Although on the surface your problem lies in intermittent uncontrollable rage, in fact, the crux of your current problem is not the problem of intermittent uncontrollable rage at all, but your inability to properly deal with tension. .
Intermittent uncontrollable rage is a sign of being too nervous. The reason why you have intermittent uncontrollable rage is because you feel sudden and sharp tension. The energy of this tension is extremely huge. , when it is too big for you to bear, you have no way to control yourself, so you instinctively get angry suddenly and vent your psychological energy through rage to achieve temporary psychological balance. This is the reason why you have intermittent uncontrollable rage. the root of.
Therefore, it is particularly important for you to master the correct method of psychological adjustment when you are too nervous.
Never control your nerves. The more you try to control a kind of tension, the more it becomes a kind of monster and becomes more powerful. The best way to calm yourself down is to use these six steps to turn tension into energy.
1. Smile.
When you are particularly nervous, smile. To do this, please relax your chin, lift your cheeks, open your lips, raise the corners of your mouth, and say to yourself in a relaxed and cheerful rhythm: "Remember some interesting things", which will make you aware To the connection between face, heart and brain, the value of this connection is to make the happiness in your heart and brain reflected on your face, showing the happy expression you expected: relaxed, awake, alert, comfortable, It also gives people a feeling of competence, as if you are truly relaxed and satisfied. Research has proven that when people smile, the messages received by the inner brain are usually positive and can put the body in a state of relaxation and contentment; when people are anxious and fearful, smiling can also have the same effect. Whether or not you are aware of the role smiling plays in self-control of tension, this "artificial" effort demonstrates that the inner brain is responding positively and effectively to external messages without doubting its authenticity.
2. Send positive messages to yourself.
Then, along with the smile, you need to leverage a positive message. It can be a positive statement, such as, "This situation simply reminds me that I have the ability to turn tension into energy."
3. Use imagination.
Now, use your imagination. Picture a glade in your mind. On one side of the clearing is a cliff with a cave at the bottom. There is a backpack on your back that contains all your tensions. Place the backpack at the entrance of the cave and enter the cave. As you step inside, you notice that the cave is warm, comfortable, and very bright. Ahead, you hear the sound of running water. Following the sound of water, you saw a golden tall glass filled with a crystal-clear liquid. This liquid is the energy you want to bring into your life. It was left out of this goblet and poured onto the ground. You raise your glass and drink it. As you drink, you feel these energies filling your body. Incredibly, as you drink, the goblet automatically fills up and keeps overflowing. The cup is never empty. There is abundance of what you desire, and that abundance will always be there for you. When you're full, put the cup back, thinking you can come back at any time. Step out of the cave, back into the sunlight, and slowly awaken yourself from your imaginary state.
4. Connect with body sensations.
Connecting with the sensations in your body means that you feel like you have escaped the tension and transformed it into productive energy, and you feel more relaxed than when you identified the tension points. People often find themselves taking a deep breath at such times. Now, you might want to do just that. But whether you take a deep breath or not, imagine that your body is beginning to relax and you feel quite satisfied and comfortable, and that whatever is causing you tension is moving away from you.
5. Visualize the tension disappearing.
Take some time to imagine yourself moving away from the stressful situation until you internally see that it is quite far away from you.
6. Return to the current activity.
Finally, be ready to return to the present. In this way, you have transformed tension into energy.
When you do this regularly, the intermittent, uncontrollable rages that once troubled you will disappear on their own.