1. How to write a gift note for both parties to the wedding
The Han people’s etiquette for celebrating weddings can be divided into old and new.
The new style uses floats and bands to bow; the old style uses sedan chairs and drums to play the deacons and kneels down. This is rough.
Today I will describe hundreds of millions of old-style weddings of the Han people as follows: 1. Settling Settling is a ceremony of engagement, also called the setting ceremony. At that time, there were not many marriages between men and women through free love. Generally, it was still through "the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers."
However, people's wisdom has opened up, and both parties to the marriage have a say. Therefore, with the help of a matchmaker (a matchmaker can be divided into a big matchmaker and a small matchmaker.
The big matchmaker is a relative and friend of both parties, and the small matchmaker is a matchmaker), the parents will tell their children about the situation, along with a photo of the other party. If both parties are interested, they can propose to meet in person. The matchmaker chooses a suitable place for the two parties to meet each other, and it is just a sneak peek.
If you don’t find any major disability after facial recognition, you must calm down. When the ceremony is scheduled, a specific date must be chosen to go through a matchmaker, the token given by the man to the woman will be transferred to the woman, and the Geng Tie of both parties must be replaced.
The tokens are usually rings, bracelets or small gold and jade, etc., which are considered valuable by the man. The Geng Tie is a folded post with the birthdays of both men and women written on it. Generally, dragon and phoenix stickers printed by paper shops are used.
There are two folds of Long Feng Tie; they are in different colors, one red and one green. The red one belongs to the man, and the green one belongs to the woman. There are yellow dragon and phoenix patterns printed on it. The birth dates of "Qian Zao" (man) and "Kun Zao" (female) are written side by side in the middle of the post.
The husband will prepare the Geng Tie rules and ask someone to write them. People who write Geng Tie are required to be "full-blessed people" and not "four-eyed people".
The so-called "Full Blessed Person" is a person whose spouse is still alive, and those with children are better. However, if his wife is pregnant, he becomes a "four-eyed person" and is not qualified. While the man's Geng Tie and tokens are delivered to the woman, the matchmaker takes the woman's Geng Tie back and completes the placement procedures.
The wedding ceremony can also be carried out by both men and women by mutual agreement, choosing a restaurant to entertain the matchmaker, and both parties can do it in person, select an auspicious date for the wedding, and then go through the formalities. 2. Gifts: The groomsmen formally notify the bride of the agreed wedding date and give the bride the clothes and jewelry she wore on the wedding day.
There are also gifts for the woman. Gifts include goose wine (double goose and double wine or single goose and single wine); fresh fish, pork legs, lamb legs, pastries, etc.
(The pastries are usually Longfeng cake, Zhuangyuan cake, and crystal cake) Goose, wine, and fish each have one shot. Clothes and jewelry can also be lifted with high picks (for high lifting, a rectangular table is used, with small railings around the table, and two sticks passed under the table, and two people carry it).
For other foods, food boxes (rectangular double-layered large wooden boxes placed on a wooden frame with a stick in the middle and two people carrying them) are used. The above-mentioned items were escorted by two big matchmakers (one male matchmaker and one female matchmaker, both of whom were officials).
Afterwards, the woman should give a pig leg and a lamb leg each to the two matchmakers to express her gratitude. 3. Dowry payment The dowry payment is one or two days before the wedding day. The woman will send the items accompanying the bride to the man.
At that time, the items prepared by the woman generally included clocks, bamboo mats, hats and mirrors, tea cans, food circles, tea sets, toiletries, toilet utensils, etc., as well as boxes, clothes, bedding, jewelry, etc. The home also provides wooden furniture. In addition, there is a lamp of longevity, which is a lampstand made of copper or tin that lights the lamp grass.
Some transportation tools include high picks and "wobo" (that is, hired workers who carry them on their shoulders). Those using high lifts can be divided into thirty-two lifts, twenty-four lifts, and sixteen lifts.
This depends on the woman’s economic conditions. If the load is less than 16, you will need a porter to carry it.
In addition to the two big matchmakers, the woman needs to be accompanied by two or four male guests. After the dowry is delivered to the groom's family, the groom will properly place the items in the new house and ask the official who brought the dowry to see it.
