A film review of where Dolly went.

I don't know why I can cry at any movie in the cinema. What a short-sighted man. I don't want to watch this series of cartoons.

Disney and Pixar are really the guarantee of cartoons. First of all, the most basic story is told. Dolly, who suffers from amnesia, found the story of her parents with the help of a group of good friends.

The scene that made me cry in the cinema was that Dolly found a road paved with shells at the bottom of the sea and guided her home. After finding her home along the shell road, she found that all the roads away from home were paved with shells. In the days when she disappeared, her parents were transporting shells to pave the way, hoping that her daughter would find her way home one day.

Maybe I'm old, and I'm almost old enough to get married and be a parent, and I'm especially moved by these family ties. It seems that only parents in this world can unconditionally tolerate your shortcomings. Even if you suffer from amnesia, they can always encourage you and consider finding the way home for you. So it doesn't matter where Dolly goes. Her parents have been waiting for her at home anyway.

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= = = = synopsis of the story = = = =

This story tells the story of Dolly, a talkative blue face looking for her parents in Finding Nemo 1. Because of short-term amnesia syndrome, all her memories of her parents and family have disappeared. Can she successfully find her long-lost relatives? (No spoilers yet)

= = = = Black spot or a piece of paper = = = = =

Her short-term amnesia syndrome, she can't remember the past, or even what just happened or what she just said, which makes her feel great fear. She always feels that someone has to help herself to make a difference. For example, she hesitated before entering the pipeline and could not remember the simple "left turn, left turn and right turn". Even so, she has lived for so long and has been on the way to find her parents.

Little Dolly's eyes flickered. When she saw a fish, she asked, "Do you know where my parents are?" Some people completely ignore it, and some people kindly ask your parents what their names are, what they look like and where they are. Hearing these questions, the poor guy had to admit that "you asked the point, I don't know." Natural defects made her feel inferior and felt it was her own fault. "Sorry" became her mantra.

I thought of myself, because of the leg muscles, I couldn't keep my legs together when I was straight, and I couldn't complete all the movements involving my thighs and pelvis when I was doing sit-ups, which also led me to walk outside. When I was a child, I felt particularly inferior and was often laughed at by my friends. I made a great determination to change the eight-character step, practice walking the inner eight every day, and then practice walking the one-word step. After several years of change, I finally don't see any difference from others. It's just that my body structure makes me afraid to close my legs. I used many methods, tied it with a rope, pressed it hard with my hands, and sweated all the time. Once I read in the newspaper that I could be corrected by surgery, so I begged my parents to take me to the hospital. After all the tests, I found nothing unusual in my bones.

I am particularly distressed. I told my parents to take me to a hospital in a big city. Someone in the newspaper said that it had been corrected. Mom and dad said that you are not sick, so don't go looking for trouble and study hard. I stopped silently. Whenever I exercise, I feel a little scared, especially when there are sit-ups, back rolls and other sports involving thigh and pelvis transfer. Finally, I went to college, didn't want to take these exams, and didn't dare to wear skirts, because it was too unsightly. A boy I like asked me, do you look good in a skirt when you perform on stage? I dare not tell him the reason, but I still wear pants all day. Later, when I took a taxi or took a bus, everyone said that if I squeezed, my legs would be hard and close together, which would put a lot of pressure on the outside of my pelvis. After a long time, I feel uncomfortable and embarrassed to say.

Later, I met my husband D. When he confessed, I said there was one thing I didn't tell you. What did he say? I said, I didn't want to say it. He begged again and again, and finally he cried. He said, you say, I can bear any result. I said, my legs are not up. He is both funny and angry. Hey, what's this? I thought you were very ill.

Huh? I thought the sky was falling, but there was nothing here. This gave me a great release and relief. At that time, when I let go of this knot for more than 20 years, I found that it didn't have much impact on my life. I still live, work and get along with others.

Just like Dolly's short-term memory syndrome, although it makes her look a little different from others, it will also cause some troubles to herself or others, but there are always other ways. I gave you some money to buy some "goods" at the Value Exploration Salon. These "money" are different. Someone found it while playing. Why is my TA getting less and less? Because the world is unequal and the distribution of resources is uneven. Once when sharing with students in a school, one of the girls said that it reminded her that each of us has different genes.

We are used to looking at shortcomings, shortcomings, deficiencies and incomparable, finding faults, criticizing, accusing and complaining. Once in a training class, the trainer took a piece of paper with black spots on it and asked us, what did you see? Many people say, black spots. The coach said, I saw a piece of paper.

= = = = = = When you meet an undercurrent, you swim all the time = = = = =

MBTI is a measuring tool of personality tendency, which has four dimensions. In the second dimension, we can receive information in two ways, one is sensory S, and the other is intuitive N. People who pay attention to unclear things, big frames, dreams, directions and strategies tend to be N, while those who pay attention to tangible data and facts tend to be S. If you want to give Dolly a rough judgment, I guess it is a little more than N, because when someone asks her what your parents look like, where your home is and where you are going, However, the expectation of society is partial to S, so N-type people are sometimes a little tired and deliberately practice S skills in order to adapt to the environment. For example, people with all kinds of ideas can't say where they want to say it at will, but say it separately. According to a certain logical order, when answering questions, you can't say some abstract words, but concrete evidence and cases.

