In a family, the boy is about 20 years old and the girl is about 15 years old. Parents begin to arrange marriages for their children, and the matchmaker leads the red line, which leads to men and women not meeting, let alone getting to know each other. When you entrust the media, you have to pay the matchmaker in advance. This is called buying shoes (which means you need to go to find someone else). In the future, I will give a gift to the matchmaker and invite her to dinner. The matchmaker accepts the money to buy shoes, starts to perform the contract to find the right person, and participates in the whole marriage process until the bride is sent to the bridal chamber. There is a folk proverb:? Newcomers enter the bridal chamber and the matchmaker climbs over the wall? . After marriage, you should make thank-you wine and give gifts to express your gratitude. Matchmaking is a profession, usually a woman, so it's called? Matchmaker? . The matchmaker has a glib tongue. Does both sides speak well? The water is burning? .
Parents on both sides of the price difference call their children's eight-character exchange price difference exchange, also called price difference exchange? Horoscope? . The so-called eight-character, that is, according to the year, month, day and hour of birth displayed by heavenly stems and earthly branches in the old calendar, uses the five elements to calculate whether the eight-character of both sides are combined or gram. After the parents of both sides were satisfied with the initial understanding of the situation, they wrote the eight characters of the man's birth in red posts, which were sent to the woman by the introducer, and the woman asked for fortune telling? Open and close? See if the year, month, day and time conflict with the woman. If you agree, this marriage is impossible; If it matches, write the eight characters to the man, which is commonly known as? Back to the eight characters? . Write it in red paper and put it under the incense burner in front of the ancestral tablet for three days. Within three days, each family has something to do, so we should send it back to Gengtie. Forget it, the whole family is safe. This is the success of replacement. After the successful job transfer, the woman sent a blind date family group to the man. On a blind date, she sees nothing but people, looks after the house, drives the livestock and works in the fields. The woman thinks that the man's family can come forward and talk to the matchmaker about the bride price. After many times of running-in, after the bride price reached an agreement, she chose an auspicious day. Press shoes? Does that man know shoes and shoes? Sample money? Ask the matchmaker to give it to the woman. On the appointed day, the girl will make a pair of shoes and return them to the man. After seeing the shoes, the man knew the girl's needlework and expressed satisfaction. This is the determination to get married.
Every step of an auspicious marriage, from the successful change of stickers to engagement, employment, marriage and meeting the bride, must be carried out by letting the husband choose an auspicious day, commonly known as choosing a date. Besides auspicious days, Nanchang people also get married in Laba every year. It is said that this is a dry dragon that went down to the south of the Yangtze River. When they came to Nanchang, it was the eighth day of the twelfth lunar month, and they performed an auspicious story. Since then, the eighth day of the twelfth lunar month has become an auspicious day, which has continued until now. The eighth day of the twelfth lunar month is the Buddha's day of enlightenment. It is said that this day is too old to be idle, and there is no evil star in charge, which is an auspicious day for marriage. Common name? Laba doesn't have to pick a date to get married? There are many happy events on this day.
Does the man choose the right date after he confirms his engagement from marriage? Leading the east wine? Also called engagement wine, the man gives clothes, shoes, socks and towels at the party and invites the woman to the street? Rab? And put the negotiated bride price, gold and silver jewelry, money exchange, three generations of gifts to the woman. The woman gave all her stickers to the man. After the banquet, should the man ask the matchmaker to deliver it? Dragon and phoenix stickers? Give it to the woman, and the marriage will be finally settled here. Women's private words ()
Recruitment is also called a gift. ? A gift? God, it's carried by the man's family? Moving boxes? , carrying the burden, shooting and blowing all the way, sending a bride price to the woman's house. The gifts sent to the woman's house are: three animals in pairs, one male and one female, a pair of hoof flowers, a pair of carp, the bride's clothes and shoes, clothes, fish, meat, noodles and cakes. If you have a good family, you should have hundreds of fish, meat, noodles and cakes. All kinds of meat? . The woman returned shoes, socks, towels, handkerchiefs and other items, and left a banquet enthusiastically. When men and women met, the man gave it to her? Meeting ceremony? . After employment, the marriage relationship has been confirmed, and both men and women are generally not allowed to dissolve it without authorization. If the man changes, the woman may not be required to return the dowry; If the woman changes, the bride price must be returned to the man. After being hired, the man prepared gifts for his father-in-law three times a year, saying? Send a festival? The woman also gave a certain return.
The day before the wedding, the woman should kowtow to her parents and the patriarch, and then tie her hair, also called sewing, that is, tie it up, make it into a bun and insert flowers. If the woman wants to open her face, she will cut off her hair with thread, and then put on a wedding dress and sit on the bed without going to the ground. The woman should hold a banquet at home to entertain relatives and friends. From this day on, the bride will not eat anything, only some thread powder, meatballs, longan, lotus seed soup and so on. The woman's mother wants to cry, and the longer she cries, the better, and the worse she cries. The longest crying wedding lasted 48 days. The time to cry is before dawn every day. Crying on the first day? Open your mouth? . Weeping wedding songs are very rich in content, such as teaching daughters to be filial to their parents-in-law, to respect their elders, to manage their families diligently, and to live in harmony between husband and wife. Ten things to teach your mother. The first thing to remember is to sweep the floor first and don't touch your mother-in-law. ?
