How was marriage done in ancient times? What should the matchmaker say?

The six wedding rites - "Nacai", "Ask for the name", "Naji", "Nazheng", "Ask for the date", and "Welcome in person".

Accept.

Commonly known as marriage negotiation or matchmaking, a matchmaker is invited to talk to the woman to understand her intentions and see if there is any hope of success in the marriage. When a matchmaker goes to the bride's house to propose marriage, he usually presents a live goose as a gift to symbolize loyalty.

Ask. Name

Name question: Commonly known as "Bazi combined", the matchmaker first sends the woman's Bazi Geng post to the man's home. It contains the woman's birth year, month, day and hour. The man must put it on the ancestor list. Observe for a few days. If everything is safe at home these days, send the man's horoscope to the woman's home. Within three days after the woman accepts the man's horoscope, she must burn incense and worship in front of the gods and Buddhas at home every morning and evening. During these days, if any unlucky thing happens in the home of either man or woman, such as theft, damage to items, or illness of a family member, the marriage will not be successful.

Accept. Ji

Also known as Xiao Ding or Wen Ding, which means engagement. After asking for a name, if the divination shows a good omen, the man will ask a matchmaker to give a gift to the woman's house and notify the woman's family to decide on the marriage. At the same time, the man will choose an auspicious day to go to the woman's house and give the bride a gold ring.

Accept. Zheng

Commonly known as the big engagement or the final engagement, the man selects an auspicious day to hold an engagement ceremony at the woman's home. The collection is usually carried out ten days to one month before the wedding. In addition to preparing the dowry, six or twelve gifts are also required. The names of the betrothal gifts have auspicious connotations, and the number is an even number, and they are taken in pairs. meaning.

Please. Period

Commonly known as date selection, the groom’s family selects the wedding day and asks for the consent of the bride’s family.

Dear. Welcome

Officially hold the wedding. Write the couple's horoscopes on red paper, ask the date picker to choose an auspicious day, and have the matchmaker present it to you. After both parties agree, the wedding ceremony will be held.