People in n sometimes don't know what they really want, but they vaguely know where they are going in their hearts, and they walk there by feeling. A few years ago, I imagined that there would be friends and like-minded friends at home, drinking tea and talking about how to do things. Before that, I had never made any friends in Wuxi, except my colleagues at work. Two years after I had this idea, our volunteer partners drifting English books got together, once in my study. While tidying up tea sets and snacks, I suddenly realized that an old idea had come true unconsciously, although I didn't have any plans before, just by feeling.

I have left the workplace for more than 4 years and have done 1 to 1 consultation, group counseling and training. Now I'm still a freelancer. What should I do in the future? Actually, I'm not sure. The general direction is what affects people's hearts and helps them grow. I believe that as long as I have this idea of "going home" in my heart, I can find Nemo and his father, as well as friends and teachers with "special functions" such as seven-claw fish, dragons and dolphins. The shells that lead me will also appear at some time, and "home" will pave all kinds of shell roads for me and let me find "home".

Since N-type people can't tell the truth, then "swim all the time when you meet an undercurrent", we can always reach the other side we want to go.

= = = = = Help others and yourself = = = =

Nemo's father said that Dolly had helped Nemo's father cross the ocean to find Nemo. Dolly said she didn't remember. This kind of help is not intentional. It may be a habit of one's own, or someone who sees a similar situation, or someone who wants to be, wants to help. Often this kind of help will in turn help yourself.

I remembered a passage from Oprah's speech:

If you are injured, you need to help others alleviate their pain; If you are in pain, help others in pain; When you are in trouble, you will help others out.

If you feel pain, you have to help others alleviate the pain; If you are experiencing pain, you must help others heal their inner pain. When you are confused, help others clear their minds, and you will understand yourself.

-Oprah, 2008 Stanford Graduation Ceremony

I had a similar experience in consulting work, that is, I found that when a visitor's situation improved, it was also very enlightening for my personal growth. For example, a visitor doesn't want to ask for help. When he is in trouble, he always takes it with him. Through consultation, we found that TA was afraid that others could not hold it and could not solve the problem of TA, so it was always hard to bear it. And I can be similar sometimes. When TA trusts me, tell me the secret in her heart, and then we will discuss it together. Finally, he came up with a countermeasure. In life, I slowly put down my high profile and showed my weakness in front of my family and friends. I found that I also gained a lot of care and help, and my life was more motivated.

A psychological counseling teacher once said, to some extent, you are not helping visitors, but visitors may promote your growth.

When we help others, we also help ourselves.

= = = = Try it yourself = = =

When Dolly was thrown to a strange place, it was dark and silent, and there was no one around, so every day should not be called the ground. I wonder if you have ever encountered such a situation? Once I went to Shanghai to attend a training, I happened to meet the heavy rain that I haven't seen in decades. The high water on the road didn't reach my knees. I had to go back to the hotel, put on sandals and walk to the training building in high heels. There was too much water on the road, and suddenly my toes hurt. What did I step on? I stopped and found that my toe was cut by a rusty wire. The wound was soaked by rain and I felt very cold. I couldn't get a taxi, so I had to endure the pain and continue walking. The pedestrians on the road are in a hurry, and my family and friends are not around. At this time, I am alone. Like Dolly, I keep comforting myself. It's okay. It's okay. I'll be right there. There must be a way to deal with it when we get there.

Dolly comforted herself and said, okay, okay, what's around now? There's seaweed. Yes, seaweed. Then she swam in a certain direction and gradually the water began to brighten. She heard Huang Jianxiang's voice and saw the shell. Although they all have happy endings and are cheered by family and friends, they are lonely in the process and need to bear it by themselves. After more than a year's internship, Zhang Gelei and An Ying in "Unborn" never give up when they encounter difficulties, because "the trial is their own business".

= = = = About exchanges and cooperation = = = =

Why did the octopus help Dolly? In fact, he didn't just mean well. He wants Dolly's label, and Dolly wants to find her parents. This bridge is very similar to the rabbit vs fox in Animal City. The rabbit took the recording of the fox's guilt. The fox wants it back, and the rabbit wants to handle the case. So the two reached an agreement. Both can meet each other's needs. If Nemo's father and Nemo already have feelings for her, then she and octopus have a cooperative relationship.

Speaking of cooperation, I just wrote it in my last article. What I value most is equality. This is consistent with the "value exchange" in business. This value is not only what you have, but what the other party needs and you have. I made a mistake in this respect. For example, I think consultation is a very good thing, which can fundamentally solve the problem and has a profound impact. However, most people don't think so. They may just need to know some knowledge and listen to lectures. I was asked to do training the year before last. I said I wouldn't do it. I want to concentrate and just consult. If someone comes to consult, I will do it well. When no one comes, I wonder what to do better. Moreover, at that time, my consulting orientation was career orientation and development, and the demand in second-and third-tier cities like Wuxi was very limited. It took me two or three years. When I found that the ratio of giving and receiving was quite different, when I hit the south wall, I woke up.

Give others what they need and get what they need at the same time.