There are more and more strong women in modern society, and the concept of male superiority and inferiority to women is gradually fading. Strong women are not only successful in their careers, but they may also be good wives and mothers who manage their families well. However, many women who are successful in their careers invest too much time and energy in their work, resulting in being overwhelmed, which inevitably leads to frustration in love.
Generally speaking, strong women have strong personalities, so it is best not to be head-on when choosing a spouse, but to choose a combination of one convex and one concave to complement each other. As long as strong women pay attention to the following characteristics when choosing a spouse, they can also achieve a double harvest of career and love.
Round face
Small ear piercing
Men with small ear piercings tend to lack independent opinions, are introverted, and are not good at socializing. Therefore, they are also more "home-loving". Such men Although he is relatively sensitive and nervous, he also attaches great importance to emotional communication and is willing to become a caring soul partner of strong women.
Drooping eyebrows
People with drooping eyebrows (leaning towards splayed eyebrows) are afraid of their wives and will consult their wives first on all matters, big or small. For strong women with high decision-making ability and full of independent opinions, It is said that this kind of man is a good husband. However, it should also be noted that if the characteristics of the man's eyebrows are more obvious, it means that this man is more negative and pessimistic by nature, and his inner emotional world is prone to twists and turns, so he needs to pay more attention to him.
The lower lip is thicker
A thick lower lip usually represents a strong spouse. Generally speaking, the upper lip represents oneself and the lower lip represents one's spouse. Therefore, if the upper lip is thicker than the lower lip, it means that you can control the other person. On the contrary, if the lower lip is thicker than the upper lip, it means that you are obedient to your spouse. The other person will lead the entire relationship and have the final say in everything.
With the development of the times, "strong women" have long been different from traditional women. Their views on mate selection and attitudes towards marriage have always had a strong sense of personal autonomy. If you can refer to the above points as a guide for choosing a mate. Standards can effectively reduce the conflicts arising in marriage, thereby achieving a more happy marriage. When we are alone, we say that we are not afraid of loneliness, but who does not long for the warmth of two people, and no one wants to be alone under the lamp. Can't see the backs of the pairs. But how can the warmth between two people be considered complete and truly happy?
If there are two men for you to choose from, one is a gentle gentleman, polite, mature and steady, who treats you like a father and a brother, and the other is a warm and lively young man with a flamboyant personality and fun. Humorous, childish and always full of energy. Which one will you choose?
In front of the first man, you are just a child, you can act coquettishly and cheat as much as you want. You don’t have to worry about the future, he will give you a complete sense of security.
In front of the second man, you are an adult. You must tolerate his spontaneity and personality, and forgive his naivety. You may be ready to clean up the mess he caused at any time, and you must take care of him. In all aspects
In fact, every woman is a princess who longs to be pampered. No matter how careless the woman is, or how strong and independent the woman is, they all long to be cared for and loved in their hearts. , led and protected. No woman is born to be a god of war, a superman, and save men.
Some people will say that in today's society, there are many siblings who love each other, and there are many happy ones. Women are also very happy when they are elder sisters. In fact, for a happy sister-brother relationship to occur, although the difference between the male and female protagonists is physical age, they must have the same psychological age. The male protagonist must have done everything a man should do emotionally and in daily life, and he must be satisfied. The emotional needs of the heroine, otherwise it is impossible to obtain ultimate happiness.
Women can be gods of war and supermen. There are many strong women in today’s society. However, women’s inner pursuits are unavoidable. After being a superman for a long time, they will get tired. Strong women, There are also tears. Women should find their gentle position in the moisture of love.
Perhaps, we cannot avoid such affection: in a relationship, a woman has the patience to wait for a man to grow up, and can wait for a boy to grow into a man. However, the process of men growing up is also the process of women getting hurt. When men grow up, women may also be hurt. What's more, if there is a ripe fruit in this world, why do we have to pick the green one?
There is a word called "strong woman", but I think this word exaggerates the weakness of women.
There may be "so-called strong women" in the world, but there cannot be "real strong women".
No matter how strong a woman looks on the outside, she is actually just a woman deep down.
She needs to be loved and cared for.
If there is a "so-called strong woman" around you, please don't be biased against her, and please don't tell her "the capable work hard";
This is the real woman , we cannot use the words "strong woman", "female man", and "feminism" to generalize.
It is inappropriate to treat anyone in a single line.
A woman is a woman, no matter how hard her shell is, no matter how powerful she is, she will cry and be afraid;
A woman can be strong, but not Born without tears;
Perhaps a woman of talent and virtue is more suitable for a strong woman than a "strong woman".
There are roughly three reasons why men are afraid of "strong women" and are unwilling to marry them.
1. Afraid that he is not as good as his wife and looks less like a man. A beautiful and capable American lady said that when her job in a bank went smoothly, her husband would be dissatisfied. He thought she "outshone" him. Another wife said she decided never to take a job that would allow her to earn more than her husband "because that would mean he would feel less of a man."
In order not to hurt their husbands' self-esteem, many women have to give up their promotion opportunities or promising careers to avoid their husbands feeling embarrassed because they are inferior to them in professional status. This is the mentality of married women. They must make concessions, otherwise it may lead to a tragedy in marriage.
So, what is the situation of unmarried people? Among the 204 advertisements published by male suitors on a pack of paper during the same period, only 8 asked the woman to be "enterprising". Another situation that men are looking for is that 1 in every 13 women seeking marriage introduces their financial situation in the advertisement; while among men, 73 out of every 100 people introduce their financial situation in the advertisement. .
This situation indirectly reflects a problem: men do not count on their wives’ financial capabilities, so they do not need strong women.
2. The fear of family labor
An authoritative survey shows that 90% of male college students agree with the traditional division of family roles and believe that their tasks are to support the family and achieve success. The wife is responsible for raising the children and taking care of the housework. But half of them agree with the reformed traditional approach, that is, the wife's path is to work, raise children and then work.
Some men believe that women who are successful in their careers must neglect housework and take care of their husbands and children. They also believe that women who focus on their careers will lose their feminine tenderness due to the fierce competitive environment and work pressure in society. 3. The influence of traditional concepts
In traditional concepts about the conditions for establishing a happy marriage, There is nothing better than "a talented man and a beautiful woman". Women are considered not to need to rely on "talents" to make a living like men. Men have no other dependence on women except to carry on the family line and satisfy their desires. Talented women are often seen as unfeminine and abnormal, not keeping their duties. The philosopher Nietzsche even believed that if a woman wanted to study knowledge, there must be something wrong with her sexual organs
This kind of prejudice is also very common in advertising. For example, an advertisement promoting watches recommends the word "beautiful" for women's watches and "accurate" for men's watches.
In short, under the impact of the wave of women’s liberation, men are already in a dilemma. They not only feel that smart and capable new women are their good partners, but also feel that they are a threat to themselves, and are afraid of losing the traditional advantages enjoyed by men.
This is true whether in career or at home