1. Who were the people who ate soft rice in ancient times?
Empress Lu’s Shenshiqi
Shenshiqi (shěn yì jī) (? - 177 BC) year), was a fellow countryman of Liu Bang and a native of Peixian County. As a layman, he took care of Liu Bang's wife and children, and gradually became Lu Fei's confidant. Later, he was named Piyanghou. Because he was lucky enough to be with Empress Lu, he was discovered by Emperor Hui of the Han Dynasty and wanted to kill him. But his friends helped him escape. After Empress Lu died, Zhu Lu was killed. Huainan King Liu Chang waited for an opportunity to kill him, and was given the posthumous title Youhou after his death.
Empress Wu’s Xue Huaiyi, Zhang Yizhi, Zhang Changzong
Empress Wu’s male favorites include Xue Huaiyi, Shen Nanxiang, Zhang Yizhi, Zhang Changzong, Liu Liangbin, Hou Xiang, Seng Huifan and others.
The three most famous ones are:
Xue Huaiyi, whose original name was Feng Xiaobao, was Wu Zetian’s first acquaintance. A native of Hubei (today's Yu County, Shaanxi Province), he traveled around the world (selling medicinal materials) and developed a strong body, which is rugged but somewhat handsome. "Old Book of Tang·Biography of Xue Huaiyi"
Zhang Yizhi (? ~705) and his younger brother Zhang Changzong were both favorites of Wu Zetian in the Tang Dynasty. A native of Yifeng, Dingzhou (now Anguo, Hebei Province), he is fair and beautiful, and is good at music and lyrics. "Old Book of Tang·External Biography"
Hope to adopt 2. Does "eating soft rice" mean surrender?
The often said "eating soft rice" really does not mean surrender. .
This is a very insulting statement. "Eating soft food" generally refers to men relying on women to survive. The origin of this slang cannot be verified. I found an article for reference only.
Some people say that this is a Shanghai dialect. With the emergence of many spoiled pretty boys in Shanghai in the old society, it has gradually become a representative of this type of men's lifestyle. Others say that eating soft rice comes from a folk joke. It is said that a long time ago, there was a rich old widow who kept a young lover. One day, the two of them went to a restaurant to eat lotus leaf rice. The waiter asked the young lover: "Who are you two?" Harder food or softer food?" The little lover knew that the old widow had bad teeth, so she quickly replied: "Eat soft food!" The waiter laughed after hearing this: "Old lady, eat soft food. You, a young man, also eat soft rice?" From then on, the term "eating soft rice" was born.
Regardless of its origin, a word "soft" seems to represent the derogatory nature of the word. Because Chinese people’s traditional expectation of men is “hard”. For example, in the word “bone”, adding the word “hard” means that a man has integrity and blood; adding the word “soft” means that a man has no personality and no integrity.
There are countless similar words, such as those who are weak and can be bullied, those who eat persimmons only pick the ones that are soft, accept those who are soft, those who are soft and those who are soft, those who are soft are killed, those who bully the weak are afraid of the strong... In short, as long as the word "soft" is used, There is no good word. Eating soft rice is no exception.
From the first day it was formed, this non-idiom has represented a group of men who are despised. This group includes all kinds of men: ducks who sell their sex to make money; useless men who are fed by women; male subordinates who get promoted by pleasing their female bosses; husbands who rely on their wives' nepotism to make profits... In short, everything Men who do not rely on their own efforts but rely on the protection and help of women to survive, develop and benefit can all fall into this category.
Although men who eat soft food are looked down upon, an interesting phenomenon is: the people who really look down on these men are often men. You rarely hear these three words from women. Those who show disdain and say "eating soft food! What the hell" are nine out of ten men.
In other words, when it comes to the issue of eating soft rice, it is men who have trouble with men. The traditional survival model of Chinese men is that "heaven moves vigorously, and a gentleman strives for self-improvement", that is, he achieves success through personal hard work.
Under this concept, men who rely on nepotism to take shortcuts are often looked down upon by the world. It is reasonable to disdain people who eat soft food or have no soft food to eat, and to dislike those who eat soft food.
