Since it is about winning back an ex-girlfriend, there is definitely a difference between trying to win back an ex-boyfriend. Here I will talk about this question from the perspective of how a man can win back his beloved ex-girlfriend and give my answer. (Don’t focus on the technique, but the core).
Of course, you may not be able to fully understand and agree with what I say now, but when you have really grown up and matured after many years, you will look back and think about my words. You will know that Noxi is difficult for you now. You just need to try to understand it and then do it.
You need to first understand some basic core concepts, which are very important for men. If you don’t even have such patience, then I think you can give up directly, because you are so impetuous, Frankly speaking, it is difficult to gain true love from a woman, including her of course.
Think, think carefully and understand the following questions (write your answers carefully): Why do women like you? What is it about men that attracts girls? What do you do to make women like you? Soul torture: Can being a dog licker be good for women and increase your attractiveness? Are you working hard to win women's likes? Or are you praying for a woman to like you? How to win her back?
OK, I believe you already have your own answer, so now let’s analyze and sort it out with Noxi (recovery is not simply relying on routines, because if you rely on routines, even if you can temporarily recover, this kind of recovery will be False, redemption is the growth and change of thinking!). 1. Why do women like you?
To understand this problem, it is actually very simple. You have to think about a very simple question: Why do you like women? Yes, that's right, I believe there must be one point in your answer: because she has "femininity".
That’s right, Nuoxi is also a man. Why do I like some women? It’s because they are full of femininity in my eyes, including curvy figures, long hair reaching waist, fair skin, and personality. Gentle, virtuous and considerate, etc., right?
I believe that few boys would like girls who look very "manly".
Let’s actually look back at our question: Why do women like men?
It’s easy to understand. Women also like men because of their “masculinity”. Of course, some friends will ask: What is "manliness"?
It's very simple. The so-called "masculinity" can be simply understood as the "gender charm point" unique to men that is different from women.
For example, women generally have less body muscle and more fat. So what is the gender attractiveness of men that distinguishes them from women? There is muscle and less fat.
For another example, women are generally more effeminate, like to hesitate in doing things, have no ideas, are timid, fragile, and anxious. It is very simple. The "gender charm point" that distinguishes women from women is that they are men, not sissies. , assertive, decisive, brave, strong, independent, calm, etc.
Let’s talk more specifically and give an example to help you understand what “masculinity” is: For example, when encountering difficulties in life, a woman may frown. Then the masculinity at this time is that you have a grand spirit. "That's not a problem" has a positive attitude, which gives her a sense of security. For example, if there is a quarrel, women will be more hysterical. Manliness means that you are tolerant and generous. When she is making trouble, you are laughing? For another example, after being broken up, a woman will be desperate and may come to beg a boy. At this time, a man should be strong. Even if I am in pain, I will let you see it!
So, do you understand? Why women like men is because men have masculine qualities that attract them.
Now, look back at yourself and list some of your behaviors that are in line with the above-mentioned masculine qualities and which ones are very feminine. 2. What is the attractive point that attracts girls to men?
Appearance is equally important for boys, and girls also look at face and figure, so don’t believe anyone who tells you that men don’t need to care about appearance!
You may not be handsome or tall by nature, but you can work hard to be clean, tidy, and sunny. At the same time, pay attention to your standing and walking posture, not to be hunched or splayed, and to make your face and hair neat. Refreshing is basically half the battle.
Then, in addition to appearance, other things that are equally important, or more important, I will talk about from 11 points and aspects (actually there are many more points, space is limited, if you like it, I will add more and Update it), and try to give specific examples and suggestions that can be operated and understood, so that everyone can better understand and practice: Social resource share. Potential stocks and good economic prospects. Good figure and love of sports. Funny and humorous. Confidence, sunshine, strong heart, charisma, decisiveness and bravery, social skills, good circle of friends, potential of a good father, loyalty and sincerity
Share of social resources. As a boy or a man, you need to occupy social resources. To put it bluntly, you need to have financial strength and social status.
This is very important. This does not mean that girls are materialistic, but from an evolutionary psychology perspective, what girls need is survival value and a sense of security. They need their partners to provide a safe and stable existence for themselves and their offspring. environment. Is Liu Qiangdong handsome? Why does Milk Tea like Liu Qiangdong?
There is another very interesting sentence. Do you prefer crying in a BMW or laughing on the back seat of a bicycle? One clever answer is: "I like being fucked in a Rolls-Royce with my hair disheveled?" , this is a joke, but it also has existential significance, showing that girls really value men’s social resources and wealth.
Nuoxi’s suggestion: It’s very simple. As a boy, do you have to work harder to make money and work harder for your career? Don't blame girls for the reality. As a man, you let a girl who could have a better life choose to suffer with you. This is actually a selfish performance in itself.
