What does it mean for a husband to protect his mother-in-law
I believe that many women have encountered this situation, that is, when there is a dispute with her mother-in-law, her husband protects her mother-in-law. This undoubtedly makes women feel sad, but there is no need to be so nervous. What does it mean that a husband protects his mother-in-law? If he is not a horsehair man, it means that he still loves his mother and is a good man.
After marriage, every woman wants to love and respect her husband, but it is impossible to completely avoid quarreling. Especially if you live with your mother-in-law, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will increase the chances of marital conflict. In real life, when a husband and wife quarrel, the wife has such a divorce mentality. This mentality is not desirable.
What should a husband do to protect his mother-in-law?
1. Adjust your mind.
Treat your mother-in-law as your own mother, and so does your mother. She is the mother who is trying to train your husband. If you always treat her as an enemy in your heart, you will never see her good. You hate what she did. Tell yourself psychologically that she is also a mother. She raised my husband. Parents always love their children. As long as you are sincere to her and live with her son, I don't think she will deliberately embarrass you. You are sincere to her, and your husband will see it. Even if there is a contradiction, he won't think you did it.
Don't always say that your mother-in-law is wrong.
Even if she does badly, she should turn a blind eye. It is impossible for everyone to follow your living habits. If you complain to your husband about big and small things, all he can think about is your dissatisfaction with his mother. If his mother really started the trouble, even if you complain again, he won't think so. Therefore, a smart woman should not always criticize her mother-in-law in front of her husband. Tell your husband that you want to get along with your mother-in-law, and so does your heart.
Why should a husband protect his mother-in-law?
Normal situation. You spent several years with your husband, and your husband spent decades with your mother-in-law. My mother-in-law looks after my husband. Unless your mother-in-law is indifferent to her husband since she was a child, your mother is generally eccentric. If you start complaining rashly without seeing the situation clearly, you may not get your husband's support, but your husband will think you are "ignorant".
An old saying ruined many daughters-in-law, "carrying on the family line". In the hearts of many husbands, there is a belief that parents will not hurt their children and hope that their children will be happy. However, the husband forgot that the mother-in-law would not harm the child and wanted the child to be happy, but the daughter-in-law was not her own. I even think my daughter-in-law took their son. From now on, the son will accompany his daughter-in-law to eat, sleep and have fun. My son's hard-earned money was spent by his wife. It is a matter of course that a husband spends his money on his wife. These husbands don't think about it, and the daughter-in-law can't explain it clearly. It's miserable again.
What should I pay attention to when I get along with my mother-in-law?
1. filial piety to mother-in-law is proper.
Although my mother-in-law didn't raise you, she raised your husband, so since you love your husband, you should understand your son's feelings for his mother and respect his mother with him. You have parents, too. Would you be happy if your husband contradicted your parents and ignored them? So give your mother-in-law a smile and talk to her more.
Don't be too close to your husband in front of your mother-in-law.
I have shown this advice to my wife for a long time. Although you think you are used to this kind of communication, old people are old people after all, and they have traditional ideas. Just like in front of outsiders. Being too intimate with your husband is also disrespectful to others. Therefore, if you want to make out with your husband, don't be in front of your mother-in-law.
Don't call your husband in front of your mother-in-law
This truth is actually very easy to understand. From another angle, if your parents come to live at home and your husband keeps asking you to do this and that, how will your parents feel? They will find it difficult and tired for their daughter to stay at home. Especially in China, where men are superior to women, your mother-in-law will be unhappy when she looks at you and tells her husband that you have nothing to do. At this time, you should