In ancient times, the man posted a post. The basic steps for posting the post were: after the man obtained the woman’s birthday and horoscope through the hands of a matchmaker, he placed it in a place with a divination meaning at home, such as pressing it under the incense burner or placing it under the incense burner. Place it in front of the statue of the god and wait for three days. If everyone at home is safe during these three days, it means that the marriage has obtained the consent of the god and the divination has been successful. If an accident occurs during these three days, even if a bowl is broken, the birth date must be returned to the woman, and the marriage will not be successful. In some places, after getting the woman's horoscope, a fortune teller is asked to compare it. If the man and woman's horoscopes match, the marriage proposal is successful. Modern people often use the second type, especially when parents are dating their children. After passing the horoscope level, the man will post. The names and birthdays of both men and women are written side by side on the post on red paper and sent to the girl's home. The bride's family accepted the post and expressed their agreement to the marriage. The purpose of taking horoscopes and posting posts is to "observe God's will." This wedding custom represents the concept of "marriage is destined."
In the wedding stage, the dowry prepared by the woman is mostly pairs of quilts, clothes, cabinets, etc. On their wedding day and in the early morning before the wedding, the bride and groom will go to their respective homes to "go to the top", that is, they will choose a lucky old man to comb their hair and say some auspicious words.
The bride also needs to have her face opened and her eyebrows smoothed. In the Hui'an area, when the groom is combing his hair, the old man who combs his hair will take the hand of a young boy and comb the groom's head three times with a comb and a lice grate respectively, saying: "Three times with the wooden comb and three times with the lice grate." Give birth to a large number of children and grandchildren."
The toilet in the new house caused a boy to urinate on the wedding day. Sprinkle red dates, peanuts, longans, lotus seeds and other auspicious fruits on the new bed to represent the best wishes for "an early birth of a child".
When the groom leads the sedan chair to the groom’s house, the custom in some places requires the mother-in-law to pull the daughter-in-law through the road paved with sacks in the courtyard. The sacks behind her are constantly passed to the front to be stepped on. This is called Pass on the seeds (clan) from generation to generation. (treat). Some people have to step over a brazier to avoid evil spirits.
When the couple worships in the church, the host recites a congratulatory message loudly. In some places, they have to eat some special foods such as descendant cakes, drink Hehe soup, etc.