Immediate family members, generally referring to later generations! Such as son, daughter, daughter-in-law, son-in-law! Other relatives can symbolically choose to wear related ornaments suitable for their status level, and elders can also symbolically wear related ornaments! Generally, local costumes are different, and the most important thing is the immediate family members of the younger generation!
Immediate relatives. Since ancient times, sons have a tradition of filial piety to their parents. In ancient times, when parents died, no matter whether the son was an official or in business, there was a tradition of going home to honor his parents. After the parents died and were buried, they should build a coffin in front of their parents' graves and spend three years eating in the coffin to accompany their parents' death. Now the filial piety in the new society is simplified, and there is no need to guard the cemetery.
Uncle, uncle died, and nephew went to Dai Xiao. Because he is an uncle, he is the same generation as his father, and he is a milk brother. In the north, when parents die, girls and sons should wear white cloth on their heads, not their own sons, and they can tie a piece of white cloth around their waist. When a man dies, the white cloth on his waist should be worn on the left, and when his mother dies, the white cloth on his waist should be worn on the right.
Why can't my daughter get dressed in Dai Xiao?
What's your custom there? Our son-in-law and son are the same here, so we have to dress up in Dai Xiao. This is the old rule.
For a funeral here, the son-in-law must wear mourning clothes like his son, and Lang is half a son. How to be a son-in-law is no exception. For a son-in-law, you should treat your parents-in-law like your own. For the father-in-law, we should treat and value the son-in-law as our own son, even better than our own son. Only in this way can we truly become a close family!
On our side, according to the convention, the son-in-law is the guest of honor at the funeral, but he must wear "great filial piety" instead of Xiao's hat. When he is in Dai Xiao, the dutiful son should kneel for him and someone should put it on him. The whole funeral must be accompanied by a special person, which fully shows the "nobility" of the son-in-law.
A: The country is big and there is a big gap in funeral culture. Since 1960s, people died in Dai Xiao and wore dresses. This old custom was abolished and people applauded, but it has revived in recent years. However, the local government is still holding fast and has not relaxed at all.
I once went to the crematorium for a memorial service and saw two people wearing white mourning robes. So many people in the yard of the crematorium are looking at them with different eyes. They also feel very uncomfortable and embarrassed. Finally, they had to run to the corner and leave the crowd.
Weihai is an old revolutionary base area. Since the founding of New China, the red culture of the * * * production party has been regarded as the mainstream culture from top to bottom. When people hold weddings and funerals, they will adhere to the principle of thrift and oppose extravagance and waste. Therefore, the funeral culture of Pima Dai Xiao in the past has been replaced by the present wreath, memorial service and red culture. Therefore, in terms of funeral etiquette, men and women are the same, as are sons and sons-in-law. All rights and obligations are equal, and there is no problem that the son-in-law does not attend the funeral of his parents-in-law.
Why can't the son-in-law be Pima Dai Xiao? Our son-in-law is the son of half, except the son. Sons and daughters-in-law, daughters and sons-in-law, nephews and nieces, grandchildren, nephews and nieces are all dutiful sons, and they all have to wear hemp Dai Xiao.
Q: In my hometown, there is a custom that a son-in-law can't wear linen at a funeral. Is Dai Xiao your hometown?
A son-in-law can wear mourning clothes, but not linen. Hempin is the filial piety of his son, daughter-in-law and daughter who has the closest relationship with the elderly. A son-in-law can wear hemp if he adopts and changes his surname, which is also qualified. It is covered with extremely thick hemp, which shows that it is very sad.
When the old man died, his son and daughter were the saddest. Dai Xiao put on linen at the same time. His son is a dutiful son and his daughter-in-law is a good wife, so he should also put on linen. Son daughter-in-law daughter-in-law wears linen, but also hangs money on linen, and nephew also wears linen but doesn't hang money. Children are not clan, only Dai Xiao, Pima must change his surname.
The filial hats of sons and nephews are tied with coarse cloth, and the filial hats of son-in-law and ordinary relatives are sewn with cotton thread. In some places, children's filial clothes and hats are different from those of their sons, who wear plain white clothes and children wear bleached clothes.
In addition, the son-in-law is a distinguished guest in front of the door, and the funeral is also treated with courtesy. Filial piety clothes and hats must be worn by dutiful sons before kneeling. He won't wear it unless he kneels. The son-in-law kowtowed to the deceased, and the dutiful son paid him back.
At the funeral, the main dutiful son carried the banner, the second dutiful son held the coffin, and the son-in-law picked flowers and blue flowers.
