The reason why couples often don't get along. In real life, every married male couple always holds the idea of happiness and wants to grow old with each other. But when it comes to getting married, I find that there may be many places that don't get along. Here are the reasons why couples often don't get along.
There are four reasons why couples often have conflicts.
The life of husband and wife is not harmonious
Once a person's desire is in a state of continuous lack, once a person can't satisfy even the most basic desire, it will become extreme, dark and even distorted, which will lead to many unnecessary contradictions between husband and wife. If there is no husband and wife life for a long time, it will also cause people's physical aging and even cause various diseases.
Maybe some couples have been married for a long time, and have lost their passion and even disgust, but their desire for human instinct has always been fixed. Don't be too frequent and too unfamiliar. Maintaining a harmonious, regular and quality husband and wife life will only make your feelings better and better.
Someone interfered in their relationship.
When a third party intervenes in the relationship between husband and wife, their feelings will fluctuate greatly, and one party will no longer regard the other as the person he likes. Someone interfering in their feelings may make them suspicious of each other. Even if he doesn't cheat, it may cause their emotional disputes.
He won't think so much about the third party who comes in. They just want the person they like to be separated from the other half, so that they can get ahead, but the emotional disputes caused by this may affect the lives of both sides.
Lack of trust
What marriage fears most is mutual suspicion. Many couples disagree, always unable to control themselves and doubt their other half. Trust is the foundation of feelings. Without trust, even the best temper will be unbearable.
Only by trusting each other can the relationship between husband and wife be more harmonious. Therefore, in marriage, husband and wife should not arouse each other's suspicion, do not suspect each other, and tell each other everything. Mutual trust is a good state of marriage.
Disagreement among three views
We often hear people say that the three views are different, so what does the three views mean? Give the simplest example! Today is Valentine's Day. Let's go out for dinner and leave romantic memories! The other half said, waste of money, don't go out! The two men have different starting points, and there is no point in discussing it any more.
It is very painful to be together with people with different views. He can't understand what you said. His starting point is completely different from yours. He will deny every point you make. There is no basis for communication between you. It is difficult for two people with different views to last long, and marriage will eventually break up because of disagreement.
The reason why couples often disagree is 2 1, and their personalities are not harmonious.
I think this should be crucial. If two people are at odds with each other every day, they can't say a word together. Everything feels good. That must be fighting every day. Therefore, personality disharmony is the most direct cause of marital disharmony.
2. One party's expectation is too high.
Both men and women, once they expect too much from each other, the disappointment value will definitely be higher. No one is perfect. It is said that maternal love is the greatest, and even one's own mother can't do things according to her own wishes. Then stop it, your other half. Once one party expects too much from the other, and the other party can't do what you want. At this time, it is often easy to be out of balance. There will be more and more quarrels like this.
3. Have an affair.
Extramarital affairs and extramarital sex will inevitably cause emotional harm to each other and lead to mental pain, so they become the biggest killer of husband and wife's feelings. Most extramarital affairs directly lead to divorce. Extramarital affairs and extramarital sex have become an important factor in the breakdown of husband and wife's feelings and the fundamental reason for the unsustainable relationship between husband and wife.
4. Both sides have no power to love each other.
Many couples say that after only a few years of marriage, they have the so-called "aesthetic fatigue". Or the seven-year itch. No matter how you look at each other, you are not as good as other people's wives (or husbands). I even complained that I had an aesthetic mistake from the beginning. In short, I can't afford to love each other. So, isn't the relationship between husband and wife tense?
5. Domestic violence.
Both husband and wife are equal subjects in the family and should respect and understand each other.
The most important thing is the lack of communication and exchange between them, and the lack of trust and loyalty is also due to personality differences and other factors.
The relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, and even they always quarrel. These situations can be found in the eight characters:
First, the marriage palace was punished and the family relationship was not harmonious.
Marriage palace is a Japanese branch, which represents marital status. If the daily allowance is punished, it shows that the marital status is unstable, the family relationship is not harmonious, natural couples are prone to quarrel, and other family members, such as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, are also prone to get involved.
Second, women have these problems, and couples are prone to quarrel.
1, the female life is weak, the official kills Wang, and the official kills the Japanese Lord. After marriage, the husband is very strong and holds the power of the family. The relationship between husband and wife is naturally not harmonious, and the phenomenon that the husband oppresses his wife is very obvious.
