Introduction: Marriage and love are ultimately different. Love only requires love, but marriage involves life and real interests. In a marriage, if a relationship cannot go on, people still have to consider themselves and their children. After all, since two people no longer love each other, and since they have reached the point where they can no longer go on, then their future and The child and the child's future cannot be ruined because of the other's fault.
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It has been more than a day or two since Gao Yunxiang and Dong Xuan were divorced, but after Gao Yunxiang's accident, Dong Xuan spared no effort to run for her and attended her husband's court hearings many times. Everyone I still think this pair is very loving.
However, after all, it is still no match for the real interests. The reason for choosing divorce is to preserve the property and protect oneself.
Today we are going to talk about a marriage where the man cheated on the marriage and was imprisoned. What should the woman do?
This time Dong Xuan has given everyone a reference standard, which is worth learning from.
In the first step, in this incident, when it first happened, Dong Xuan chose to side with her husband and speak out for her husband.
In the second step, when the evidence gradually came to light, Dong Xuan began to act like she would never leave him. This can be seen from her many trips to and from the country where her husband was killed.
The third step is that Dong Xuan gradually makes a comeback. Sometimes she attends some events and gets some attention, and sometimes she takes her daughter with her on camera to increase the audience's favorability.
The fourth step is to announce the divorce. The company they once formed has changed its shareholding ratio. Many people speculate that the main reason for the divorce is to preserve Dong Xuan's own property.
The incident has been restored to this point. Now let’s talk about whether there is an unrealistic and careless marriage in marriage?
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Many people are in love when they enter the door of marriage, and the same is true for celebrities.
When couples are in love, if there is no love, most couples will not be able to get married. After all, marriage is not a child's play. But after entering into marriage, I discovered that life is really not about love and water. Real life will force a person to change a lot.
Some people can’t help but complain about their spouses when their married life is unsatisfactory, but marriage is really a matter between two people, and each party has a great responsibility.
I once had a friend, Sister Xue, who looked full of expectation and happiness when she entered into marriage with her husband of five years.
Sister Xue thinks she is the happiest woman in the world. Her husband is tall and handsome, considerate and kind to her, and her husband's family's financial conditions are also good.
But as I lived my life, I discovered that my husband was very philandering. While flirting with his female colleagues after work, he also hooked up with other women.
Sister Xue was in great pain for a time, thinking that it was all her fault and that she could not win back her husband's heart.
Later one time, the husband capsized in the gutter. It turned out that he was having an extramarital affair with a married man. When the woman’s husband found out, he beat her up and demanded a sum of money for reputational damage. Otherwise, go to Sister Xue’s husband’s workplace to cause trouble.
At that time, Sister Xue and her husband had just bought a house and the family had no money, so Sister Xue found someone to borrow money and settled the matter.
Sister Xue was really dedicated to running the family well at that time. She hoped that her husband would wake up from this lesson and stop flirting with women in the future.
But who knows, after the husband passed this incident, he felt that Sister Xue could not do without him. A wife neither made a fuss nor made a fuss after her husband cheated, and even stepped forward to settle her husband's mess. How inseparable is this woman from her husband?
So Sister Xue’s husband became even more aggressive.
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After being hit again and again, Sister Xue completely despaired of her husband.
Sister Xue began to quietly sort out the family finances and took out IOUs one after another, which were all evidence of paying for her husband's cheating.
The husband also knew that he was indeed at fault in this marriage, so he seriously discussed with Sister Xue what to do.
Sister Xue said that after so many years, the family had nothing but the house that was still on loan, so they should sell the house.
The husband disagreed, and Sister Xue said that you should borrow money to replace the money you owed before.
Later, her husband agreed to sell the house and after removing the loans and debts, Sister Xue took all the remaining money and filed for divorce.
Sister Xue finally filed for divorce as the plaintiff, and her husband was the fault party. The court ruled that the property belongs to the woman, and the custody of the child also belongs to the woman, and the man must pay child support.
After Sister Xue won the lawsuit, she immediately used the remaining balance from the sale of the house to make a down payment for a small bungalow. The monthly loan was more than 1,000, which was quite easy.
At this time, Sister Xue’s ex-husband couldn’t accept the reality at all. He thought that Sister Xue couldn’t live without him, and he was joking. If he could just coax her like before, everything would be fine.
Who would have known that Sister Xue would not give him a chance at all and directly went to a lawyer to take legal action. Her ex-husband was caught off guard.
The woman who thought she could not live without him left her in the blink of an eye, not only leaving but also taking away all her wealth and even her children. Which man is willing to accept this reality? !
But for Sister Xue, this is also the only way to go. She said, "I have given him opportunities, again and again, but has he repented? How can there be everlasting love in this world? Is there anyone who is not selfish? I paid for his affairs time and time again, and trampled my pride and self-esteem under my feet time and time again, but in return I didn’t think about myself, but I still had to think about my children. Think about it, my future and my children can’t be ruined by this man.”
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The love I once had, the love that lasted until death, is all gone. After it was completely destroyed, what was left was "reason" and "sobriety".
After love dies, you should have material things with you at least, instead of letting yourself lose everything in a failed relationship.
Yishu once said, "I want to have lots and lots of love and lots and lots of money. If there is no love, having a lot of money is also good."
Many men blame women for their materialism and Ruthless, but have you ever thought about the harm you have done to women? ! Which woman is ruthless from the beginning? How many women, when they first get involved in love, have longing in their hearts and are willing to accompany a man to fight hard, but only after being hurt do they become realistic and materialistic.
After Sister Xue and her husband divorced, Sister Xue’s husband kept telling people that Sister Xue was ruthless and heartless. Just a scumbag.
Just like the divorce between Gao Yunxiang and Dong Xuan, the two have gone from being a model couple to now parting ways. Whether Dong Xuan cannot continue to "pretend to be asleep" in this relationship, or to protect personal property from It is reasonable to be implicated. After all, don't forget that it was Gao Yunxiang who was at fault first, and Dong Xuan was also the most benevolent and righteous person.
Whether it is a man or a woman, they still have to do their part in marriage and cannot do whatever they want, otherwise they will eventually get backlash.