On the wedding day, grandma in the room led the crying, mother and daughter cried, aunt cried, married sisters of the same generation cried, mother and daughter cried, and everyone cried together. Tears of parting, tears of mother's kindness and blessing, sincere tears of daughter's humble obedience to mother's instructions, tears of joy for everyone. There are no fixed lyrics for crying marriage. It is usually the mother of the bride who cries first and teaches her daughter how to behave.
Two or three days before the wedding, relatives, friends and idle people came to decorate the yard one after another. The whole house became a red world, with red lanterns hanging at the door and in the middle of the hall. Hi? Words, red candles in pairs, lines in pairs. The day before the wedding, the man's relatives and friends all went to the man's house to congratulate and give gifts. The groom gets up in the morning, takes a shower and dresses up. Do you want to make the bed in the morning? Excuse me? Longevity and longevity? Some people order bedding.
The husband's family takes the bride's adoption day as the positive period. It was a morning when the drummer arrived home and started, followed by greetings to the guests. Congratulations? .
The groom lifted the curtain of the sedan chair, put his ring on the bride's hand, and took it off and put it on his hand. What's this called? Blind date? . Someone threw tea on the sedan chair. What is it called? Is it broken? . Then, the sedan chair was carried to the wedding hall and the bride was led by her mother. The groom took off the red veil, and the bride, with the help of the bridesmaid, began the solemn ceremony of visiting the bride. Worship heaven and earth in the cheers of the master of ceremonies, first worship heaven and earth, second worship ancestors, third worship parents, and then, husband and wife worship each other. The bride enters the bridal chamber, and the groom is introduced into the bridal chamber by his mother-in-law or clan elders singing candle songs. Candles into the room? .
The couple sitting on the bed entered the bridal chamber, with five men and two women sitting on the bed. Teacher Wang sang it? Sitting on the bed? While singing, throw red dates, peanuts, longan, melon seeds and other foods on the bed. The children's scramble for food means that they have a baby long ago. After singing colorful words, send a gift to every child sitting on the bed. Sitting on the bed and clapping, there are many words, such as: a pair of red candles beaming, watching new people enter the bridal chamber. The groom's mouth is smiling, and the bride's face is hibiscus. A handful of melon seeds scattered in the east will give birth to a good face; A handful of sugar is scattered in the south, and the children born respect their parents; If the west scatters a handful of fruits, the children born will read; A handful of fried beans are scattered in the north, and the children born have everything. Today's wedding night, tomorrow will be the same as the bald man. Husband and wife are more favored, and children compete for family happiness. Among them, there are a pair of gongs and drums, beating the bridal chamber and so on.
In the evening, He Lang began to light candles, the band played music and all the guests were seated. The groom also arranged a small table with two groomsmen. Each table has four dishes, braised pork, braised whole fish, tofu strips and bamboo shoots. At this time, the groom sat next to his mother's uncle. After the banquet, the kitchen handed the flowers to the hall and put them on the groom's table. Sing two He Lang songs on the groom's desk and pass them on. Each table must sing two He Lang songs. Whoever can't take turns singing will be fined. He Lang's songs are all about marriage. They are all pleasant words, auspicious and amusing. A pair of candles are arranged on both sides. Thank you for the gift. One is to hang up the wedding tent, the other is to light candles, the third is to send official candles to the house, the fourth is to send five catties of hoof flowers, the fifth is to send the golden rooster groom to eat, the sixth is to send a set of clothes with a hat off, the seventh is to send a gold ribbon, the eighth is to send a pair of satin shoes, the ninth is to send the scarlet letter camellia cake, and the tenth is to send the carp to jump over the dragon gate. A pair of fresh flowers, inserted in dried bean curd, dried bean curd is made of beans, a bean emits 1000 cigarettes. Late at night, He Lang was dismissed by his mother's uncle or kitchen. Then I lit candles and went into the house to make trouble in the new house.
Seating is in Nanchang area, and seating is one of the main procedures of He Lang. The groom can't sit down before he sits down. At the banquet, the groom wore red silk and a court hat. His mother-in-law personally lit six incense sticks, led the groom to worship heaven and earth first, inserted three incense sticks to the gate, and then worshipped his ancestors and inserted three incense sticks. This is my mother's uncle who took a towel from the groom's seat and wiped it on the chair three times. Every time he dusts, the groom worships once, and then my uncle and nephew worships three times together. Then my mother mentioned the groom's tableware. Please move each tableware three times. Every time you touch it, the groom will worship it once, and then my uncle and nephew will worship it three times. To tableware, to dishes and bowls, the same repetition every time. After all the tableware and dishes on the dining table are worshipped, firecrackers are set off to announce the end of the banquet. At this time, mother uncle asked nephew to sit down, and nephew asked mother uncle to sit down. Women's private words ()
After the flowers are distributed and the banquet officially begins. Wrap a piece of dried bean curd with red paper or red silk in advance, insert a flower on the dried bean curd and put it in a flowerpot, and put the flowerpot in a wooden basin. At this time, a man was sent from the kitchen, holding a basin in his hand, singing a flower song and walking towards the hall. For example, a flower is happy, and the flower passes from the kitchen to the front hall. Relatives drank too much, which made He Xinlang feel hot. Another example is: flowers fall on the table, and it is a happy day in He Xinlang. Congratulations on the groom's overjoyed birth of your son, Champion Lang.
