Dalian wedding customs are greatly influenced by Shandong people. However, with the social process, especially after the opening up to the outside world, many new forms have been incorporated. These old customs and new trends complement each other, forming a unique style with Dalian characteristics. Local marriage customs.
After a new couple enters the mature stage of love, the first thing they need to do is to register. After registration, the young couple will go to the groom's house for a festive meal. According to common sense, the mother-in-law should give money and jewelry to the daughter-in-law at this time to show her acceptance.
The next step is to choose the wedding day. It is better to have an even number for your wedding day. It is best if the lunar calendar, solar calendar and day of the week are all even days. Among the even numbers, the most popular is six. "Six and six are in good order". If there is six in the lunar calendar, it is 6 in the solar calendar. September 6th is another Saturday, and such a day can be described as auspicious. However, there are exceptions to odd numbers. For example, nine is particularly popular because it means eternity. On September 9, 1999, a lot of people got married in Dalian.
The wedding day in Dalian is best to have good weather with clear skies. If it rains, it means that the bride is a bad person, and everyone will feel depressed.
After setting the wedding date, the groom and the bride began to prepare intensively. Under normal circumstances, the bed cover and curtains of the new house are prepared by the woman, and she also prepares one or two quilts. In addition to bedding for daily use, the groom's family must also prepare a kang quilt for making the bed. Large items such as household appliances are also mainly bought by men, but women have to buy at least one item, usually a washing machine, because this is something women use frequently. The only thing left is to prepare wedding supplies. Most weddings in Dalian nowadays are indispensable for doves, flowers and balloons. The flowers are lilies and roses. The balloons must be red. The numbers are also related to "9". The more 9s, the better. For example, 999, at least 99. Some weddings also invite bands and singers, which must be prepared by the man. However, the corsage for the mother-in-law must be prepared by the bride, and must be put on by the bride herself after arriving at the new house. Finally, both parties must choose a best man and bridesmaid for themselves. The best man and bridesmaid should not be taller than the groom and bride, but they should not be too short, and their appearance should be inferior to that of the groom and bride, so as not to overwhelm the bride and groom and make the couple disenchanted. However, they should not be too ugly to overshadow the couple.
According to local customs, the groom and the bride cannot meet each other on the first day of the wedding. The procedure on the wedding day is as follows: the groom brings flowers to the bride's home in a motorcade to greet the bride. After meeting, he delivers the flowers to the bride's arms, and then eats farewell dumplings with the bride. The farewell dumplings were made by my mother-in-law who stayed up late the night before. According to local customs, the bride's parents are not allowed to attend their daughter's wedding, but now there are many exceptions. When sending off, although the bride is elated, she should also look sad and reluctant to leave. The first stop after leaving the woman's house is to accompany her family to see the new house. The bride must bring two wedding pots wrapped in red cloth when she leaves her parents' home. One pot contains mirrors, combs and other cosmetics; the other pot contains carp steamed with white flour, etc., which means that life will be abundant every year. After these things are brought to the new house, the foreskin must be opened and placed on the wedding bed. When the bride enters the door of her new house, she must first cordially shout "Dad! Mom!" to her parents-in-law who are already sitting there. Of course, this call is not for nothing. After the mother-in-law agrees, she should give her daughter-in-law a red envelope. The amount of money given is very particular, usually 1,001 yuan, which means that the daughter-in-law is choosing one virtue from a thousand miles. There are also gifts of 990 or 660 yuan, depending on the family's financial situation. At the same time, start nailing the door curtain. The door curtain is nailed by the bride's unmarried younger brother or elder brother. If she does not have a biological brother, her cousin can also hold this position. The tool for nailing the door curtain is a weight wrapped in red paper, which means that the two are determined to spend a lifetime together. The husband's family must put a red envelope under the weight in advance, containing 50 or 100 yuan. After the person nailing the door curtain is finished, he will put the red envelope into his pocket. Then, the groom will hold a beautiful little boy prepared by his parents' family in advance, and sit on the wedding bed with the bride, which is called "pressing the bed" in the hope of giving birth to a child soon. In order to express her gratitude, the mother-in-law would give a red envelope to the child who was pressed into bed.
After the brief new house ceremony, the whole family drove to the hotel where the wedding ceremony was held. The time they arrived at the hotel must not exceed 12 o'clock, otherwise it would be unlucky. This is a general principle.
Wedding celebrations vary in complexity and simplicity, but there are four indispensable ceremonies: first, three bows. The first is to worship heaven and earth, wishing that the relationship between husband and wife will last forever; the second is to bow to the high hall to thank parents for raising them; the third is to pray to each other, and the young couple will be in love with each other from now on.
Love and love; the second ritual is to drink a cup of wine. The cup of wine must be drank dry without leaving it empty, which means that the husband and wife treat each other sincerely. After drinking a glass of wine, the couple should give each other rings and put them on each other's hands, showing that they have tied each other's hearts from now on.
The last ceremony is for the newlyweds to toast and light cigarettes for each relative and friend attending the wedding. At this time, people attending the wedding can embarrass the newlyweds at will, such as using many tricks to prevent the bride from lighting up the cigarette easily. Therefore, the wedding often sets off a small climax at this time. In addition to the big wedding banquet at noon, the groom's family usually also sets up a few tables in the evening to entertain people who help organize the wedding. After dinner, it was time to have a wedding. During the wedding ceremony, red dates, peanuts and lotus seeds should be sprinkled on the bed, which still symbolizes the early birth of a child. There is no distinction between age and generation when making trouble in the bridal chamber. Everyone can have fun, but there must be a limit. The bride must not become angry when making trouble in the bridal chamber.
If newlyweds in Dalian live with their parents-in-law, the bride should not sleep too much the next morning, but should get up early to make breakfast for the whole family, and greet the elders in the family with the groom.
On the third day after the wedding, the groom will accompany the bride back to her natal home. The gifts brought generally include live carp, which means more than enough every year; vermicelli, which means good days will last forever; wine, which means eternal wait, and the gifts should be in pairs. When returning to your parents' home, you have to go with the sun in your head and return before sunset. No guests are allowed at your parents' home. Before the young couple leaves, the mother's family should return part of the gifts brought by the young couple, and then add a few more items for the young couple to take back to their in-laws.