The matchmaker proposes to the man, or the matchmaker introduces the woman's situation to the man, and then proposes to the woman after the man approves.
2, eight characters
Traditional marriage has two links. After the two sides propose marriage, the matchmaker writes the woman's name, date of birth, place of origin and ancestors into three generations and sends them to the man.
If nothing unexpected or unlucky happens in the man's house within three days, such as breaking bowls and pots, it is called "three days". With this good sign, the man agrees to exchange Geng posts. Please get married separately after changing the Geng post to make sure that both men and women are born together or contain each other. If we contain each other, the marriage will have to be ruined.
Step 3 date
After choosing an auspicious day according to the eight characters, you enter the engagement stage, that is, the man prepares a gift for the woman to get engaged, which is also called "()". Gifts are generally gold and silver jewelry such as gold earrings, gold rings and gold necklaces, as well as tokens of love such as sugar and noodles. This woman deserves a gift in return. Both men and women should distribute candy and cakes to relatives and neighbors to inform them that their marriage is fixed.
Step 4 Send and hire
After the engagement, you have to pay the bride price. Hire, also known as rent. In the past, the bride price of rich people was gold and silver, colored satin, pigs and sheep, wine and fruit; The difference is betel nut (betel nut refers to green olive in Chaoshan dialect) and chicken wine. Chaozhou people regards olives as a symbol of good luck and is a distinctive wedding gift.
Step 5 choose a day
Pick another day. After the engagement ceremony, the man should choose the wedding date and tell the woman, including telling her when to cut the wedding dress, when to pull a face, when to take a shower and when to get married.
Most of the time chosen by chaozhou people is in the middle of the night, and it is an ancient legacy for hipsters to keep the custom of getting married late at night. In ancient times, weddings always ended in fainting, so wedding ceremonies must be held after dusk or even late at night.