The son-in-law is a distinguished guest, and the funeral will not be sent to the cemetery. After the funeral, the dutiful sons will kowtow to my son-in-law, and the manager will shout "The guest is free, please come back"! The children crossed the road, watched the coffin go away, then took off their mourning clothes and hats and returned.
Respect your parents as much as your wife's parents. Why not?
Absolutely. Would you have a wife today without your parents-in-law?
The wife's relatives are gone, and she and her family are the most vulnerable at this time. As son-in-law and their relatives, we should stand with them completely and talk about our sons.
People, people who have been living very hard and tired, why do you have to talk to your relatives about this?
A son-in-law and half a son, our hometown in Tianjin, wear the same mourning clothes as his son.
In our hometown, on the contrary, at the funeral, the son-in-law should wear hemp Dai Xiao and see him off. This grandson doesn't need to wear hemp Dai Xiao, just wear a dutiful son hat.
When my grandfather died, my father and my uncle Dai Xiao both wore Pima dresses. It seems that the mourning clothes they wear are quite exquisite, and the ropes they tie need to be tied with flowers. Only the old people in the village can do it, but the young ones can't. Anyway, wearing it once is very troublesome.
Three days later, two son-in-law stood in the yard, one on each side. When relatives came to pay their respects, they went forward to meet them. When others leave, one of them will return the gift. My cousin and I have the task of picking up relatives at the street corner, collecting gifts from relatives and sending them home. Relatives take guns, and we are responsible for letting them go directly. If several people come together, only one dies, and the rest.
The son-in-law is usually free in the afternoon except for welcoming him in the morning, but our grandson has a lot of things to do. Because he is a junior, but he is an adult and has a family. He arranges us to do all kinds of chores, such as buying missing things, needing firewood and all kinds of etiquette supplies. Even if he is free, he can't run far. He needs to stay in the yard and wait for the assignment at any time.
The night before burial and the day before, the son-in-law was only responsible for welcoming guests, mainly my grandmother's family. My cousin and I are responsible for helping, serving food, cigarettes and wine. The guns brought by her family were put at that time, because the rural hometown was not strict at that time, and they were all buried. After the dutiful son went to the cemetery, he placed a portrait to worship his grandchildren. It is not easy to burn these paper folds, because there are many. After burning, smokers can't get close to them at all, and we have to prevent them from igniting weeds around them.
After the funeral, we will clean up all the straws and firecrackers on the ground after Peng Ling's demolition, then burn them all, and then clean up the garbage and burnt ashes in this area into the garbage pool. We pushed the cart four times before we cleaned it all up, leaving us covered in dust.
As the saying goes, miles are different, and every place has its own customs. Just do as the Romans do.
The same is true for most of us. The son-in-law wears a white coat like other in-laws. Slightly different, the son-in-law has a small piece of linen on his hat. It is said that the son-in-law is half-born. In Pima Dai Xiao, it is not as filial as the nephews and grandnephews of bereaved families, and even worse than the bereaved families. All family members need to wear hemp rings, which is also commonly known as "internal relatives and external relatives."
Dai Xiao, the son-in-law's Pima, focuses not on the son-in-law, but on the grandson, who is in charge of Pima Dai Xiao. One representative is enough, and the eldest grandson is his brother when he gets married. When they get married, they don't have to wear horses and Dai Xiao, but their married grandson only wears linen rings. Among them, flax is a little younger than mourning, and the thicker the flax layer, the closer it is. As usual, there are five grades of linen. Now it is changed to three kinds, and the grandson is the lightest mourning.
Specifically, the weight of son-in-law is different between urban and rural areas. Like other in-laws, urban son-in-law is heavier in rural areas. For example, the son-in-law followed the dutiful son with a banner and a funeral stick at the funeral. The son-in-law kneels with him every step.
The taboo of Dai Xiaoren wearing hemp.
The taboo of Dai Xiaoren wearing hemp.
What are the taboos of Pima Dai Xiao people, and the death of their loved ones, and what are the taboos during their stay in Dai Xiao? Although people don't want to talk about death, after all, birth, old age, illness and death are objective, and no one can escape. Therefore, it is necessary to understand the taboos of funeral customs in order to avoid taboos and follow the customs. Let's take a look at the taboos of Pima people in Dai Xiao.
The taboo of Pima Dai Xiao 1
Don't be afraid to die without relatives.
