The meaning of social etiquette refers to the established behavior norms and procedures that people show to beautify themselves and respect others through language, appearance, appearance and behavior in social communication. The essence of ceremony is "respect", which includes the meanings of care, friendship, respect, humility and consideration, and is embodied in politeness, etiquette and etiquette.
Politeness refers to the normative behavior that people use to express mutual respect and friendship in communication, thus reflecting people's cultural level and civilization. Politeness can be divided into polite behavior and polite language. Such as smiling, shaking hands, clapping and bowing are all silent words. Polite terms, such as honorifics and modesty, are all spoken words.
Etiquette-rules of behavior in dealing with people. It is a concrete manifestation of politeness, including the way of treating people, the forms of greetings and greetings, and the manners and clothes in public.
Etiquette-a ceremony to show politeness, is the general name of social festivals and etiquette. Etiquette is tangible, such as celebrations and groundbreaking ceremonies. It is not only bound by etiquette, but also influenced by material standards, folk culture and historical traditions.
Principles of social etiquette
The principle of respect. Respect is the emotional basis of etiquette. Respecting and being kind to others is an important principle in dealing with interpersonal relationships. Only when people respect each other can they maintain a harmonious and happy interpersonal relationship. There are some seemingly insignificant things in life, but they show disrespect for others. For example, visit others without contacting an appointment, and you are welcome to make a surprise attack; Spying into other people's privacy and spreading gossip everywhere.
Principles of social etiquette
Abide by principles. One is to abide by the law, and the other is to keep promises.
Self-discipline principle. Abiding by etiquette requires self-discipline, and the process of self-discipline is the process of perfecting oneself and improving one's comprehensive quality. A polite person can treat others with courtesy, and his actions are not out of line, his manners are not rude and his words are not rude.
Principle of moderation. Distance is beauty, and mastering the emotional scale of communication can often achieve better results.
The principle of tolerance. In the process of interacting with others, be tolerant with a broad mind and learn to put yourself in others' shoes.
Instrument etiquette
Appearance is a person's appearance, including appearance, posture, clothes and manners, and it is the basic factor that constitutes the first impression of communication. Appearance beauty includes three meanings: natural beauty, decorative beauty and inner beauty. A person's good manners and image are like the cover of a wonderful book, which makes people feel that your background and values are trustworthy. Thus, it produces "charm effect", which is conducive to the success of interpersonal communication and career development.
(1) Appearance and demeanor
Obote McRabian, an American psychologist, believes that people's impressions are formed in such a proportion: 55% depends on appearance and image, including clothing, personal appearance, movements, gestures and other silent languages; 45% depends on the tone, intonation, text content and other audio languages. As a professional, the most important image is: good at communication, fluent in eloquence and excellent in writing; Excellent appearance image includes dress, gfd, personal hygiene, hairstyle, nails, figure, manners and so on.
Hair modification. Pay attention to frequent grooming, proper hairstyle and moderate length. Good luck starts from scratch!
Facial modification. Men's facial requirements: shave frequently, trim nose hair and keep teeth and mouth clean. Ladies' facial requirements: Beauty is the most convenient and simple way. Beauty is an important art in life and belongs to the category of life aesthetics. Changing oneself through plastic surgery belongs to the category of medical beauty.
Make-up is a respect for others and for yourself. The shade and style of makeup should consider the specific time and occasion. Usually, the daily makeup is mainly natural, and you can use a little powder; Work makeup should also be fresh and elegant, reflecting the sense of professionalism; Dating makeup can make you look sweeter. Generally speaking, work style and social makeup are "elegant". Clean, refreshing and natural, in harmony with age, identity and environment, to achieve the unintentional state after deliberate modification, is the highest realm of makeup. On formal occasions, it is considered impolite for a lady not to wear makeup.
(2) Manners and manners
Manners are also called postures and postures. Different postures show people's different mental states. Using positive and elegant behavior to express etiquette makes people feel more real, beautiful and vivid, and its role is no less than that of audio language. It not only reflects a person's appearance, but also reflects a person's character, temperament and accomplishment. People can't choose their looks, but their manners and manners can be cultivated and trained with great concentration. The image of success shows people confidence, dignity, strength and ability. Through every move, you are full of the charm of a professional.
Human posture includes standing, sitting and walking postures and gestures, facial expressions and corresponding actions. "Stand like a pine, sit like a bell, walk like the wind and lie like a bow" is the requirement of human posture in China since ancient times. The basic requirements of body language are: dignified, natural, generous and steady, and the harmony of voice, emotion and action.
Stand straight. The basic essentials of standing posture are: head up, chest out, eyes looking straight ahead, jaw slightly closed, mouth slightly closed, smiling, peaceful and natural movements. Stretch your shoulders, sink your breath, feel upward and breathe naturally; The body is straight, and the center of gravity is between the legs to prevent the center of gravity from shifting, so as to stand up the chest, abdomen, waist, buttocks and jaw; The arms droop naturally, the fingers bend naturally, and the palms touch the seams of trousers inward. You can also hold the fingers of your left hand in front of your lower abdomen with your right hand, gently rest your elbows on your hips, and cross your hands behind your back. The soles of the feet stand in a V-shape or a D-shape.
When you stand too tired, you can change your posture: one leg is supported, the other leg is slightly bent, the leg is relaxed, and the center of gravity shifts to the supported leg, but the upper body remains straight all the time. When a man stands, his feet are apart, shoulder-width, and he is microstrip "eight", which can be placed in front or behind his abdomen.
Taboos: Necking, chest-holding, hunchback, bulging belly and ass-lifting. Listless, stagger. Put your hands in your trouser pockets or on your chest.
A dignified sitting posture. The basic essentials of a good sitting posture: smile, eyes looking up, mouth slightly closed, chin slightly closed; Stand up straight, stand tall and stand naturally. Don't stick the table in front, back against the chair. Shoulders flat, arms naturally bent on knees or chairs or sofas; Knees together, don't separate your legs, don't cross in front, or put them in front of each other. Keep your chin and neck unchanged when standing. When sitting and talking, your upper body and legs should turn to each other at the same time and look directly at the speaker.
When a lady sits down in a skirt, she can put the skirt together with the back of her hand to avoid the bottom of the skirt from being "exposed". After sitting, put your legs together, lean on one side, palm down, left palm on your leg, and right palm on your left palm. This sitting posture is more elegant. When a man sits, his feet can be flat on the ground, his knees are separated by about one palm, and his hands are placed on his left and right knees respectively. In social situations, whether sitting in a chair or sofa, don't fill it. Sitting in two-thirds of the chairs shows respect and respect for each other.
Taboo: Bend over and shake your legs. Especially for ladies, don't spread your legs and cross your legs.
A chic walking posture. Basic essentials: calm, steady and straight.
Both men and women should avoid shaking their heads, shaking their shoulders, twisting their arms and splaying their feet when walking. Don't bow your head or mop the floor with your feet. The more you twist your body, the more frivolous it becomes.
Elegant squat posture. Generally, there are three ways to take low-level articles: semi-squatting, high and low, and crossing. No matter what kind of squat posture, don't pout. This is a very unsightly action.
(3) impolite
Improper use of mobile phones;
Chewing gum in public;
Pick your nostrils or ears in public;
Shake your legs in public;
Clear your throat or spit loudly;
Yawn in public;
Littering casually.