The problem is that the disgust of the hater is sometimes interpreted as a kind of jealousy. Here is a classic example of soft rice: Wu Sansi in the Tang Dynasty.
This gentleman is Wu Zetian’s nephew, with a handsome appearance and outstanding talent. When Wu Zetian was in power, her two male favorites, Zhang Yizhi and Zhang Changzong, relied on Wu Zetian's favor and became extremely powerful. Many people were vying to curry favor with the Zhang brothers, but Wu Sansi looked down on these two freeloaders. They were cold and distant.
After Wu Zetian was forced to abdicate, Er Zhang was killed, and Wu Sansi, the "emperor's nephew", also lost his protective umbrella and was in a critical situation. He suddenly panicked and had to put down his "tough guy" airs and adopted a surprising self-protection method: eat soft rice too! He first used a beauty trick to charm Shangguan Wan'er, and then used Shangguan Wan'er to get close to Queen Wei. Finally, he finally succeeded in getting a soft meal and became Queen Wei's male favorite. In this way, his wealth was saved.
If the Zhang brothers knew anything underground, they would definitely exclaim: "Oh my god, I thought you were a gentleman, but you turned out to be a member of the same camp!" What's even more funny is that Song Zhiwen, a famous poet at the time, , was an official of the imperial court, with good appearance and outstanding literary talent. He felt that he should be more qualified to be Wu Zetian's male favorite than the Zhang brothers, but Wu Zetian always refused to favor him, which made him resentful.
So, he wrote an erotic poem to Empress Wu, complaining about why Empress Wu didn't favor him. Wu Zetian saw it and criticized Song Zhiwen in front of the courtiers: "Song Qing, you are good at everything, but you just don't know that you have bad breath!" In one sentence, Song Zhiwen was ashamed of himself, and he was fighting for a soft meal to such an extent. , which is quite a feat of courage! Therefore, when men sometimes have trouble with men, it is not necessarily because they are disgusted.
Sometimes, he couldn’t eat the grapes and said they were sour. Three points of contempt, seven points of jealousy, that's all! There is a scam that is still very popular today, which is recruiting prostitutes. The content is to recruit men with good health and good looks to work as secretaries for women, with a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan.
This kind of trick, which is obvious at first sight, has actually fooled many men, and there are many high-quality and well-established men among the victims. This phenomenon has aroused great discussion among people: it is evident that men have a soft rice complex of getting both sex and profit for nothing.
Men eat soft rice, which is different from women eating youth rice. When a woman acts as a mistress or a lover, it is mostly a naked money and sex transaction, while when a man acts as a mistress, there is basically an element of emotion in it.
Because women are different from men after all. When they decide which man to "cover", she must first like this man. Even if it is just a flesh-and-blood transaction, people are always used to defining the relationship between the sexes as a man. Possession of women. Therefore, the psychological harm a man suffers from selling his lust is far less than that of a woman.
It is this small psychological sense of shame that makes men quickly fall into the role and become content with it. More often than not, men eat soft rice not to solve their livelihood problems, but as a means to make progress.
Men's utilitarian purpose makes eating soft food no longer a shame, but a kind of wisdom. In addition to men, there are women in this world. In any era, anywhere, in any class, there will always be some women who have the ability to help certain men, and there will always be some men who are eager for this kind of support.
As a result, the "post-party", "lady faction" and "nepotism gang", these interest groups with women as the core, have been multiplying ever since humans entered class society. This makes eating soft rice a more broad and profound social phenomenon, and also makes men who are good at eating soft rice and good at eating and drinking have more ability to control society.
In this regard, Zhou Zhirou, the first Air Force Commander of ***, can be called a master. As soon as he took refuge with Chiang Kai-shek's wife Soong Meiling, he prospered under the guidance of Mrs. Chiang. 3. Does "Mianshou" originally mean eating soft rice?
"Mianshou" is a slightly unfamiliar word, but this word once exuded a strange color in the dark corners of Chinese history.