Potential stocks and good economic prospects.
As a boy, you can be temporarily poor, and many girls won’t mind, but you have to at least let the other person see your potential. You have the opportunity and potential to give her a better future and living conditions. . A girl can accept you being poor for a while, but she cannot accept her man being hopeless and hopeless for the rest of his life.
Nuoxi’s suggestion: As a boy, you may not have money, but at least you must show your ambition and hard work to give your woman hope and vision for the future.
Good figure and preference for sports %20As a boy, maybe you are not handsome, but at least you can control your figure and work hard. Girls prefer boys who look healthy and sunny. You don’t have to be handsome, but you have to be stylish.
Nuoxi’s suggestion: Maybe you are not very handsome, but doing more exercise and fitness will always increase your attractiveness.
Humor This is very important. In reality, we always find that some boys are not handsome, may not be tall, and have no shape, but many girls like them, or their relationships go smoothly. Often when we delve deeper, we will find that such boys all have some unique characteristics. They are humorous, good at chatting, and have high emotional intelligence.
Note that humor is not about being clever or mean-spirited, nor is it malicious ridicule. It is rather a sign of confidence and maturity, a kind of calmness in the face of danger, and the ability to remain calm despite the overwhelming pressure. Calm. For example, for example, a girl is dressed very beautifully today. If you say: "You are dressed as if you are a professional woman of some kind today", or "Are you trying to seduce me by being so beautiful today?", these are not appropriate, mouth. Cheap and low-end.
So if, for example, you are sick and have a fever, and a girl cares about you and wants to touch your head to see if it is hot, you can say: "Don't touch it, or I may burn you." This is a very humorous question. That's right, especially when you're in a difficult situation.
Nuoxi’s suggestion: Improve your sense of humor, and pay attention to collecting some better words (I will sort this part out and send it to everyone), but be careful not to go off track, and don’t become a bullshit. And a mean mouth.
Confidence, sunshine, and a strong heart%20 We will always find some boys. When girls come into contact with him, they always seem to have their own light. I believe that if you are a girl, you will definitely agree with what I say. talk. %20A boy's confidence and sunshine will fully increase his charm and increase his attractiveness.
In particular, most girls are actually emotionally sensitive and insecure. If you can show that you are very confident and strong, and all problems are not a problem for you, then it will be easy. Make girls feel a sense of admiration and closeness to you, and they will be close to you unconsciously, just like being close to the sun.
Especially when she is troubled by negative emotions (research shows that most girls are actually troubled by negative emotions...), she will want to rely on you more.
Nuoxi’s suggestion: %20Maybe you have your own problems, maybe you are not so satisfied, but at least you should make yourself look more powerful and confident, so that your woman will have a tree. Can be relied upon. Don't, you are always complaining every day, and you get emotional at every turn. When something happens to a girl, she doesn't do anything, and you become extremely anxious.
Charisma %20Maybe you are not handsome or tall, but you must not be without charisma. %20Is Jack Ma handsome? Tall? No, but I believe that many women admire Jack Ma. This is not only related to his wealth, but also to his leadership charisma.
A leadership quality that can lead women out of difficult situations is a characteristic of a strong person. %20In primitive times, what kind of males had the right to mate? %20The leader of the tribe. So in modern times, the leaders of those groups are absolutely attractive to girls.
Nuoxi suggested: Maybe you are average now, but you need to work hard to build your leadership personality, such as the courage to express opinions in a group, the courage to take responsibility, and the courage to act. For example, when a group of friends gather, Where to go to play or where to eat, you can do research first, and then make bold suggestions and lead everyone to make decisions. For example, you can make up your mind when going out with a girl, etc.
Never hide yourself all the time, remain unknown in the crowd, and become the kind of follower.
Decisiveness and courage
A very important aspect of masculine charm is decisiveness and courage.
When faced with a choice, being hesitant, hesitating, and struggling repeatedly is not the behavior of an attractive man. It reflects the image of a man who is afraid of the consequences and responsibilities of his choice and has no courage. It will only make girls feel disgusted and look down upon, and of course it will also be detrimental to the career development of boys themselves.
Nuoxi suggests: Cultivate your own decisiveness and courage. For example, if a girl goes shopping with you and asks you which dress looks better, don’t answer “Whatever”, “Both are good”, and You have to be brave enough to help her decide: "Which red one is more suitable for you?" The one with plaid will make you look more elegant.
Social skills
Understanding social animals, then, one of the most direct manifestations of whether a man is strong is whether he can adapt to this group. Therefore, those men who can be welcomed and recognized by others in a group often show better adaptability and stronger communication skills. Of course, it will also make girls feel that such a man is powerful and worthy of choice.