There are various forms of trouble in new houses, all aimed at creating an intimate, auspicious, lively and cheerful atmosphere. This was also the need of parents and matchmakers at that time. Neither man nor woman had ever kissed Ni before. The bridal chamber is too much, impolite and noisy. Before making trouble, choose two heavy drinkers as chess pieces respectively. Night emperor? And then what? The night emperor empress? , come out? Title? For the bride and groom. They should draw the bottom of the pot on their faces. Choose two other people to do it? Servant? Responsible for teaching the bride and groom to finish? The emperor? 、? Huang Niang? Out? Title? . What if the bride and groom succeed? Title? , ? The emperor? 、? Huang Niang? If the bride and groom don't come, do you want to drink? Title? The people next to him beat the bride and groom with chopsticks and forced them to do it? Title? .
On the third day of the three dynasties wedding, the bride's brother went to her husband's house to pick up her sister and brother-in-law and went back to her mother's house, saying? Back to the door? The bride's family will hold a banquet. The groom should also bring gifts and call his son-in-law? New guests? . My parents-in-law will reward my new son-in-law, hold a banquet and say goodbye to my mother and daughter. A couple will go back to the man's house that day and can't spend the night. Until the first month of next year, my parents-in-law chose good luck and met a new uncle, saying? Pick up new customers? When going to my father-in-law's house, the couple should visit their parents first, then visit the ancestral hall, visit relatives and elders, and relatives and friends give gifts to each other. This time, the couple can stay for a few more days, but they can't share the same bed. Does the bride need to prepare for going back to her family? Hi, Bao Some of them were given to younger siblings and nephews.
Marriage customs:
1. M: Buy four sets of bedding, just one set? Sheets and pillowcases? There is also a new quilt (the pillow is prepared by the woman, of course, the model should be discussed in advance, and the woman should also buy one or two new quilts to bring on her wedding day). Wait until the day before picking up the bride, cover the quilt and lay the sheets. The night before picking up the bride, invite a few little boys from relatives to live in your new house and cover them with new quilts, which means having a boy. Accordingly, the work of covering the quilt and laying the sheets should also be operated by women who have given birth to boys. The above is not superstition, but custom.
2. Female: I used to have household appliances and furniture with me on the day of picking up the bride, but now I put them at the man's house in advance, because now the bride is a car and big things can't be transported. Nowadays, he is accompanied by small things, such as castrated chicken, carp, pork leg, bathtub, spittoon, one or two new quilts, two pillows (all of which are necessary), dolls, a bunch of bigger flowers, cigarettes and alcohol.
3. On the day of picking up the bride: Both men and women should prepare a considerable number of hot tea eggs at home as breakfast for picking up the bride's army. In addition, both parties should prepare red envelopes, and the quantity should be agreed in advance. The man prepares all the boys to pick up the bride (one or two girls can decorate). When firecrackers sounded at the woman's house, the woman must not let her in easily, give her a red envelope and then go in. The bride's brother or younger brother carried the bride into the car, and the bride's feet were not allowed to land. After getting on the bus, the army marched and firecrackers exploded. Back to the man's house, firecrackers exploded, and the groom took the bride upstairs.
Note: the driving route of the motorcade to pick up the bride can't be repeated, that is, there is no turning back, so it should be designed in advance, such as taking the A road and returning from the B road.
Give sb. a present
According to the general custom, a small gift should be prepared for the wedding banquet, wrapped in red paper or specially printed double happiness characters, and appropriate gift money should be put in it. The amount of the gift depends on the financial situation of the guests and their relationship with the bride and groom, but it is best to take an even number, including six? Lu? Eight pairs? Send? , what is it? Grow old together? The meaning of.
take one's seat/place
When attending a wedding, you should sit down according to the host or the host's guidance. If there is no guidance, you can sit with familiar relatives and friends, but be careful not to take the initiative? Newcomer list? Or? Parents' table. When eating, be polite when choosing vegetables and eating.
roast
When the bride and groom came to each table to make a toast and thank them, everyone stood up and raised their glasses, gently clinking glasses with the couple, and then said? Congratulations? . Don't get the bride and groom drunk, don't ramble, and control the time for the newlyweds to propose a toast at each table within 3 minutes, so that they can finish the banquet smoothly and enter the bridal chamber in advance. At the same time, don't make a hullabaloo about at the banquet, and drink moderately to avoid being rude after being drunk.