Some families also hire trumpeters to play outside the new house, which is called "ringing the house." 4. Wedding: The etiquette performed according to the customs of the time on the wedding day is the wedding.
"A long drought is followed by sweet rain, meeting an old friend in a foreign land, the night of flowers and candles in the wedding room, and the time when the gold medal is named." In our country, marriage and weddings have always been regarded as one of the joys of life.
For this reason, the man who presides over the marriage must post a message to invite relatives and friends, indicating which man or grandson he is "married to". The bride is welcomed in a large sedan chair carried by eight people with red satin and embroidery.
In front of the sedan, there are pairs of umbrellas, pairs of mirrors, twenty-four or thirty-two players (including eight-sided drums), plus unvoiced music. In front are various flags, silent avoidance cards, pairs of fans, several pairs of golden lanterns, gourds, axes, and heavenly stools, etc. The front is a pair of gongs to clear the way.
If the bridegroom welcomes the bride in person, eight people with green sections and embroidery will be added to carry a large sedan, with the groom sitting in it and walking in front of the red sedan. As for the entourage, there are matchmakers, groomsmen, bridegrooms, and bridegrooms, etc., who then take the car and go to the woman's side to marry the bride.
After the bride’s bride’s side is reached in the wedding procession, the groom will pay homage to the bride’s wedding officiant and invite the bride to get on the sedan chair. The groom will sing congratulatory poems and praise the bride at the same time. If you invite the bride to get on the sedan, say "please invite the new noble to get on the sedan, please..." After three invitations, the old man helps the bride get up.
The bride sits cross-legged and lowers the sedan curtain. The groom still leads the procession in a green sedan chair.
The groom usually wears the traditional formal attire prescribed by the nation - a blue robe, a green mandarin jacket, a small hat, and blue satin powder-soled official boots. When welcoming the bride, she wears only red. When she arrives, the bride invites her elder relatives to wear another red for the groom, making it a double red. Gold flowers are placed on the hat, and the groomsmen accompany him when he comes.
After welcoming the bride back to the groom’s side, the groom gets off the sedan with the care of the best man and goes inside to rest. The bride's sedan is carried straight to the front of the auditorium, where she gets off and the sedan poles are removed.
At this time, the center of the auditorium was lit with flowers and candles, and the memorial tablets of heaven and earth were placed above, and the invited "old birthday star" (the man's elderly elder) had put incense. Between the offering table and the sedan chair, there are two chairs on the left and right. Two companion sisters-in-law sit on the table, and two companion sisters-in-law sit next to each other.
At this time, Lao Man brought over a tea tray containing five cups of sugar and tea. The sister-in-law and the aunt each have one cup, and the old man is holding the remaining cup. He opens the sedan curtain and passes through the sedan to give it to the bride. Then he will take back the teacups one by one.
The sister-in-law and aunt only took the tea in their hands but did not drink it. After the tea was served, the guest said: "Invite the bridegroom into the hall.
Please..." After three invitations, the best man accompanied the groom into the hall. The person paying tribute followed up with the compliment: "Bow upwards", "Bow to the sedan chair".
The groom bows and exits. At this time, the praising person sang a hymn again and asked the bride to get off the sedan chair.
The bride will be supported by the old man to get out of the sedan chair, stand in the left front direction of the offering table, offer the table, and remove the sedan chair. Then invite the groom into the hall to worship heaven and earth and perform three kowtows.
Stand up after the ceremony. At this time, the person paying tribute said: "Please wish the birthday star a happy birthday, please..." After three invitations, the birthday star came to the hall.
The person who gave the gift handed a gift wrapped in red paper and put a message on it.
2. How to write an invitation for a wedding day
What should be noted when writing an invitation:
① The name of the invitee should be written in full, and nicknames should not be written. or alias.
②Between the two names, you should write "cum" or "和" without a comma or comma.
③The specific date of the wedding (month, day, week) should be stated.
④Indicate the place where the wedding will be held.
Notes on the writing format of invitations:
1. The word "invitation" should be printed or written on the cover of the double invitation card. Generally, some artistic processing should be done, that is, the calligraphy of famous artists should be used. , characters are gilded or decorated with patterns, etc. In some single invitations, the word "invitation" is written in the first line at the top, and the font is slightly larger than the main text.