Nuoxi’s suggestion: Consciously cultivate your social skills, improve your behavior, and make yourself more mature. When you attend an event with your girlfriend, or meet her parents and friends Ah, if you can show strong social skills, she will like you very much, she will also have a lot of face, and she will naturally love you more. On the contrary, if you are shy and introverted every time you go out with her or meet friends, she will think you are incompetent and will naturally have a negative impression of you.
A good circle of friends
?How about a man? I need to check out his circle of friends. ?
This sentence is very good. If a girl comes into contact with you and finds that your friends are not of high quality, or that they are fox friends or fair-weather friends, then she will easily attribute you to this category. category and create a bad impression. But if all of your friends are excellent and positive people, she will recognize you more.
Nuoxi’s suggestion: Manage your circle of friends well and avoid ineffective social interactions. This is meaningful for both your love and career.
The potential of a good father
Girls choose men, especially for long-term relationships such as marriage. Many considerations are made for the next generation, such as whether this man will be a good father? If the answer is yes, she is naturally more likely to be satisfied with you.
Nuoxi’s suggestion: Try to show your love, let yourself have more love and patience, and control your temper and emotions, so that you can more easily win the favor of girls.
Loyalty and Sincerity
When women choose a long-term relationship, they will attach great importance to a man’s loyalty. Therefore, if you look more reliable and down-to-earth, it will often be easier for girls to like you.
But please note that loyalty and sincerity refers to you being towards the girl you like, but it must not be the timid behavior you show towards every girl. It is easy to go astray and give people the impression of being too serious. impression. You can contact and have fun with girls when you are single, but once you have a goal, you must show that she is special and you treat her differently from other women.
Nuoxi’s suggestion: In a long-term relationship, pay attention to the distance between you and the opposite sex. If you like her very much, it is best not to have too close contact with other girls.
So during recovery, you have to re-examine these points, find your own weaknesses and deficiencies, and make additions and changes. 3. What do you rely on to make women like you?
The previous analysis of masculinity and the main attraction points of men, here you have to think about, including your recovery, what do you want to rely on to make her like you or even change her mind?
Here is a SWOT analysis method to analyze your strengths and weaknesses in recovery. It is also the one I first and often apply in recovery consulting. Of course, I believe there will be others soon. The so-called consultants come to plagiarize.
The details are as follows. You can list your advantages and disadvantages in trying to win her back, and think about what you can rely on to win her back. 4. Soul torture: Can being a dog licker and being kind to a woman increase your attraction?
First of all, you need to understand that being kind to a woman may lead to her being moved, but being moved%20?%20 attracted< /p>
Yes, maybe your kindness can win a woman's affection, and she may even be with you, but being moved and being kind to a woman, especially pleasing her, cannot win her love.
Don’t use sincerity as the main asset to make the other person fall in love with you, because once a man tries to win the love of a girl and just relies on his sincerity to impress the other person, it is actually quite incompetent in itself.
We should first be clear that the strategy of impressing/touching is mainly based on "moving" the other party, while getting the target to like is based on "attracting" the other party.
Touching is a social strategy to cater to and please the other person. "Moving characteristics" include: submissive, low-status, ingratiating, and low self-confidence.
The "masculine traits" that attract girls are often the opposite of catering and pleasing, including: self-confidence, decisiveness, chic, and high status (women always like men who can be admired by them)
Comparing "Characteristics of Touching" and "Characteristics of Charming Men", we clearly found that: touching women and attracting women are actually contradictory and run counter to each other. In other words, when a man tries to impress a girl, his attraction Force is actually already subtracting.
So, many times, you think you are being nice to women and chasing love. In fact, your behavior not only does not add points to yourself, but actually makes you look less manly. Damn it, because a confident, brave, and decisive man will not cry and whine, and constantly try to please and cater to women. 5. How hard are you trying to win a woman’s love? Or are you praying for a woman to like you?
What women want is to conquer, not to kneel down and lick. You can only conquer the woman you love like a knight, but you should not beg the goddess to give you love like a humble beggar.
Just imagine, a man can’t even protect himself and has made himself so embarrassed. How can he prove that he can bring a woman a safe haven?
It is right to be nice to a woman, but it is wrong to be nice to her unconditionally, without any bottom line, and without considering what the other person needs.
One of the moral kidnappings that some people are best at is, "I'm so good to you, so you should fall in love with me." In fact, if you think about it carefully, is his kindness to you really selfless? Is it really based on "loving you" or is the purpose of "possessing you"? A very simple way to tell is, if you think you will be happier if you leave him, will he sincerely bless you or will he use various tricks to keep you? In the former, he loves you for your happiness, and in the latter, he does it for himself. Most of the time, whether we love the other person or the other person loves us, it is the latter.
