"Are you married?" This is an eternal and fixed hot topic
What questions will the future mother-in-law ask during the dinner? I believe many boys will answer in unison that my mother-in-law has urged me to buy a house again.
Mother-in-law, tens of millions, gives her future son-in-law: the eight-character policy "Where to work and where to buy a house"?
The resolute mother-in-law
Xiaomei, born in 1995, was introduced by a colleague on the National Day last year, and met a young man from the Construction Engineering Group. Because they are all local, during the Chinese New Year, the object will come to the door.
Xiaomei's parents have been engaged in clothing business for more than 2 years. Earlier, they bought three suites one after another in Shanghai. This time, their daughter was a guest, not a son-in-law in the traditional sense, but more like a qualification examination.
Only this audit was unsuccessful. After Xiaomei's boyfriend went back in the evening, Xiaomei's family exploded.
During the day, the mother-in-law didn't attack Xiaomei's boyfriend, and this next anger was all on her daughter.
that's a good point. The conditions at home are ok. It took you a long time to live with his parents in the future. Can you do it?
It turns out that Xiaomei's boyfriend has a flat at home, and he has no plans to buy a house for the time being. After getting married, he may have to live with his in-laws. If you don't live with your in-laws, you have to rent a house and get married.
Xiaomei's mother went on to say, "He is kind to you now, and he is always around you. But what about the future? He has no constancy and no sense of responsibility. If you want to live with him all your life, can you be kind to you all your life? You've read so many books, and you don't understand? "
Xiaomei, who is madly in love, can't listen to this, and resolutely pouts with her mother. "Mom, you really can't hide my kindness. If I am happy, you will be unhappy. If I have to be miserable all my life, you will be happy, right?"
My mother didn't expect her gentle daughter's words to become so sharp.
Still adamant, "There are so many good boys in this world, but I just don't understand why you are so possessed. Responsible? You said he was responsible for you? I tell you, don't buy a house, don't want to marry you. "
Xiaomei didn't want to pester her mother any longer, and told her boyfriend the results of the audit that day.
Xiaomei's boyfriend is also depressed. Before, he watched the strategy of getting rid of the single, and finally hoped for a girlfriend who got along well. He was full of joy in the New Year, but now he is particularly nervous after returning home. After listening to this, he is even more sad, but it seems that there is nothing he can do and nothing he can do.
Even after 1995, Xiaomei's boyfriend actually knew that she needed to buy a house to get married, but if it was useful, she would think about it every day and every night, but it didn't work! Nowadays, Xiaomei's boyfriend seems to need a house buying strategy.
This mother-in-law's style is vigorous and resolute, and she carries out the house urging order strictly and quickly, never dragging her feet, and her words are decisive and neat.
if you consult the eight-character policy, you can give a green light; if you fail to meet the standard requirements, you will be replaced immediately.
Mother-in-law who has a lot of house-urging routines
In 1992, Xiaomi's boyfriend got along for more than three years, and his feelings were very stable. In the first two years, his boyfriend often went to the prospective mother-in-law's house on holidays. In the first two years, my mother-in-law was very happy to see her son-in-law
But now it's time to talk about marriage, and my boyfriend once again set foot on the road to his mother-in-law's house, feeling infinitely contradictory and complicated.
Last Spring Festival, my mother-in-law had urged me to buy a house, and Xiaomi's boyfriend had verbally expressed his attitude. So this will allow the son-in-law to come to the door, and it is inevitable that there will be a battle.
"Jin, how did you do with what your aunt asked you last year?" .
"auntie, what are you talking about?" The prospective son-in-law pretends not to know.
"It's about you and Xiaomi getting married and buying a house. Auntie remembers that you agreed last year." My mother-in-law asked directly, and her mother-in-law has a very good memory. She agreed. It's time for some explanation after one year.
"Yes, yes, we have already looked at the house." The prospective son-in-law can only drive the ducks to the shelves, and then the mother-in-law goes on.
The mother-in-law urges her son-in-law to buy a house. It can be said that there are many routines, and it is simply a tripod (top class, excellent)! The daughter of other people's family is definitely a sharp weapon for the mother-in-law.
"On New Year's Day this year, you and Xiaomi attended her classmate's wedding and gave us Xiaomi with flowers. This year, Xiao Li (Xiaomi's classmate's husband) can change her name to mother-in-law, and their wedding room will be bought at the subway entrance of Line 13. Aunt also hopes that this day will come soon. Do you think so? " Mother-in-law continues to press hard.
the prospective son-in-law muttered to herself, yes, if she has a house, she can change her name to mother-in-law, but if she doesn't have a house, she can only be called aunt.
During the dinner, mattresses and home appliances from Oriental shopping were broadcast on TV, and the mother-in-law continued to aim at her son-in-law, saying, "Xiaojin, look how good this imported latex mattress and home appliances are. Don't worry, aunt will give you a new one then. But the premise is to buy the wedding room first. "
Mother-in-law's house urging routines are one after another, and they are reasonable, beneficial and restrained.
"auntie, I know. I'll go home and discuss with my parents and buy the house as soon as possible.". The future son-in-law is really overwhelmed.