2. Regardless of single post or double post, the writing of the post is roughly the same. Write the name of the invitee or the name of the invited organization in the top box of the first line of the post. Some invitations put the name of the invitee or the name of the company at the end of the line, and it also needs to be written in the top box.
3. State the content of the activities that the invitee will participate in, such as participating in symposiums, parties, and banquets. The specific time and place should be stated. If there are other activities, such as watching film and television performances, please indicate this on the application form or attach a ticket.
4. At the end, write "Please come", "Salute", etc. In ancient times, this was called "ceremony".
5. The signature should indicate the unit or name of the inviter and the time when the invitation was issued.
Wedding invitation format:
Invitee’s title and title
It is scheduled to be held on XX, XX, month XX (Sunday X)
(Note: The time of the wedding must be written accurately, because it is related to the arrival time of the inviter. It can also be written as the Chinese lunar calendar or added in English [if necessary])
For (1 (Name of the couple) Hold a wedding banquet (banquet)
(Note: It is best to write the names of the couple neatly, usually the man is in the front or left, and the woman is on the right or bottom)
< p> Please (the name of the invitee) to come(Note: it can be written as an honorific to a couple or alone to someone)
XXX, XXX, XXX, XXX Respectfully Invited
(Note: Write the parents of both parties and the groom’s name, side by side, with the elder first
For example:
The groom’s father’s name, the groom’s name, the son’s name
Groom’s mother’s name, daughter-in-law’s name, bride’s name
Names of others invited
Wedding banquet time: Can be the same time as above
Banquet setting: Wedding banquet Banquet location (Note: No need to spell out the hotel name of the wedding banquet. Someone will lead the way so as not to appear stingy)
Handan Aini Wedding Magic House
3. Married How to write invitations
Writing wedding invitations is very particular. You must pay attention to the format and meaning. There should be no typos and the handwriting must be neat. Especially for the elders, the courtesy title must be written. Some elderly people who are very particular about it. If the post If you write poorly, it will be considered disrespectful. The following is my previous experience in writing posts. I hope it can help you. I wish the newlyweds a happy wedding.
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When sending (the name of the invitee) Taiqi (don’t write it later) Note: When sending to the elders, please indicate the courtesy name first, for example: Uncle XXX’s family
When sending friends, pay attention to whether they are married or not, and know if they are not married< /p>
If he has a girlfriend, he should also indicate it, for example: XXX and girlfriend
If he is married, he should add family after his name
Set in XXXX XX month XX day (of course you need to fill in the wedding date, usually write the Gregorian calendar first, then the lunar calendar)
Hold a wedding ceremony for (the two of us)
Please prepare for the wedding Yan hotel name) is waiting for you
XXX, You can consult the hotel.
The parents of the new couple will distribute the stickers
Present the (name of the invitee) with a seal (don’t write it later) Note: Please indicate the courtesy name first when sending to the elders, for example: Uncle XXX's family
When sending friends, please pay attention to whether they are married or not. If they are not married, you should also indicate if they have a girlfriend, for example: XXX and girlfriend
< p> If you are married, you should add your family name after your name (Elders and friends here refer to the elders and friends of your parents)
Appointed on XX, month, XX, XXXX (of course It’s time to fill in the wedding date. Generally, you need to write the Gregorian calendar first, then the lunar calendar)
Hold a wedding ceremony for (my son XXX, daughter-in-law XXX/daughter-in-law XXX, son-in-law XXX)
Prepared Xizuo (name of Baiyan Hotel) is waiting for you
Points) Note: Please consult the hotel for the seat number
4. How to write a gift note for your daughter to add a gift box
When it is time to get married, the man must choose an auspicious date for the wedding in advance. (calculated according to the lunar calendar), write it on a red paper post, prepare gifts, and send them to the girl's house by the matchmaker. It is called "send the day", also known as "send the day", "send the day post", "send the day", "Send daily orders", "Send daily orders". It is similar to the "asking for a date" in the ancient "Six Rites".
In the old days, great importance was attached to the time of marriage. We must choose good luck and avoid bad luck, and choose an auspicious day. People often ask fortune tellers or astrologers to "pick the date." The fortune teller or astrologer uses the birth dates of both men and women, or adds the birth dates of the parents and grandparents of both men and women, to comprehensively calculate an auspicious date for the wedding that does not conflict with each other. There are also people who look through the imperial calendar and choose days based on the taboos in it. In Daejeon, the wedding date must be determined not only based on the birth dates of the man and woman, but also on the birth dates of other family members (except daughters) of both parties. If one person's birth dates conflict with the birth dates of the couple, the date must be reselected.