So, the question now is actually: Can you retain a woman by treating her well? The answer is no. You are trying to make her fall in love with you and keep her by treating her well. Something is wrong all around.
What women want is to conquer, not to be moved.
Many girls can be moved, but very few can truly conquer them. Trying to keep a woman by treating her well is a typical example of "I want apples and you give me a cart of pears".
What's more, I have always felt that being nice to a person is not about asking for help, doing laundry and cooking, and being careful everywhere, but about giving the other person an ideal lover, and the vast majority of girls don't need one. A squire, but a knight.
The prerequisite for a woman to love you is to respect you, and add a little admiration or admiration to the management that is enough to maintain a long-term relationship.
When a man constantly puts down his self-esteem, compromises and apologizes unprincipledly because he is afraid of losing his girlfriend, then he is forcing the girl to love him even less. Respect is the basis of love, and as a boy, you keep compromising, please without principles, and admit everything you are wrong or right. Do you expect the person you love to respect you? impossible.
What women need is a "man", not an unmanly boy.
How can a man who compromises blindly and loves women to the point of no principle be called a man? In the eyes of women, he is at most like a child in need of care, or even a sissy. I said it more directly, so I hope you'll forgive me. In a world where only boys exist, women are the only ones who surround her all day long and cannot do anything without her. How can you make her feel that you are manly? Manliness is being assertive, decisive, knowing what you want, and knowing that you don’t need to be nice to a woman, but she needs you, so you are the one who appears in front of her as soon as possible. You can let her rely on you, not you. Lean on her. On the surface, your boyfriend is treating you well, but in fact he is the one who needs to rely on you. Six: How to redeem her
If I were to talk about the routines and chatting techniques in detail here, I could actually go into them in a few days, so let’s talk about a key core element. Once you have a deep grasp and understanding of this, you can win her back. It's not difficult.
This factor is%20?%20You have to become a real "man"!
As I mentioned in the previous points, a big reason why boys are dumped by girls is that men have lost their masculine charm, but some boys still think it is because girls set off He is poor, but he is not. Most girls are actually not that realistic. Even if you let her love you, she will be willing to suffer no matter how much you suffer, but there is a prerequisite, you must let her fall in love with you, otherwise What is this girl drawing?
Therefore, one of the most basic and critical elements of recovery is that you have to follow what I said above and think about whether you still have masculine charm when you get along with him: Are you decisive in doing things? Are you motivated? Are you strong and full of positive energy? Are you tolerant and not careless? Are you independent and confident?
Wait...
If you look back and find that after you get together with her, you become a mother-in-law. You care about every little thing with your girlfriend and get angry when nothing happens. , or looks fragile and has various negative emotions, is not independent, and even follows what others say. There is no use in taking charge of her when she needs you%20. . . After the breakup, I was so miserable that I had to kneel down and lick her.
So, look at you now. Are you the same as the manly man I mentioned above? If not, you should know why she doesn't love you anymore, what you should do, and what kind of man you should be.
If a man wants to recover, the first step is to stand up and be a real man, be brave, strong, decisive, confident, calm and positive, and find your manliness, because you kneel down I also knelt for a long time.
For example, if the girlfriend in the question is very ruthless, then I suggest you be more ruthless and free-spirited than her! (Of course, the specific reasons for the breakup need to be analyzed here. If it was because you were not good to other girls before, that is another matter). You need to make him feel that you are a man. Even if you are in pain, you still have your principles, and Only if you have a strong heart and can quickly adjust to a good state and start a new life will she look up to you! Only then can I fall in love with you again!
Don’t: give gifts; learn to cook for her; write a letter of apology; pick her up from get off work; send useless sentiments; . .
Because all these will make you look less masculine and less attractive, and she will dislike you even less and think it’s right to break up with a cowardly boy like you!
Breaking up is a blow to a man, but it is also an opportunity to make a comeback and let her get to know you again. Use the breakup to let him see your strength and your inner strength to conquer again. she! Make her fall in love with you!
PS: Emotions are complicated and there is no universal formula. Specific issues must be analyzed in detail.
I am Yan Nuoxi. If you cherish each other, it comes from the poem. If flowers bloom, we cherish each other, and when flowers fall, we should never leave each other. The fragrance of flowers fills your clothes, and the flowers and leaves are miserable. The drunken words and flowers are full of meaning, and the flowers are as beautiful as they are. Zongjun understands the language of flowers, and the flower hedges are under the frost and snow.
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