Birthday counts as marriage.
For couples who intend to get married, as long as one of them is from the countryside, they may have had the experience of taking birthdays as their marriage. In fact, this phenomenon has already appeared in ancient China.
In Zhou Li? It is stipulated in Faint Righteousness that "accepting gifts, asking names, accepting gifts, accepting levies, reporting the day and welcoming relatives" are the steps of marriage, also known as "six gifts".
Among them, "asking the name" and "Najib" are similar to the current birthday marriage. Asking the name means that the matchmaker asks the woman's birthday and then divines whether the marriage between the two parties is appropriate. If it is a "match made in heaven", it is appropriate. If not, you can't get married. Najib's meaning is not much different, which means that the birth dates of both men and women will be divined in the clan, indicating that good luck can be married, and vice versa. In some rural areas, as long as you bring your partner home once, parents will ask each other's date of birth and then calculate whether it is appropriate or not.
How to deal with it: You can tell your parents about your partner's Excellence and ability, so that parents can see that you are not as good as each other and create a feeling that you are not worthy of each other. For example, many people chase each other where they live, telling their parents how well the other person takes care of themselves in life, so that parents feel that they may never meet such a good person except him or her again. Moreover, parents in rural areas attach great importance to the impression of meeting for the first time, so they must be told to be polite, diligent, gentle and generous when bringing their partners.
Marriage is determined by the zodiac.
Because of the influence of birth date, some rural areas have derived the zodiac, such as: "The zodiac can't be accompanied by pigs, dogs can't be accompanied by rabbits, and cows can't be accompanied by mice." Because of the survival law of animals in nature, it is believed that tigers will eat pigs to death, and so will dogs and rabbits. Cows are not suitable, because people think that cows are not as treacherous as mice.
There is another saying, which I think is more reliable. It is said that there are eight zodiac signs between Yinhu and Haizhu, which indirectly indicates that there is a full 9 years difference between them, while there is a 8-year difference between autumn and Maotu. In other words, the reason why parents disapprove may be because the age gap is too big.
I looked up a lot of information about the marriage matching of the zodiac on the Internet. For example, some people say that Yin Hu and Haizhu are lucky, while others think they are fierce. For example, your chicken and Chen Long, some people compare chicken to phoenix, and think that the combination of dragon and phoenix is good luck, while others think that chicken can't fly and can't become a phoenix, so it's not appropriate. In short, there are different opinions about the marriage of the zodiac. Among them, the survival laws of science and nature are the most.
How to deal with it: because there are different views on the marriage of the zodiac, whether in real life or online. There is no unified statement. If parents have similar habits, we can find a relatively good zodiac match through other channels and compare it with their parents' answers, so as to change their minds and achieve our goals.
affect
In middle school, Miao women in Xiangxi made good use of "magic". Therefore, a few Han villages believe that if you marry a Miao woman, you can't marry a Miao woman. One can only be loyal to women. If there is an affair, even a mental affair, it will be ""and will lead to death. So in these villages, even if this Miao woman is beautiful, no one dares to accompany her for a lifetime.
I can't agree with this. There are many Miao villages here in Guizhou. And one of my views on many Miao girls is that they are beautiful, dignified, kind, dare to love and hate. If they fall in love with someone, they will only be loyal to one person all their lives. Only these have led to people's misunderstanding of Miao girls. In our local area, many people are proud of marrying Miao girls.
How to deal with it: If your girlfriend is Miao and your parents are resistant to rumors, it is better to tell your parents that rumors are not the truth, stick to your choice and impress your parents.
Five elements determine marriage.
Many rural people believe that whenever their children come to talk about marriage, they will tell their fortune, and they can expect to see if it is appropriate. Similarly, judging their marriage by their birth dates and five elements. The five elements are: "Gold begets water, aquatic wood, wood makes fire, fire begets soil, and soil begets gold." The five elements are: "Jin Kemu, Mutuke, Tukeshui, Shuihuoke and Huojinke." If two people belong to the five elements, it is appropriate, and vice versa.
Response: Basically, as long as there are such fortune tellers in rural areas, many rural friends have found a problem. As long as parents go alone, fortune tellers may not be able to say it well, but if they follow, it will be fine. Fortune-telling is a theory of geomantic metaphysics, and no one can say for sure. However, most rural fortune tellers cheat with small tricks. Therefore, if parents want to find such a person, we can go together, so that the fortune teller will say good things and parents will feel more at ease.
A female freshman, not a wife, a female junior, holding a golden brick.
Old people in rural areas believe that women will not be happier than men after marriage, especially the most taboo is to be one year older. At the age of three, the old people in the countryside feel good, because there is a saying in the countryside: "A woman is a mistress, holding a golden brick." Let's analyze why this is because boys are 20 years old.
First of all, let's assume that boys are 18 years old and girls are 19 years old. Boys of this age may not have graduated yet, and they can't reach the responsibility and responsibility that men should have, either ideologically or in behavior, that is to say, they are naive. The girls are only 19 years old at this time, and they are still emotional. They think they can wait until the boys are mature and get ahead. However, it may also be because the boy is naive or can't be changed for a long time, and the girl will be disappointed with this boy until she loses confidence. The final result must be that I have to leave with disappointment to the girls. Therefore, it is derived that a female freshman is not a wife.
Female junior, holding a gold brick, the same, 20 boys and 23 girls. According to the marriage law, girls can get a marriage certificate as early as three years ago. At this time, the girl's mind is mature, and it's time to get married. If this girl chooses to be with a boy who is three years younger than herself, it means that either this boy has a successful career or she can help this boy and make him successful. Isn't this equivalent to holding a gold brick?
How to deal with it: It is suggested that boys should try not to choose girls older than themselves without complete independence. Of course, when her career is successful, the girl she is looking for is one year older than herself, and her parents have nothing to say even if they have ideas. If it is in the immature stage, the better solution is to put away your childish mentality and work hard! Don't keep your girlfriend waiting too long. There is still a chance.
Summary: People nowadays advocate freedom of love and marriage. That is, from understanding to determining the relationship, talking about marriage. The process of treating each other as equals without being influenced or threatened by others. But it will inevitably be affected by the above problems, so I hope that people who really love each other can stick to their inner thoughts and not be influenced by them. Feelings are, after all, a matter of two people, and a process of running-in before marriage. It is our partner, not that person, who accompanies us all our lives, so don't let it affect our judgment. I believe that? With the development of technology, similar things will disappear in the future.
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The above is related to the lifelong marriage of birthdates, and it is about the sharing of marriage. After reading the test, I hope this will help everyone!