The so-called "face-shou" generally refers to a man who sells his body, but there is only one employer. The main service targets are aristocratic women with high status or power. Later, the term specifically refers to male favorites. . "Mian Shou", as the name suggests, "Mian" means appearance, and "Shou" means first, which can be understood to mean that the appearance is unparalleled in the world.
During the Northern and Southern Dynasties, Liu Ziye, the former deposed emperor of the Liu Song Dynasty in the Southern Dynasty, coined the term "face-shou". Liu Ziye was debauched and cruel, but he was "meticulous" to his sister Princess Shanyin. In order to let his sister enjoy a better life, he carefully selected a dozen handsome young men for his sister and asked them to provide her with sex, and creatively called them The handsome young man is called "face-shou".
The earliest miansou seen in history books is Miao (16〇) Ai (&). The businessman Lu Buwei smuggled Miao Ai into the palace in disguise. From then on, Miao Ai became the favorite of Qin Shihuang's mother Zhao Ji.
Making noodles brought huge practical benefits to Miao Ai. He himself was named the Marquis of Changxin, and both Shanyang Land and Taiyuan County in Hexi became his fiefs. After Wu Zetian became emperor, she also kept many facial heads in the harem. Historical records claim that Wu Zetian had three thousand facial heads, although there is not much basis for it, but it is undisputed that she had many facial heads.
Those who were favored by Wu Zetian include Zhang Yizhi, Zhang Changzong brothers, Shen Nanmiu, Xue Huaiyi, etc. The Zhang brothers were also entrusted with important responsibilities by Wu Zetian as their chief ministers.
It can be seen that both men and women will indulge their desires when inspired by power and money. In this sense, "human beings are inherently evil in nature" may be telling a truth. 4. Who are the most incompetent emperors in history?
During the Warring States Period, King Zhao Xiaocheng was killed by an army of 400,000, turning a powerful country into a cripple. Is there anyone who was more complete a ruiner than him?
Zhou of Shang, Jie of Xia, and King You of Zhou, these three brothers can be regarded as the top three heroes of Qin. Each one is more powerful than the other.
Hu Hai, a typical second-generation rich man, made his fortune as a eunuch and died at the hands of the eunuch.
Liu He, the deposed Emperor of the Han Dynasty, was a transitional prop. It was absurd that he was abolished in a few days, pitiful
Liu Xin, the Emperor Ai of the Han Dynasty, his only contribution to history was to leave the broken sleeves Allusions
Emperor Ling of Han Dynasty Liu Hong, although the fall of the Han Dynasty was not his fault, it did not prevent him from becoming a foolish emperor
Emperor Xiaowu of Jin Dynasty, Sima Yao, was born aggrieved. , died a useless person, if we want to talk about the way of death, he can be regarded as an emperor throughout the ages
Jin Hui Emperor Sima Zhong, a demented fool, I really wonder that he can be an emperor, it seems that there is really a shortage of talents in ancient times< /p>
Chen Shubao, Empress Chen, is really a treasure. Even after being beaten to the door of his house, he is still so determined. He is really not afraid of death.
Tang Zhongzong Li Xian, a strong mother, violent His wife, who has lived at the feet of women all her life, is definitely the emperor who can eat soft food
Li Yu, the empress of the Southern Tang Dynasty, has been passed down through the ages as a poet, but he is a mess as an emperor
Song Renzong Zhao Zhen, in fact, it is unfair to say that he was a coward, but the Northern Song Dynasty declined at his hands, which is an indisputable fact
Song Huizong Zhao Ji, this brother is really comparable to Li Yu, they are the same Talented, equally incompetent, the same. . Prisoner
Zhao Huan, Emperor Qinzong of the Song Dynasty, really had a son as he had a father, but the difference was that he was sent to his door to be a prisoner himself
Zhu Qizhen, the Yingzong of the Ming Dynasty, was the emperor of the Ming Dynasty. There are many famous people, but this one is considered the best
Zhu Houzhao, Emperor Wuzong of the Ming Dynasty, was also a famous emperor in history. Unfortunately, all that has been passed down are romantic and mediocre
Zhu Houcong, Emperor Shizong of the Ming Dynasty, wanted to live forever. It’s commonplace to be immortal, but it’s rare to be as sincere as him
Ming Shenzong Zhu Yijun, the one above has not seen his ministers for twenty years, and he has ignored government affairs for thirty years. Is it the old Zhao family? The fine traditions of the Qing Dynasty
When Emperor Xuandong of the Qing Dynasty unified Puyi, he could not be regarded as a faint emperor, because he had never been in power at all, he was just a puppet in his life. 5. Did Song Jiang really surrender to the Song Dynasty in history?