In addition to the mystical opinions of fortune tellers and the taboos and taboos of the old emperor's calendar, Fujian folk also have popular customary sayings about the good and bad luck of the wedding. In some places, it is taboo to get married in a year without spring. The year without spring refers to the year when there is no beginning of spring. In some places, it is called "the year of the widow". Because the word "widow" in "widow years" is related to words such as "widow", "widowed", "widowed and lonely", it is obviously very unlucky. In many places in eastern and northern Fujian, it is taboo for a woman to marry when she is eighteen or twenty-four, or only one of them is taboo, because the legendary Linshui Lady Chen Jinggu (a goddess believed by the people) was eighteen years old. When getting married, one prays for rain and dies at the age of twenty-four, so for a woman to be married, eighteen and twenty-four are unlucky ages.
As for the season and month of the wedding, Fujian people generally like autumn, winter and mid-spring (especially autumn and winter), and rarely summer. There are taboos about May, July and September in southern Fujian, saying that "there is a mistake in May" ("five" is a homophony of "mis"), "marry a ghost in July" (July is the ghost month), "Nine" The moon has a heavy dog ??head ("Nine" has the same sound as "dog"), which is not good for marriage. The auspicious days for Shaowu people to choose to get married are usually on the sixth, seventh, ninth or twelfth days. Most of the months are in the period of agricultural crops. The autumn and winter seasons after the harvest (i.e. September to the first month of the following year) are avoided in August. Autumn and winter are the golden seasons for autumn harvest and winter storage, and they are also the days of leisure. After the autumn harvest, the family is relatively well-off, so it is suitable for men to marry and women to marry. There is also a folk saying that "harvest in autumn and store in winter", and if you get married before the Spring Festival, "marry a wife to celebrate the New Year", which adds to the festive joy. In summer, the weather is hot, food is perishable, people feel sleepy, and farming is busy. It is inconvenient for couples to live, so they try to avoid holding weddings on both days. In many places, there is a custom of getting married on double days in order to comply with the saying that "good things come in pairs". .
In places such as Yongding and Taining, the woman will generally accept the wedding date given by the man. In Dehua, the woman will reply within ten days. If there is no objection, the man will marry as scheduled. In places such as Fuqing and Luoyuan, the man must first inform the bride's family of the wedding date and then formally write a red note as a "send-off date" in Songxi. The man will send two or three "auspicious days", and the woman will decide one of them. In Shaowu, the "day" will be written on red paper, and the matchmaker will send it to the woman's family on the seventh day of the seventh lunar month. If the husband's family chooses this auspicious date, they will accept the red sticker; if they don't agree, they will not accept it and return it to the husband's family. The groom's family will have to wait for the next year to decide again and send it to the "Chinese Valentine's Day".
The "date list" must not only include the date of the wedding, but also the time when the bride gets on the sedan and enters the door. In some places, it is even necessary to include the following items: the time when the male and female are born in the year of Geng, the time when the Qian Guan Kun is opened (top), and the time when the bed is laid. In Hui'an, two copies of the "date card" for marriage must be prepared, one for the woman, and one for the man to post on the wall of the man's ancestral house or hall to show that he is a couple. In pairs.
When giving away the date, the man must also send the last part of the unpaid bride price and other gifts to the woman, which is called "pressing the date note" and "pressing the date note" in Fuzhou. In neighboring counties such as Changle, Fuqing, and Pingtan, the wedding ceremony is often divided into two stages - the "first half ceremony" and the "second half ceremony". The other half of the betrothal gift is paid at the time of "giving away the day". In Changle, when the man goes to announce the wedding day and delivers the "second half of the gift", he needs to give it with gift cakes, commonly known as "dinri cakes". The bride's family distributes the cakes, weighing hundreds of kilograms, among her relatives, indicating that the auspicious occasion is approaching. There is a local ballad: "Dingri cakes are round and sweet, and my cousin is happy to celebrate the winter solstice." Everyone invites you, I also invite you, relatives and friends all come here to congratulate you on your happy marriage. "After eating Tingri cakes, relatives know the wedding date, and they all give gifts (mostly fabrics, and even gold and silver jewelry for lavish ones) before the wedding day, which is called "adding boxes". In Fuqing, in addition to the "second half gift" ( After paying the bride price), plus gifts such as pig's trotters and noodles; the girl's family will send gift cakes, usually one hundred pairs, called "day cakes", and the boy's family will give "day cakes" to relatives and friends as a sign of prophecy On the wedding day. In Hui'an, the man needs to send the remainder of the bride price, plus two to four pieces of "jinzhanbu" (a kind of indigo-purple homespun cloth), which is called "sun head cloth". It is necessary to bring six bags of cakes and the remaining gift money.