In the old society, people attached great importance to carrying on the family line, thinking that when the old man died, there must be descendants present, so that when the old man left, he was sent away and was not alone. Old people don't have to worry all the time in the underworld, and their souls can get peace. If the old man dies in front of all his relatives, it is the greatest blessing. According to legend, Bai people think that the old man died in the arms of his children and grandchildren, which is what they thanked for raising him, commonly known as "receiving gas".
Taboo of mourning
In the funeral home, white cloth and white paper should be hung on the gate to let people know that someone in the family has passed away, and send a message to relatives in other places or overseas so that children can hear the news and attend the funeral. Among them, it is especially prudent to report the funeral to the relatives in marriage. After the parents died and the date of the funeral was fixed, the dutiful son was going to visit relatives. During the funeral, be careful that the dutiful son does not enter the house, kneel outside and salute first, and report the news of his parents' death and the time of the funeral to his relatives.
During the period of filial piety, children are forbidden to participate in recreational activities.
In ancient times, when parents died, children generally had to observe filial piety for three years. During these three years, marriage and auspicious celebrations are not allowed. In ancient times, people who paid attention to "ruling the world with filial piety" and served as officials, no matter how old they were, had to take time off to go back to their ancestral homes to observe filial piety after their parents died, which was called "Ding You". If officials don't go back to their hometowns to observe filial piety, they may be impeached by the censor, punished, or even never hired.
If an official gets married, has children, breaks up, has fun, etc. During his anxiety, he will be regarded as unfilial and impeached. In modern society, many people shorten the time of filial piety to one year or even less, but they are afraid that their children will have fun.
Children are forbidden to wear red and green clothes during mourning.
During the mourning period, ancient children paid attention to wearing filial piety and white mourning clothes within 100 days; After a hundred days, wear dark clothes such as black and blue to show filial piety, and avoid wearing red and green heavy makeup. In modern society, although many friends wear the word "filial piety" instead of mourning for such a long time because of their work and life; However, you still can't wear red with green.
Taboo of wearing linen for filial piety II
First: Dai Xiao saw two things and touched one thing.
The so-called three things are building a temple and getting married. One thing is to touch the mother or baby. Generally speaking, Dai Xiaoren has an ominous premonition, so all occasions related to sacred events or happy events are very bad. Under the influence of Dai Xiao's ominous spirit, those who build temples or stoves will be very ineffective, and married couples are prone to discord. If Dai Xiaoren comes into contact with the mother and baby, it will lead to dystocia.
Second: the participant and the deceased are in the same phase.
In some places, if someone comes to the funeral, they will put a sticker at the door to explain the zodiac and the eight characters that are harmonious with the dead.
Xiangke's Zodiac and Eight Characters will bring great disasters to participants, and they are prone to get sick and encounter unclean things. It's time to avoid it. In addition, pregnant women and babies are not allowed to attend funerals because they will be contaminated with ominous gases.
Third: cry at the funeral and shed tears for the deceased.
In the funeral ceremony, due to excessive grief, many people are reluctant to give up on the deceased, and will cry at the deceased, causing tears to drop on the deceased. This will make the deceased reluctant to leave, so don't cry when you are buried, otherwise it will lead to unclean things. I believe that many children or relatives of the deceased have encountered such a situation when doing funerals in the countryside.
There are many taboos in rural funerals. Of course, different places have different customs. But we must bear in mind the above three kinds, and we must not make such mistakes, otherwise it will be difficult to remove unclean things.
Taboo of wearing linen for filial piety 3
Don't be afraid to die without relatives.
When old people are most afraid of death, it is sad that a person dies without relatives around him. Generally speaking, when an old man dies, relatives and children should come as soon as possible, and future generations must be present.
Satin fabric should not be used for shroud.
The shroud of the deceased is very taboo to use satin fabric, because the homophonic "broken" satin will make future generations suffer misfortune, and the whole family will be childless. So the shroud is mostly made of silk, because silk represents the happiness of future generations. In addition, the number of shrouds is also strictly regulated, not even, but odd, which needs to be strictly observed, otherwise it will have an impact on future generations.
Dai Xiao can't go to other people's houses.
Since ancient times, after the death of someone in the family, immediate family members will go to Dai Xiao, which shows respect and memory for the deceased. But if Dai Xiao goes to someone else's house, it is a very unlucky thing. No one wants others to visit their home with bad luck. Therefore, when you are in Dai Xiao, you should consciously abide by this rule and don't visit others.
Willows are forbidden in coffins.
The material of the coffin is generally taboo to use willow, because willow can't bear seeds. From the perspective of geomantic omen, this material represents the last time, which means it is very unlucky. Therefore, you can't use willow as a coffin. Most of them use other wood, such as pine and cypress, which means longevity.
