First, how to return it?
Don't importune, humble begging, crazy apology, crying after parting from each other. According to Murphy's law, the more you are afraid of something, the more it will happen.
At this moment, you are afraid of being divided, abandoned and deleted, so you will be like grasping at a straw. In order to maintain this relationship, you only know how to use brute force, but you don't know how to use wisdom In fact, at this time, you are controlled by the psychological effect of "losing blindness", that is, when you are about to lose someone.
Your brain will subjectively ignore most of each other's shortcomings, and only remember the highlights of ta, and your preferences make you lose proper limit. To make up for it, we must set up a psychological barrier of "not afraid of losing" and see the news of his scores; If you want to use your reason to suppress all low-key words, don't answer for a second, but hang on for a long time.
When he is confused, upset and upset, you can reply again: (high-profile reply formula: recognition+respect): Well, I respect your choice. In a word, concise and powerful, highlighting your maturity, stability and generosity.
He had a fierce ideological struggle. Now that you've done it, it's no use saying more. It is better to follow the trend and find a breakthrough. Your argument will make him forget it; Your meekness will arouse his guilt.
First, how to effectively break the ice?
The first reunion after separation is very important. We should first put our minds right and treat him as a stranger instead of expecting a boyfriend.
Working in your own post, you can make no mistakes and have no resentment. After separation, the other person's emotions are in a sensitive period, and your words and deeds will be infinitely magnified. If you are willful, the ending can only be far apart. At this time, the topic of breaking ice should be natural and unpretentious, so that you can maintain a high position of attacking and retreating.
Do three noes first:
1, do not attack: for example, abuse and slander, let him lie on the ground;
2, do not please: for example, send expensive gifts, frequently express concern, remember, untimely please is licking the dog, that is, bringing shame to yourself;
3, not curious: don't ask the other person's recent emotional state, or ask him if he still loves, so as not to cause his disgust and be wary of you.
Then you can ask him for help and rationalize your help on the grounds of business. According to what you know about him, ask him what he is good at, not embarrass him.
For example, if he has a cat, ask him: I am going to have a cat recently. Do you have any good cat litter recommendations? If you want to travel, you can ask: I want to go to xx recently, and you have been there before. Do you recommend any scenic spots?
As long as you don't make trouble, he will reply a few words Finally, don't continue to fight, thank you, and leave.
Second, how to restore normal contact
After everyone wants to break the ice, you must first show yourself on the social platform and stimulate his desire to communicate through secondary attraction.
1, share it every day and show your other side.
Visual impact: you can go shopping, then change your style of dress and take a group of beautiful photos to make him shine.
Inner cultivation: You can read a book, watch a movie and then share your profound insights and show your overall situation.
Hobbies: You can learn one more skill, such as dancing, illustration and calligraphy, to show your versatility.
In short, what you lacked before, you have to make up for it now, so that he thinks you are a treasure girl, but he doesn't know you well enough.
2. Do what you like.
There is a kind of psychology called same-sex attraction, which can artificially create a common language and narrow the distance between them.
For example, he likes animation, and you can draw relevant blind frames; He plays the stock market, you can forward relevant analysis articles: he likes script killing, you can go out to play with friends. As long as he praises you or takes the initiative to find you, you can rekindle his interest in you through online chat. You changed because of him, not for him. Sometimes, shut up, let go of pride and admit that you are wrong, not giving up, but growing up.
You gave yourself a chance to change and become better, but in fact you also gave the other person a chance to pursue you again.
Third, how to change from indifference to flavor
When you can keep chatting normally, don't be too happy. You haven't lost your mind yet.
From division to reconciliation, there is an inspection period. In order to avoid internal friction, you can be consistent in communication. In other words, if you were generous before, you don't have to act like a lady. If you are a straight girl of steel, you don't have to deliberately apply green tea.
Extreme changes will make you lose your original charm. You should supplement, not be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and deny yourself. At this time, you can talk like this:
1, slow down the chat frequency and avoid long speeches.
Warming up is a process, which should be done step by step. When it comes to heights, stop in time. If you want to be high-profile, don't take the initiative to talk about reconciliation. This is a long process, you should learn patience and take your time.
2. If he is enthusiastic, you will be indifferent. Learn to create mood swings.
At this time, he doesn't need you anymore, so his enthusiasm has no purpose and no burden. If you get what he wants, he will think you are easy to mess with.
So you have to do the opposite, embarrass him and lose him. When he can't guess you, he will have an unwilling desire to conquer you, and then you can successfully create his mood swings by pushing and pulling.
Let him have the competitive spirit to pursue first, and then let him have the sense of demand to pursue through attraction, and you will not be far from reconciliation.