Mother-in-law who keeps pace with the times
Xiaoye, the last heroine, talked with her boyfriend for four or five years, and her mother-in-law urged her to buy a house for several years.
As the post-9s generation gradually reached the peak of marriage, classmates, colleagues and peers stepped into the wedding hall one by one. At first, I didn't feel anxious. With the change of years, Xiaoye's heart began to lean towards her mother's side, and she completely felt that buying a house was necessary.
"You've been in love for several years, and in a blink of an eye, you'll both be in your third year, and you may be able to find it, but Alanan may not be so easy to find." Mother-in-law hits the pain point directly.
"Auntie, Nan Nan is my destiny takes a hand, and I won't let go of her hand."
Mother-in-law's mouth is rising, but what she thinks is that I believe you, a ghost!
Xiaoye's boyfriend is urged by his mother-in-law, and his parents are also pressing him. His parents have already entrusted his son with the right to sell a small two-bedroom apartment, and then his son and Xiaoye borrowed money to replace the new house.
this used to be an excellent thing, but now the market is not good. If the replacement house is not optimistic, the small house will be sold hastily, and then it will be in a dilemma if you can't get a bigger house.
Xiaoye's mother is a well-informed mother who keeps pace with the times. On weekdays, she watches financial news and city housing prices. Whenever there is a hot search on real estate news, Xiaoye will receive news from her mother asking when the object will buy a house.
On March 25th this year, the 216 "325 New Deal", which is currently implemented in Shanghai, expired for three years, that is, "non-Shanghai residents have to pay social security for five years in a row before they are eligible to buy a house in Shanghai".
In that year, a group of buyers who have completed two years of social security or are about to complete two years, but lost the qualification to buy a house because of the change to a five-year social security purchase restriction, will welcome the purchase restriction and unblocking.
"If you don't hurry now, are you going to fight for the house you just need with these unsealed needs?" Shanghai's mother-in-law has this ability, and the house-urging routine is always advancing with the times.
The mother-in-law's professional advice, the prospective son-in-law listened to one after another.
The prospective mother-in-law continued to say earnestly, "Why did I ask you to buy a house? In fact, I hope you two can have a stable home. Parents are always the people who want their children to be happy. "
the mother-in-law who keeps pace with the times, plays the family card, and knows the real estate market makes the prospective son-in-law really helpless.
Mother-in-law just needs, which is short for "mother-in-law's rigid demand", and mother-in-law just needs to ask her son-in-law to buy a wedding room.
Mothers-in-law, as the "primary productive force" to promote house purchase, obviously occupy an important voice in young people's house purchase.
the economic base determines the superstructure.
Mother-in-law's demand is very simple. I hope my daughter can find someone who can talk with me and talk about money. Heart refers to feelings, then gold naturally refers to the house.
feelings are important, but the house is more important.
Mother-in-law has devoted all her life to her children. If she wants to get married, she must buy a house.
As for why the mother-in-law asked her son-in-law to buy a house, China Merchants Bank gave birth to her daughter and China Construction Bank gave birth to her son. I was happy when I gave birth to my son, and I was happy when I married my daughter-in-law, but why did I have to buy a wedding room so sweetly?
The house can really give girls a sense of security, but in the final analysis, whether the mother-in-law or the girl chooses someone who has the ability to buy a house, in fact, she basically acquiesces to the one who has a house, and the future will be better.
A house is the foundation for people to settle down. Without a house, there is no home. Renting a house can get married, but people who wander around are insecure. Especially after having children.
It is said that the mother-in-law pushed up the house price. Actually, it's not. Those who have houses are forcing those who don't. You don't have to buy, but you can't stop girls from choosing those who have houses.
why does this become a rigid requirement of the mother-in-law?
There are not a few couples who can't get together without a house, but what about the two later? Maybe the girl is not looking for the same object as before, but it is also possible that a boy with a house is waiting for her.
after all, it's really important to be suitable in marriage. The right marriage is not necessarily the best marriage, but it must be the most stable marriage.
how should a man respond?
Parents have a deep-rooted tradition of marriage, so it's no use arguing with your mother-in-law.
If you can't change your mother-in-law's point of view, you should at least accumulate work experience and shape a mature heart. Don't exclude your mother-in-law when she talks about buying a house. Simply avoiding it won't solve any problems.
Cai Kangyong once said: When you were 15, you found it difficult to swim, so you gave up swimming. When you were 18, you met someone you liked and asked you to swim, so you had to say,' I won't'. At the age of 18, I found English difficult, so I gave up English. At the age of 28, there was a great job but I had to know English, so you had to say' I can't'. The more troublesome you are in the early life, the more lazy you are to learn, and the more likely you are to miss the people and things that interest you and the new scenery later.
You finally met your true love and are ready to get married. Do you want to give up when your mother-in-law urges you to buy a house?
in the final analysis, it is really not an easy task to buy a house, no matter whether it is in the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, or in new first-tier or second-tier cities.
in addition to parents' help, it is necessary to strike while the iron is hot. And in fact, this is also a reasonable allocation of family assets.
where is the easy thing in this world? Again, if there are conditions, if there are no conditions, we must create conditions.