Author: Liu Xiang.
From: Warring States Policy? Touching the dragon said that Empress Zhao.
Interpretation: The greatest love in the world is that parents love their children. How do parents love their children? They made a long-term consideration for their children's future.
If my children and grandchildren are like me, what should they do with the money? Being virtuous and rich will damage his ambition. My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What did you leave the money for? Foolish and rich will increase their excesses.
Author: Lin Zexu.
Dynasty: Qing Dynasty.
Lin Zexu, a politician in the Qing Dynasty, said it.
Interpretation: If future generations are as honest as me, what money should I leave him? He's already smart. I left him money and property, but it hurt his will to struggle. My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. Leaving money to him will make him relax, hate work and live in the open space. The more money you save, the more you run amok and make more mistakes.
Heroes have suffered a lot since ancient times, and they have not been too handsome.
Author: Wang Baochi.
Dynasty: modern.
From: Seven Laws of Persuasion.
Interpretation: Since ancient times, all heroes who have made great achievements have experienced many hardships, while few children of rich families can make great achievements.
Although you love it every day, it is actually harmful. Although I am worried, I really hate it.
Author: Liu Zongyuan.
Dynasty: Tang Dynasty.
From: biography of planting trees and camels.
Interpretation: Although I love it, it actually hurts it. Although I am worried about it, it actually hates it.
5, lonely calf touching milk, arrogant.
Author: Ye Fan.
Dynasty: Southern Song Dynasty.
Said by: Biography of Qiu Lan in the Later Han Dynasty.
Interpretation: The calf will touch the cow's breast when nursing, and the arrogant son will scold his mother. This is a metaphor. Spoiled children tend to be disobedient and unfilial.
2. The famous aphorism about doting on parents and loving their children has far-reaching influence. "
Luo Yin, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote two poems for his friends: "The national plan has been encouraged, and the family wealth is not for future generations." What he advocates is that you should be bold for the country's big plans, but never seek wealth for future generations.
Lin Zexu wrote a couplet: "Children and grandchildren are like me, what should I do with money?" Being virtuous and rich will damage his ambition. My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What did you leave the money for? Foolish and rich, benefit to increase it. "Meaning, if future generations are as honest as I am, what should I leave him money for? He's already smart. I left him money and property, which actually damaged his will to struggle. My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. Leaving money to him will make him relax, hate work and live in the open space. The more money you save, the more you run amok and make more mistakes.
3. Words about doting on children, famous sayings, examples, examples of parents doting on children, doting.
Spoiling children is a traditional parenting method in China, because the children cultivated by doting lack independent personality, which is in line with China's way of thinking.
Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "a loving mother defeats her child." The so-called "loving mother" refers to an excessive maternal love, that is, doting. Literally, the word "drowning" is both excessive and drowning. To love children too much is to drown them. The ancients said: "Although you love it, it is really harmful; Although I love it, I actually hate it. " This is the best annotation to the word "pet". There is a saying in Han Feizi: People don't love their parents, but everyone can see love, which may not be cured. This means that the feelings between people are nothing like parents loving their children. But only love may not educate a good child.
There is a well-known example of parents doting on their children. It is said that there was a boy in ancient China who was spoiled by his mother. Before his execution, he asked for another sip of his mother's milk. His mother unbuttoned his skirt and fed him. The boy bit off his mother's nipple. The boy bit off his mother's nipple because he hated her doting and pampering.
Coincidentally, there is such a story about parents doting on their children in the famous Aesop's Fables. A young thief was caught red-handed, tied his hands and brought to the executioner. The loving mother followed closely, beating her chest and crying. My son turned around and said he wanted to say something to her. Mother approached, but her son bit her off. The mother scolded her son for being unfilial. This is not enough to constitute a crime, and she bit off her ear. The juvenile delinquent said, "If you hit me the first time I stole my classmate's clipboard for you, why do you have more and more courage to put me to death?"
There is a fable in the book An Introduction to Ancient and Modern Tan. In order to avoid disaster, kingfishers began to nest high in the trees. After the bird hatched, it loved it very much, and was afraid that the bird would fall from the high nest and die, so it moved the nest down. When the little kingfisher grows feathers, it is very beautiful, and it is even more fondle admiringly. It was even more afraid that the little kingfisher would fall, and once again moved its nest down to a branch near the ground. In this way, the kingfisher was relieved, but pedestrians passing by the tree found the little kingfisher and raised their hands to take it away.
There is another story in Balzac's works. The flour merchant Gao Laotou dotes on his daughter. He married off most of his property and let her squeeze into the business and live a luxurious life as a lady. In order to make his daughter happy, he paid her lover's debts and helped her commit adultery. However, the married daughters, after squeezing their father's last pension, abandoned him as ruthlessly as squeezing lemons.
Rousseau, a French educator, said, "Do you know any way to make your children unhappy? This method is to be obedient to him. " Is to spoil.
4. The poem about doting is 1. When you feel that a person can't die, you just feel that this person happens to be this person.
-Han Han's Chang 'an Luan
Only your future can squander my present; Only my favorite has given me the most fatal injury.
-Zheng Jun's "Spoil"
I only have your moonlight.
I want to regard it as the scorching sun.
corruption
When you feel that a person can't die, you feel that this person happens to be this person, that's all.
-Han Han's Chang 'an Luan
He is my addiction, and I will never give it up.