Surrender! There is indeed Song Jiang in history. The Song Jiang Uprising occurred in the Xuanhe period at the end of the Northern Song Dynasty. The story of the one hundred and eight generals in Liangshan Bo has long been a household name in China with the help of literature and art, and is known to all young and old.
However, only thirty-six of them have ever existed in history. Song Jiang actually existed and has been recorded in official and unofficial histories. Song Jiang's attack on the Huaiyang army and the surrender were in February of the third year of Xuanhe, which was a little later than Fangla's uprising. It was the fierce fighting stage after Fangla had captured Hangzhou and Chuzhou.
Regarding the surrender of Song Jiang, there is a more detailed record in "The Biography of Zhang Shuye" in Volume 353 of "History of the Song Dynasty": "...Zhi Haizhou. Song Jiang rises from Heshuo, abbreviated In the ten counties, no officers and soldiers dared to attack the enemy.
When the enemy came, the thieves approached the seaside and robbed more than ten large boats. They then recruited dead soldiers. Get a thousand men, set up an ambush near the city, then send out light troops to lure the battle away from the sea, first hide the strong soldiers by the sea, wait for the troops to join, set fire to their boats, and the thieves will lose their fighting spirit after hearing this, so the ambush troops will take advantage of them, and capture their second-in-command. Jiang Nai surrendered.
Jiazhi Bachelor, moved to Jinan Prefecture. "This record clearly states that when Zhang Shuye was the governor of Haizhou, south of Lianyungang, he forced Song Jiang to surrender by the sea, and then ascended to Jinan Prefecture. He is the prefect of Jinan Prefecture.
When Hou Meng was the governor of Bozhou, he wrote to Huizong, thinking that if Song Jiang could march across Qi with thirty-six men, Wei must be a powerful man, and suggested that he be pardoned for his sins and allowed to lead troops to conquer. Fang La. The biography does not say whether the emperor agreed with his suggestion, but he was promoted to the prefect of Dongping Prefecture for this reason.
There are two points worth noting: First: From this we can see that Song Jiang had not surrendered when Fangla rebelled. This is the same as the record in "The Fourth Annals of Huizong".
Fang La revolted at the turn of autumn and winter in the second year of Xuanhe, and occupied Muzhou in three months. He was defeated and captured in April of the third year of Xuanhe (two months later than Song Jiang surrendered). The Fangla Rebel Army was a group of rabble-rousers that rose up and dispersed. The period from their inception to their demise lasted for less than half a year.
In fact, even if Song Huizong agreed to Hou Meng's suggestion and asked him to go to Dongping Mansion (Liangshanbo is under the jurisdiction of Dongping Mansion) to be the prefect and preside over recruitment matters, on the one hand, he would not take office before he took office. He is dead (already a sixty-eight-year-old man). On the one hand, even if he waits for him to take office and recruit people, the Fangla Uprising will have already subsided. . 6. What do you think of men who "eat soft food"?
There are actually two types of men who rely on women to support themselves: First, in a normal relationship between husband and wife, women are stronger than men.
If a wife is more capable of working and making money than a man, it may not be a bad thing for the man to lead the household and the woman to lead the household. The status of women in today's society is higher than in the old society, and some women's ability to make money can be fully utilized. She can perform better than her husband, and the husband does not make money (or is not very capable of making money), but he can live a good life. The husband is responsible for taking care of the elderly and children at home. Such a division of labor in the family is not bad. Is it possible for all people to find strong women? Someone who has been through more harm than yourself, or if you can’t find one, you will never marry? Considering that it is difficult for female doctors to marry in today's society, this is really the legacy of male chauvinism. Second, it is "eating soft food" under the abnormal relationship between men and women.
