Lin was sexually assaulted by her tutor at the age of 65,438+03, so she suffered from severe depression. She can't stand mental torture. She wrote her experience of sexual assault and sexual assault into a novel "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise" and published it. In the novel, Lin pinned her experiences on the four girls in the story.
Lin was interviewed by the media eight days before committing suicide.
In the video, she looks pure and sweet, much like a milk tea sister, but completely plain.
What is even more amazing is her extensive knowledge and profound thinking. Her reading runs through ancient and modern times, Chinese and foreign countries, and her words are quoted by classics, and her posture is indifferent and elegant. Although talking about sexual assault, I can still feel her repressed pain, but she didn't show any gaffes in the whole process.
Who can see that such a perfect and elegant woman will hang herself in a few days?
Lin comes from a high-level intellectual family, and her parents raised her perfectly since she was a child. She is a typical "other people's child" in her parents' mouth.
In the third year of high school, Lin took part in the college academic ability test and got the only perfect score in Tainan Girls' Middle School.
Not only that, the forest with a height of 1.68cm is also versatile. When she was in Tainan Girls' Middle School, she was the captain of the volleyball team and the editor-in-chief of the school magazine. She loves to read "Ancient prose" and original English literature, and won the first prize in the national mathematics contest, and was rated as "the most beautiful baby in the whole grade" by the media.
Lin Yi is really perfect, no matter in appearance, knowledge, demeanor or moral quality. She is as perfect as a work of art, and looking at her gives people the illusion that "this person should only exist in the sky and can be smelled several times on earth".
Her beauty makes me feel distressed. She is too perfect to be true, too perfect to be fragile.
In the video, when she mentioned her childhood experience, she described her pain in three juxtaposed sentences. That's what her psychologist said to her: "You are a person who has experienced Vietnam War, you are a person who has experienced a concentration camp, you are a person who has experienced a nuclear explosion …", while Lin said: "The biggest massacre in human history was the rape of Fang Siqi (the heroine of Lin's novel)."
She also said: "This story tortured and destroyed my life ..."
She confided such a worrying sentence with a cool expression.
If the dogma of "girls should be elegant" is applied, Lin Yike is probably the most elegant woman I have ever seen. Even if my heart is bleeding, I will never show a sad expression in front of the camera.
We often see such children, boys are cultivated to be elegant, girls are cultivated to be ladies, and their moral quality is very high, but we have never heard of the darkness of society and the distortion of human nature.
What will happen if such a child leaves society?
When pure souls encounter the darkness of human nature, great contrast and shock itself is a cruel blow to them!
What is even more frightening is that if this darkness directly persecutes them, they can only feel hurt, feel that beauty is desecrated, but they don't know how to resist!
They won't even cry, because it's not allowed! This is not elegant!
Lin Yike once gently asked his mother for help. She said, "It seems that there is no sex education in our family, right?" Mom looked at her in surprise: "What sex education? Sex education is for those who need sex. "
She hinted that the family needed help, but her mother said that the love between teachers and students was caused by the girls themselves. Later, her parents even hinted that her experience of being violated should never be told, and if she did, she would become a person with no self-esteem.
Therefore, the hidden pain and unspeakable humiliation in Lin's translation can only be vented through such channels as writing autobiographical novels. However, this writing further evokes those unforgettable memories.
She is more and more terminally ill, but her parents are still enjoying the glory brought by her books, interviews and decent weddings.
The perpetrators are hateful, but it is the parents of the children who should be more vigilant! Because of social progress, we can't completely eliminate the existence of evil.
As parents, the real love for children is not to cultivate children into a perfect handicraft for people to appreciate and praise, but to let them know the darkness of society and learn to protect themselves.
Tell your child that if you are hurt, you can cry, vent and even curse!
Give him love, convince him of the beauty of life, and warn him of the darkest side of human nature.
Tell your child that no matter what happens to you, parents will always be by your side.
Yes, as parents, our love for our children should be unconditional!
Because we chose to let them come into this world.
You can't think that she is not perfect just because she was raped. Because he is divorced, you think that he embarrassed you. Because he didn't go to college, he doesn't deserve your love!
If your love is conditional, only the child's Excellence can get your love, then you love not the child, but your own face!
If so, kidnapping a child with this vain love will do more harm to the child.
Lin Yike left a suicide note before her death, and she still felt very guilty about her parents. She didn't say how painful she was. She only said: I'm sorry for my family, I'm sorry for my friends.
Such a child has long been accustomed to leaving pain and humiliation to himself.
Even if she is violated, her first thought is not how to protect herself, but that her parents may be humiliated. So, "I can't say, no one can say."
They are even more afraid to talk to their parents, because they understand that their parents love the "perfect child" rather than the damaged real child.
After Lin's death, her parents also issued a statement saying that Lin's death was due to severe depression caused by sexual assault in childhood.
Their statement was elegant, official and restrained. Just like they taught Lin.
Even if their daughter died, they didn't realize it, or maybe they didn't want to admit their problems.
Of course, I understand their pain, and I don't mean to blame anyone. I just don't reflect, and Lin Yi's tragedy will continue to be staged.
A friend of mine has been abused by her husband all the year round. She wanted a divorce, but her parents advised her to put up with it, saying that the divorced family could not lift its head.
So my friend put up with it.
Later, she was killed by her husband with a hammer. Her child was only 2 years old that year. I saw the news of her death on the news.
My friend, a student with excellent academic performance from primary school, was admitted to the university of 2 1 1 all the way from the countryside. He was sent to graduate school and became a university teacher, which has always been the pride of his parents.
One of my students told me about the feelings between him and his father.
From small to large, no matter what decision is made, as long as it is not illegal, my father will support it.
He said my father's unconditional love gave me a great sense of security.
How strong is this sense of security?
Even though he has been dead for many years, whenever I encounter difficulties, I just close my eyes, as if I could see him standing in front of me and say to me in a calm and powerful tone, "Son, as long as you decide, just do it." Dad believes you! "
Therefore, no matter how difficult things are, I have the strength to persist.
Parents are the way for children to communicate. Your acceptance and tolerance will inspire your child's life, which is the mission of nature and the most sacred right given to you by God.
If one day your child is stung, hurt and insulted, even if it is spurned, forgotten and despised by the whole world, I hope you can still tell him firmly: "Son, the injury will pass, and you still have me."
In the face of children's vulnerability, we should be the last guardians around children, not the last straw on camels.