Nowadays, urban residents generally choose the wedding date by themselves or their families, and the date is mostly calculated based on the Gregorian calendar. Few people choose the wedding date. With the gift of "sending a day off", most of the old taboos on choosing a date have disappeared. However, the mentality of seeking good luck and celebrating happiness still exists, and the custom of choosing the right time and leisure time has also continued. Weddings are still mostly held in autumn, winter and spring. Specifically, The time is mostly chosen during holidays such as May Day, National Day, New Year's Day and Spring Festival. In rural areas, the custom of "giving away days" is still popular, and there are not a few people who "pick up days" during weddings. Some traditional taboos are still there. There is a market. For example, on the eve of the Spring Festival in 1988, there was a wedding craze in many places. One of the main reasons was that the "beginning of spring" solar term fell on the eve of the Spring Festival, and 1988 was the Year of the Dragon in the lunar calendar, so marriages were completed at this time. , it is expected that a child will be born in the Year of the Dragon. However, this old custom has gradually faded away and is gradually converging with urban customs.
5. What is the best format for wedding invitations?
What is the content of a wedding invitation? What is the best way to write a wedding invitation?
How to write a wedding invitation well? Let’s take a look at how to write the post! Let relatives and friends witness your happy moments.
How to write a wedding invitation? The text format of a general wedding invitation is as follows: 1. If the groom’s parents and elders invite relatives and friends, it will be written as follows: Only scheduled on October 1, 2010, August 24, 2010 (Friday) in the Gregorian calendar. The wedding ceremony of my son Write the name of the person being invited, such as: On the 4th (Friday), a wedding ceremony will be held for my son-in-law Be seated at :00 (write the names of the invited persons on the cover, such as: Mr. and Mrs. A wedding ceremony will be held for us on August 24th (Friday). The wedding ceremony will be held in the banquet hall on the fourth floor of the XXX Hotel. We are waiting for you. The groom’s name: XXX. The bride’s name: When you are seated (write the name of the person being invited on the cover, such as Mr. XXX); the wedding invitations we buy usually have a format printed on the inside, and you only need to fill in part of it.
How to write a wedding invitation? Formally, it is divided into two types: horizontal writing and vertical writing. Vertical writing is written from right to left.
However, from the content point of view, wedding invitations, as a type of letter, (囍 how to write wedding invitations) have their own special format requirements. Invitations generally consist of five parts: title, title, body, conclusion, and signature.
(1) The title "invitation" (invitation) written on the cover is the standard. Generally, some artistic processing is required. Text in fine art style can be used. The color of the text can be gilded or patterned. Decoration etc. It should be noted that usually wedding invitations have been printed in letter format, and the sender only needs to fill in the text.
The name "invitation" or "invitation" has also been printed directly on the cover. (2) Title: Write the name of the invitee (unit or individual) in the top box.
Such as "Mr. XX", "XXXX unit", etc. Add a colon after the title.
(3) The main text should clearly describe the content of the event, (囍 how to write a wedding invitation), such as symposiums, gala parties, birthday parties, National Day banquets, weddings, birthdays, etc. State the time, place and method.
If you are inviting people to watch a play or other performance, you should also attach the ticket. If there are other requirements, please indicate them, such as "Please prepare to speak", "Please prepare for the program", etc.
(4) At the end, you should write a courtesy greeting or greeting, such as "With my best regards - salute", "Shunzhi - my highest respect", "Please come", etc. In ancient times, This is called "ceremony". (5) Signature: Sign the name of the inviter (unit or individual) and the date of issuance.
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