? What tourists want to answer most is the temperature.
? There are eight keys to the efficacy of focus solving in rationality: closeness, hope, energy and practice (modification and action).
The very important essence of narration lies in understanding. Whether you can understand the other party depends on temperature before brightness. There are more emotional narratives, but there are also rational parts. For example, this dispute with her husband is almost divorced, and they find each other in love. What do you think is the most important thing between husband and wife?
? The new stories told by the speaker, such as side stories and preference stories, have been further enriched. What he really wants to be treated, what he cares about most, is what he wants most. The more you want to live clearly, the closer you are to the life he wants. This is to solve the problem and move towards the goal he wants.
? Problem stories can be grasped, and side stories should be further enriched.
From Life Story to Narrative Practice (Therapy)
1. Imagine what would happen if the world suddenly lost its stories?
How would you introduce the Central Plains Focus Team?
2. Do you have your own story? What is the biggest difference between people with stories and people without stories?
People with stories are happy, don't you think?
3. How do people give meaning to experiences? Story is the most basic unit to understand experience.
When chatting with friends, what is the most common story you share?
4. Who decides the meaning of your life story? How the story is told and how people are defined.
Who do ordinary tourists think wrote his life script? How's it going?
? A speaker caught in a disaster will think that the screenwriter of his story is someone else, so he complains more than the victim, but gives him the worst role. How to get him back the right to play the script, rewrite it into the version he wants, become himself he wants, become his own director, re-direct, and get back the right to dominate his own life.
? A story full of questions. When it comes to the version you really want to live, find the beauty you want.
? This story is a mark. You often share happiness, others will think you are happy; If you often quarrel with children, people will understand that you are a worried person.
The healing power of narrative.
? We often think that what we say is what we already know ... In fact, after listening respectfully, you will find that most of the time, we don't know until we say it.
? Foreword: Think about it.
1. How do I know who I am? (About one's identity)
(optimism, optimism, sadness, worry >
What is normal? What if it's abnormal? (standard)
What kind of people usually come to ask for advice? Can I accept and appreciate my uniqueness? How brave can I be?
2. What factors have influenced my opinion of myself?
3. When I identify and declare who I am, how will it affect my life and relationship?
1. What does narrative mean?
? Literary narrative (narrative, lyric, discussion); (sequence, flashback)
Narrative in psychotherapy (every school says there is narrative, so what is the biggest difference between narrative therapy and other schools? )
How do speakers usually tell stories?
Is there a hidden timeline in the story?
Say what comes to mind.
The world is not made of atoms, but of stories. What is the story you want to share with your friends most? )
How do we read stories?
What about the life story? Is it worth seeing? What do you value? What do you care?
Empresses in the palace watched it thirty or forty times. What does he care about most?
? Second, about the story
1. What elements should a story contain? (Development and change of protagonist, theme and plot)
2. What kind of story is wonderful? It's worth reading in depth. Read it again.
Smooth sailing or bumpy ... climax after climax, inspiring.
3. What kind of storyline is easy to become a movie script?
4. What kind of person is easy to be the protagonist of the movie?
5. Which film award (Oscar) do you care most about?
The Shawshank Redemption
Third, reread The Journey to the West.
1. What is this story?
2. Who is the protagonist?
3. What is the point of this story? How did you choose? )
The protagonist told you this story. What do you want to know?
4. What did the protagonist learn from this story? (Where is the dilemma, where is the growth)
5. Two axes of death:
(1) personal inner experience axis;
A person has experienced so many things to prove his worth from birth to now.
(2) Relationship axis (relationship with important people)
? Many consultations are related to relationships, love and being loved. What does the protagonist want to understand most? How do you want to be treated and recognized?
? What kind of story is Journey to the West telling? Do you really understand?
The protagonist is the Monkey King. If Wukong comes to consult, who will he complain about? Will complain that Tang Priest doesn't understand him. The hardest thing is the place to complain, which needs to be broken.
What are the key words of narrative exercises?
1. Main story, minor story, preference story
2. Social construction, deconstruction and reconstruction
3. Local knowledge (as opposed to expert knowledge)
The Monkey King has knowledge of local exorcism.
The knowledge you experience and know is unique to this person.
4. Self-identity of preference
Guide a person how live high wants to live.
5. Externalization, unique experience, rewriting and reorganization of members ...
How a person explains the world is more important than analyzing his behavior pattern.
? Only the parties have the right to explain their own world.
? Pay attention to the lost life experience outside the mainstream story (called unique experience) and help the case owner thicken the shallow story.
Externalization of questions: how do questions frame a person? Is the problem more influential to people, or is it more influential to people? Let people be the masters of the problem. I am depressed (externalized), and I am depressed (internalized).