This kind of eating soft rice is the real thing.
1. Duck - be a lover of a rich woman, or directly a male prostitute.
2. Pretty girls - they deceive women into spending money on the pretext of "falling in love". Often these deceived women from good families are either office workers or white-boned women with a medium income. 3. Bastards - the lowest type of jerks are those in coastal cities who let their wives (or lovers) go out to do "business" to pick up "guests" while they hide behind and spend money.
For these "soft rice eaters", I have no other thoughts except disgust. There is no difference between these people and the "four evils". 7. Why was it popular among men in the Song Dynasty to eat soft rice
The Song Dynasty was a dynasty with many problems. It implemented high salaries to support integrity, but it produced a lot of corrupt criminals; it advocated the imperial examination to recruit scholars, but it made the whole country full of leftover men. The leftover woman made several reforms, but the originally harmonious court split into two factions opposed to life and death.
In short, everything failed and problems occurred. Even the social atmosphere at that time was very bad. In some areas, it is common for men to eat soft rice. They lie at home doing nothing like North Korean men every day, waiting for their wives to sell their bodies to make money to support the family. They can really be called the historical role models of today's soft rice men.
The story of men eating soft rice in the Song Dynasty is recorded in "Chicken Ribs" written in the Southern Song Dynasty. The original text is: "Women in both Zhejiang and Zhejiang make a living by dressing up and eating and drinking. Therefore, the home of the common people Those who cannot pay for their expenses are allowed to have private affairs, which is called their husbands, and they come and go openly without thinking it is strange.
Just like the people who live near the temple, the people they follow are all monks, and there are as many as four. Wu Yan." The author of this book is Zhuang Chuo.
He was born in today's Taiyuan area. In his early years, he served as a military commander in Xiangyang. After the Jingkang Incident, he moved south to Lin'an with Emperor Gaozong of the Song Dynasty.
After crossing to the south, he established the General Counsel of the Jianchang Army and the Southeast Pacification System as a staff officer, taking charge of Nanxiong Prefecture and guarding Ezhou and Junzhou. While living in Jiangnan, Zhuang Chuo was fortunate enough to discover this great custom of the Jiangsu and Zhejiang generations.
Local women have a perverted idea that making money by doing legitimate business is a shameful thing and is even worse than being a prostitute. On the contrary, earning a large amount of "black income" is regarded as a matter of honoring one's ancestors, and they just set off two strings of firecrackers.
These women usually get together to discuss which clothes are the most popular at the moment, or which restaurant has produced what new dishes. If you want to eat well but don’t want to make a legitimate living, where will the money come from? Anyway, their husbands have no money, and what kind of wife they have is what kind of husband they have. If the couple is lazy together, they will naturally not be able to live a prosperous life.
So, they turned their attention to a very wealthy man - the monk. Under the instigation of their husbands, many women have fornications with wealthy monks. This kind of thing is called "coupling" in the local area.
Probably because there are too many such things in the local area, women do not do it secretly when they are intimate with their husbands, they do it openly, and the locals do not feel that this is shameful. Because the monks in the temple were very wealthy at that time, most of the women living around the temple regarded these monks as their "husbands."
Some wealthy monks can find four or five women, while some wealthy monks can find one or two women. This kind of behavior, which is regarded as obscene by northerners, is a fashion in Zhejiang and Zhejiang, which makes Zhuang Chuo very addicted.
In fact, the etiquette system of the Song Dynasty was quite strict. Those in power once explicitly stipulated in the form of law: monks and Taoist priests are not allowed to have sexual intercourse! On this point, Song Taizu and Song Taizong were the most strict. In the fifth year of Kaibao in the Northern Song Dynasty (AD 972), Emperor Taizu of the Song Dynasty issued an edict: "Taoist priests are not allowed to raise their wives and children. Those who already have families must be sent out to live abroad."