It is forbidden to participate in recreational activities during mourning.
During the mourning period, you can't take part in some recreational activities. In addition to holding holiday activities at home, the immediate family members of the deceased can't attend the holiday ceremony held outside. During mourning, it is very taboo to have fun, and don't wear gorgeous clothes. You should keep a low profile and wear some simple-looking clothes to show respect for the dead.
Taboo tears spilled on my body.
When burying, it is very taboo to shed tears on the body, so relatives should pay attention not to shed tears on the body of the deceased at this time, and the sad mood should be controlled.
What are the taboos after the funeral?
Avoid going straight home.
You can't go straight home after a funeral or after someone else's funeral. You can go to temples or places with heavy traffic first, which will help you get rid of bad luck. Take off your clothes before entering the house so as not to bring bad luck into the house.
Avoid visiting the old, the weak and the sick.
After the funeral, you can't visit the old, the weak and the sick. Because such people are easily affected by bad luck and provoke unclean things, which leads to weak physical condition and easy to get sick. After attending or holding a funeral, it is very taboo to visit the old, the weak and the sick. You must wait a while before you go.
Be careful not to touch the bodies of deceased relatives.
Be careful not to touch the bodies of deceased relatives.
Be careful not to touch the bodies of deceased relatives. In fact, birth, illness and death are the normal state, and elders will accompany us to die at a certain age. For the deceased relatives, there are actually many taboos and stresses. Let's share the attention below. Don't touch the bodies of deceased relatives.
Be careful not to touch the bodies of deceased relatives 1
1, be careful not to touch the bodies of deceased relatives?
There is a related saying that you can't touch. It is said that after the death of a relative, the internal organs will stop working. If the family members are emotional, touching the deceased may leave some traces. In order to let the loved ones leave many places with dignity and cleanliness, they can't touch them.
Another reason is that the body's immune system stops after death, and the human body will become a natural culture medium for bacteria and viruses. If contact may cause the spread of bacteria, etc., contact is not recommended.
Be careful not to touch the bodies of deceased relatives.
Afraid of deformation of the remains. Some netizens said that they were not allowed to contact local relatives after death, mainly for fear of deformation of the remains. After death, the body will become cold and stiff. In this state, it is best not to touch it at will. After the death of relatives, relatives will be more sad. If you don't master the degree in the process of touching, it may lead to excessive force and body deformation. In order to avoid this situation, it is not recommended that family members contact the body.
Be careful not to touch the bodies of deceased relatives.
Avoid leaving a shadow. There is a saying that when the old people in the family die, they generally don't let the very young children see each other for the last time, and they don't let their bodies touch each other, mainly because they are afraid of leaving a shadow in their hearts. When an old man dies, his face will turn pale and even horrible. In this case, in order to prevent children from having a bad impression on their loved ones, they will choose not to let their children contact them. According to the local customs, there is no unified view on whether it can be touched.
Be careful not to touch the bodies of deceased relatives.
Why can't you touch a dead man's hand?
Many people think that there will be a soul after death, and the soul can go back and be reborn after leaving the body. And some family members will cry because they can't bear the death of their loved ones, but in this case, the deceased will miss the world and feel uneasy. Although people in the world don't know where they will go after death or what the world will be like after death, if the souls after death don't want to go to the underworld, it's because they need something to possess, then the things before death are the best choice.
Taboos after the death of a lover
1. Never touch the body of a loved one who has just died: 8- 16. A few hours after death, the immortal will only leave the body after going through four major laws. Don't touch the dead body at this time. A slight' touch' will make the deceased like a thousand pieces, extremely painful, and the pain will make the deceased angry and resentful.
Don't cry loudly when your loved one dies. People who really cry make the deceased feel nostalgic and sad. Some false forms of crying and wailing make the deceased feel angry and cautious, neither of which can make the deceased peaceful.
3. Don't prepare for the funeral immediately within 16 hours after the death of a loved one. Keep the whole room quiet. All relatives and friends or the closest relatives will say to the deceased: If you leave, there is no need to miss things in the world, and each of us will go your way now. In the same way, let the dead put it down, put it down. At the same time, chanting: there is no Amitabha Buddha or Bodhisattva holy name in the south. May the power of Buddha and Bodhisattva help the dead.
4. When being the seventh, it is far better for a close relative to sincerely recite Buddhism than to pay for a monk or nun, unless the monk is a real monk and a nun is a real nun.