2, the Japanese need food injury to vent, and the eight characters have official seals to overcome food injury. The freedom of the Lord was suppressed by her husband. The Lord wanted to buy jewelry, but her husband wouldn't let him. The husband was very unhappy when he asked the Lord to chat with his male neighbor. Action is always restricted, the Lord feels depressed and dissatisfied, and quarrels often break out.
3, the female life hurts the official, the financial seal is absent or powerless, the female host is extremely strong, her eyes are higher than the top, she looks down on her husband, and there are many dissatisfaction. She scolded her husband all day, accusing him of not being as diligent as others, not being promoted quickly by her colleagues, and not being rich by her classmates. I just like to compare with others. My husband must be poor. Over time, my husband will be frustrated in self-esteem and depressed, and will not go home.
Third, men's constellations all have these problems, and couples are prone to quarrel.
1, the sun is weak and needs the seal of the afterlife. The eight characters are rich and broken, and the wife is strong. She is a lion in Hedong, and her life is often bullied.
2. Men are weak in life and wealth, and wealth can make officials. The wife puts a lot of pressure on the life owner, counting all day, and the life owner is dissatisfied.
3, Japan's main financial weakness, shoulder to shoulder, financial can not be official, no food injury clearance. Being the wife of such a person is very painful. She doesn't know how to care about people, has different opinions, has unreasonable words and beats her wife.
Fourth, bad luck leads to discord between husband and wife.
When a man's life is robbed or a wealthy star has a fleeting time (a woman's life is injured by food or an official star has a fleeting time), the fleeting time is used for punishment, co-rushing, hurting the day or helping the moon, and the husband and wife are prone to discord. This kind of quarrel and conflict is temporary, so bear with it and it will pass.
We can see that couples always quarrel, on the one hand, it is related to the congenital eight characters, on the other hand, it is also related to personal character, cultivation and moral concepts. Knowing which personality is bad for marriage, you can learn to change it slowly. If you are impatient, listen to soothing music and practice yoga to cultivate your self-cultivation. If you are very picky, try to tap the advantages of others and learn to praise them. The purpose of our understanding of life is not to be dominated by fate, but to make full use of it to obtain the most beneficial results.
Reasons for frequent disagreement between husband and wife 3 Reasons for contradiction 1. The gap between marriage and marriage is too big.
Falling in love is not the same as getting married. When you are in love, a man will take care of you in his heart, and he will give you all his spoil and tenderness, because at this time, a man just wants to catch up with you.
But after marriage, a man's heart is not only emotional, but also career, so the most direct feeling of a woman at this time is that her husband doesn't care about me.
After marriage, the husband is under greater pressure to support his family and feels that he can make money. At this time, the husband wants a wife who can wash and cook for himself, not a strong woman who works hard outside.
In the process of getting along with husband and wife, as a husband, he ignored Miss Zhang's feelings, so this is also one of the fuses that led to the contradiction between husband and wife, which made Miss Zhang feel that she was not taken seriously, because the gap between before love and after marriage was so great that Miss Zhang suffered from this marriage.
The husband's idea is because in traditional marriage, the husband is responsible for making money and raising money outside, and the wife is responsible for housework and taking care of the children at home.
Every family has a different mode of getting along, but what I am most afraid of is Miss Zhang's mode. One complains that her husband can't do housework, and the other thinks that housework should be done by his wife, which will make their feelings go further and further.
Second, there was no good communication before marriage, which led to differences of opinion after marriage.
Secondly, there are differences of opinion between husband and wife. Miss Zhang thinks she is still young and wants to work hard for a few more years, while her husband wants to have a baby at this time. In fact, both husband and wife should choose to communicate well before marriage. Discussing these things after marriage will lead to contradictions and estrangement between husband and wife.
The reason of contradiction 3. Lack of communication between husband and wife.
Tu Lei once said, "Communication is a very addictive thing. You share weal and woe with him. This is a way of emotional communication between husband and wife.
Communication between husband and wife is very important, because some contradictions are to be said, rather than one party or the other not to mind. By the time it finally broke out, it was too late, because at this time, there were more and more complaints about the other half.
At this time, both of them should adjust their mentality. If they know that there is a problem between husband and wife, they know what the problem is.
Just say something, let the other person know and understand. Without being wronged quietly, the other person will do something within his power.
Summing up,
Many couples are increasingly alienated, mostly because they can't handle and communicate. A good solution to the contradiction between husband and wife will deepen each other's marriage and feelings.