In September of the second year of Yongxi's reign (AD 985), Emperor Taizong of the Song Dynasty issued an edict: Local officials in the Lingnan area were asked to gradually promote the ban on "monks leaving their wives and children" locally. The law of the Song Dynasty stipulates: "Any monk or Taoist who marries a wife at any time will be considered an adulterer and given a grade of one, and the monk will be sent to a prison for five hundred miles."
However, although the laws of the Song Dynasty were strict, However, enforcement was not strict, and this law encountered great difficulties during its implementation. According to records, the situation of Taoist priests in the Song Dynasty "all have wives and children. Although they live in palaces, they marry and have children just like ordinary people." The situation has not changed for a long time, and there are not a few monks who have wives.
For example, Tao Gu's "Qing Yi Lu·Shi Clan·Fan Sister-in-law" records that Cheng Hui, a monk from Xiangguo Temple, "advocated his wife with a beautiful woman", thinking that he was "happy and romantic, unparalleled in glory", and " "He is a headless man, but he has a room and a Tathagata." The so-called "Fan sister-in-law" was the special name given to the wives of monks at that time.
Especially in the Lingnan area, monks often have a family. It is recorded in the volume of "Ji Ribian" that "it is a custom in Guangnan that many monks sit in the market for appraisal, and everyone gets rich", so that "most women marry monks, and if they want to lose their hair, they must do so, and it is a ritual to be tonsured."
Here "the monk's hat is made, with a circle and no room", so that when the monks get married, they can "put hairpins on it". At that time, there were still Taoist priests and nuns getting married.
For example, Jinshi Yang He's "father was Huang Guan, and his mother was a nun." The good news was passed down as a joke: "Donkeys and horses give birth to mules, and Taoist priests and aunts raise scholars." Some monks are also brothels. Patrons of prostitutes even caused trouble.
For example, "Hong Dangu, a Taoist priest in Qiantang, had an affair with a prostitute because he married into a wife." Another example is that a monk from Lingyin Temple in Hangzhou "often stayed at the house of prostitute Li Xiunu". After running out of money, , "Show slaves must be the best".
Ming Ran “was so obsessed with him that he went to Xiu Nu’s house while drunk. He refused to accept her, so he hit Xiu Nu and killed him casually.” The government captured Ming Ran and found a tattoo on his arm: “May we live together in bliss. The country will not teach you the pain of lovesickness in this life."
Zhizhou Su Shi ordered the death penalty, and his sentence said: "The poisonous hand hurts the person, and the beautiful face is shattered. Where is the pain of lovesickness stabbed in the arm? "The debt of lovesickness has been repaid."
During the reign of Emperor Xiaozong of the Song Dynasty, there was a temple near Lin'an that abducted and imprisoned "33 women, all of whom were beautiful. At night, more than 20 monks came here." After the banquet and drinking, the group "comes together" and sexually assaults the women collectively.
Knowing that the Lin'an Prefecture had found out the situation, "a hundred soldiers from the tribe hunted and killed the monks, burned their temples, and called the Lord to take them away with a group of women." The practice of monks and Taoists marrying wives continued into the Yuan Dynasty, and the imperial court In an effort to reverse the situation, it was clearly stipulated: "Any monk who violates the teachings and marries a wife will be given sixty-seven sticks to leave her. The monk will return to the secular life and become a common people. He will hire wealth but not an official position."
It can be seen from this that the monks at that time The fishy phenomenon is so rampant. It was in such a soil that during the Song Dynasty, women in Jiangsu and Zhejiang went to "Bang Monk" in droves. The money they earned not only met their own needs for food and clothing, but also allowed their husbands to sit at home and eat comfortably. Started a soft meal.
This seems to also explain that Song Gaozong lost his masculine nature after moving south. He bowed his head to the Kingdom of Jin for decades. It turned out that he was influenced by the soft men in this area (don’t take it seriously, everyone Just a joke).