5. In Cixi's so-called "excessive meals", killing chickens and fish and killing life will make the deceased feel resentful and increase the karma of the deceased. Within 49 days, if relatives can be vegetarian, it is better than a thousand ceremonies.
Be careful not to touch the bodies of deceased relatives.
There are three mainstream views on this matter. First of all, the body of the deceased is different from normal people, and it is inevitable that there will be fear.
With the increase of time, the corpse will gradually show some death characteristics because of the longer death time of the deceased, and even because of physiological reasons, the corpse may move, which is likely to cause psychological burden to relatives.
Secondly, relatives touching the body of the deceased will add to the pain of the reborn to a certain extent. In order to avoid this situation, relatives are not advised to touch the body of the deceased.
Finally, in China's thousands of years of inheritance, we have great respect for the dead. The deceased is the biggest, and some people think that the remains are unlucky, which will affect the fortune of the living after contact.
However, there is a scientific explanation, not a feudal superstition, for why doctors and other related personnel should keep people away from the remains of the deceased.
No matter how a person died before his death, he should be given a decent face after his death, and when the deceased died, most of his relatives were emotional and uncontrollable.
Under intense emotions, the remains are likely to be deformed because they can't control their own strength. In order to prevent relatives from destroying the remains in excitement, they will not let relatives directly contact the remains.
In addition, there is another key reason why family members are not allowed to contact the remains, that is, to ensure the safety of the living. People are also creatures of nature and have an immune system.
When people die, all the functions of the body gradually strike, the body gradually becomes cold and hard, and the immune system naturally no longer works.
But at this time, there are still many cells in the human body operating normally, and there are also various bacteria and viruses in the human body, which begin to multiply rapidly in the vegetative body. Therefore, the relevant personnel advised the family members not to touch the remains of the deceased.
After death, in fact, the corpse is not only the human body, but also the medium of large-scale bacteria and viruses of moths, so the direct contact between the living and the remains is likely to become the medium of bacteria or viruses.
Therefore, if contact is necessary, disinfection is very important, but not everyone will become a "culture medium" after death, but it is still risky and direct contact is not appropriate. Therefore, doctors and other related personnel are also for safety reasons, not feudal superstitions.
Be careful not to touch the bodies of deceased relatives.
Four taboos after the death of a loved one
Don't touch the body of a recently deceased relative.
Shortly after his death, although his physical function stopped working and he was completely dead from a scientific point of view, his knowledge and soul did not leave immediately. Therefore, in order to respect the deceased relatives, don't touch their bodies when they just passed away.
Especially the face, there is an old saying in China that the dead are the biggest, so we should respect the dead and never touch them. There is a saying that during this period, the soul of the deceased will experience four major separations, and the slightest touch will make the deceased very painful. In order to make the deceased relatives feel more at ease, don't touch them for 10 hours after death.
Don't shed crocodile tears.
It is normal to cry when a loved one dies, showing grief and regret for the deceased. But only sincere crying can keep the deceased in the world, and those false crying can't let the deceased rest in peace, and even show great disrespect to the deceased.
Don't cry loudly when you are in the mourning hall, so as not to disturb the soul of the deceased. As relatives, we all hope that the deceased can walk with more peace of mind. When we are dying, we need more attention. Don't shed tears for the dead. It is unlucky to shed tears on a corpse.
You can't visit relatives and friends during the funeral.
There will be a period of mourning after the death of a loved one. During this period, although you can work and rest normally and go to work and go to school, it is best not to travel far away or visit relatives and friends. In particular, some festive activities, such as weddings, opening ceremonies or other people's full moon banquets, are best not to attend during mourning, so as not to bring bad feelings to others.
During the mourning period, be pious and sincerely cherish the memory of the deceased. In addition, there are many things to pay attention to during mourning. For example, immediate family members are not allowed to wear some brightly colored clothes, and some entertainment activities are prohibited during mourning. In the first year after the death of an immediate family member, red couplets are not allowed at home.
Shroud taboo satin fabric
After the death of a relative, the living will prepare a shroud for him, but there are also many places to pay attention to in the process of shroud preparation. For example, the number of films prepared is generally odd, not even. In addition, the fabric of the shroud is also very noteworthy. Generally speaking, fabrics such as satin cannot be used.
Satin homophonic "Duan Zi" is unlucky and will affect future generations to some extent. Most shrouds will be made of silk, which means that future generations are blessed and full of children and grandchildren. Even if I die, I hope my descendants will have more good blessings and be blessed.