Hope it can help you
1. Matchmaking
When their children grow up, their parents ask a matchmaker to find a partner for them. Some of them may have so-called matchmaking when they are babies. "Marriage is done on the fingertips." Generally, the marriage is negotiated by a matchmaker. In order to earn matchmaking gifts [the custom in Putian is Tian 3 Garden 4 Ice Man 5], the matchmaker tries every possible means and sweet words to "make it happen." This also leads to many marriage tragedies.
2. Blind date
After the matchmaker arranges a marriage, if the father meets a "matchly match", he can go to the house on behalf of his children for a blind date. Noodles or eggs are served as snacks. If you match the match, you can eat the noodles cooked by the other party. If not, you can’t eat the snacks.
3. Send Geng Tie
If a man and a woman agree to get married, they send each other the horoscope of birth year (year, month, day and hour - Geng Tie) through a matchmaker. However, the man puts the woman's Geng Tie in a basket on the kitchen stove. After three days and three nights, if nothing happens at home, Afterwards, both parties asked a fortune teller to predict the marriage, whether there was any conflict between the man and the woman, the good or bad luck of the marriage, etc.
The above mentioned matchmaking, blind dates, and sending of invitations belong to the discussion. The general name of the marriage stage is "talking about family ties", which is in line with the "asking for a name" and "naji" rituals in the ancient "six rites"
4. Engagement
After the "eight characters" combination After the marriage, if both parties are satisfied, the matchmaker will negotiate the bride price and dowry, and then choose an auspicious day to make the betrothal, commonly known as setting. The groom's family selects "double days" and invites 6 to 8 women among relatives who think they have good luck. Wear a red shirt, bring gifts, send part of the bride price and some gold and silver jewelry to the girl's home, put rings and bracelets on the girl's hands, and hang necklaces, gold and silver locks (also red envelopes) around the girl's neck, commonly known as ' Hanging beans'. The girl's family sets off firecrackers and distributes cakes and fruits to her relatives and neighbors to show that her daughter has been betrothed. Then she prepares wine and food to entertain the groom's guests and gives each person a red envelope. This custom is similar to the ancient "Six Rites" The "Dingmeng" match.
5. Dingri
Commonly known as "looking at the date", in ancient "Six Rites" it is called "asking for the date". The man please choose the date. The chosen wedding date is conveyed to the woman with a red sticker, and the woman responds with a red sticker of approval. After that, the man and the woman each choose a day to "tailor" [make wedding clothes] for the future bride and groom based on the agreed wedding date.
8. Marriage
Getting married in Putian is called "adult", which means children growing up. The wedding day is called "adult day". There are a lot of preparations and etiquette and customs that need to be done before the adult day.
The last bridal chamber》