-Chen (role) "Growth"
6 "Parents' love for their children is profound. "
Luo Yin, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote two poems as gifts for his friends: "The national plan has been encouraged, and family wealth is not for future generations." What he advocates is that for the sake of the national plan, you should have courage in your heart, but never seek family wealth for future generations.
8. Song Dynasty poet Xin Qiji's "Qingpingle Village Residence"
The thatched roof of the hut is low and small, and the stream is covered with green grass. Drunk Wu local drunk, gentle voice, white-haired old man who is it?
The big boy hoes beans and flows east, while the middle boy weaves chicken cages; My favorite is my youngest son, who is lying in the grass, peeling the lotus just picked.
5. Talk about the harm of doting on famous sentences.
Once upon a time, the unheard-of education methods in our life, such as hardship summer camp and "hardship education", were actually to make children suffer hardships and make up for hardships. Once something needs extra subsidies, it shows a situation: there is too little in life.
From the only child to the resulting doting; From doting, to the harm caused by it. We have heard too much about this kind of thing, and many parents have gradually paid attention to it, so there has been a "hardship education".
What I want to ask is: What is the effect of this "surprise" education method? In the "suffering education", we can see that children can endure hardships from the beginning, and they are at a loss from the beginning, and it is difficult to overcome difficulties. However, we also see that parents have greater "love" after suffering education: children should be comforted when they suffer, so they treat them like "little emperors"; Children should be rewarded for overcoming difficulties, so they get more pocket money. Life has returned to the past, and this kind of "suffering education" may only leave a diary or a few photos.
What I also want to ask is: If you don't give your children a lot of extra "love" at ordinary times, what's the point of participating in such educational activities? After all, activities are activities and cannot replace life. The charm of life lies in its unpredictability How can a "suffering education" that already knows the result be compared with the difficulties of the "endless road" of life?
For a child, when he was young, he might feel that his parents were very kind to him, but when he grew up and had his own independent thoughts, he would feel that his parents were very kind to him, but when he grew up and had completely independent thoughts, he would feel that his parents' interference was a kind of imprisonment for him, and he wanted to break through this imprisonment, so contradictions inevitably arose.
From this perspective, doting is the most harmful in two stages: one is the formation of children's personality, and the other is the period when children gradually become independent. Especially the former will have an impact on the child's life. The most fundamental and only way to change this situation is to change the way of life, form a strong character in a subtle way, and let children face the small difficulties and setbacks in life and solve them themselves, so that they can better face the big difficulties after entering the society. Otherwise, it is easy to be overwhelmed by difficulties. As the old saying goes, parents are kind to their children and always pour all their love into them. However, this kind of love should be based on the growth of children, and "love" must not become "doting" and must not be replaced by parents. Otherwise, not only will children be unbearable, but they will also be at a loss when facing the society independently. Can not adapt to the competitive social environment, be eliminated by society.
Finally, to paraphrase Hegel, if you shut the door on all difficulties, you will also shut the door on success.
6. I want to use the doting famous saying, "Parents love their children, but it has far-reaching significance."
Luo Yin, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote two poems for his friends: "The national plan has been encouraged, and the family wealth is not for future generations." What he advocates is that you should be bold for the country's big plans, but never seek wealth for future generations.
Lin Zexu wrote a couplet: "Children and grandchildren are like me, what should I do with money?" Being virtuous and rich will damage his ambition. My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What did you leave the money for? Foolish and rich, benefit to increase it. "Meaning, if future generations are as honest as I am, what should I leave him money for? He's already smart. I left him money and property, which actually damaged his will to struggle. My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. Leaving money to him will make him relax, hate work and live in the open space. The more money you save, the more you run amok and make more mistakes.
Spoiled children are unfilial, and fertile fields reap withered rice.
7. The famous saying about doting on children is "Parents love their children, but their influence is far-reaching."
Luo Yin, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote two poems for his friends: "The national plan has been encouraged, and the family wealth is not for future generations." What he advocates is that you should be bold for the country's big plans, but never seek wealth for future generations.
Lin Zexu wrote a couplet: "Children and grandchildren are like me, what should I do with money?" Being virtuous and rich will damage his ambition. My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What did you leave the money for? Foolish and rich, benefit to increase it. "
It means that if future generations are as honest as I am, then what should I leave him money for? He's already smart. I left him money and property, which actually damaged his will to struggle. My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. Leaving money to him will make him relax, hate work and live in the open space.
The more money you save, the more you run amok and make more mistakes. Parents who dote on their children should remember that everything is for their children and they don't want their children to do anything harmful to them. Children usually don't need to be pampered, but they should be responsible. The result of overindulgence and pampering is insult.
8. Don't spoil the children's famous saying 1, spoil the pleasure and brew the bitter fruit; Diligence and simplicity make talents. -epigram couplets
If my children and grandchildren are like me, what should they do with the money? Being virtuous and rich will damage his ambition. My children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What did you leave the money for? Foolish and rich will increase their excesses. -Lin Zexu
What should I do with my children and grandchildren if they are like me? Being talented and rich will only harm their aspirations. If children and grandchildren are not as good as me, what should they do with their money? Foolish, rich, can only increase their mistakes.
3. Overindulgence brings the child's heartlessness. Lu Qin
4. A doting and insatiable person-Zhu
If you spoil a person too much, you won't see his shortcomings; If you are too greedy, your desires will never be satisfied.
5. Education begins with life. Before we realize that personality has been established, it is difficult for later teaching to move and change it. -Liz