This is a local traditional custom and culture, which they think is very auspicious. Procedure:
betrothal, after marriage, it enters the betrothal stage, that is, the man prepares the gift and the woman decides the engagement. Gifts are usually a pair of gold earrings or a gold ring, as well as gold necklaces, sugar and noodles, which are tokens of engagement. When the woman is engaged, she should distribute candy and cakes to her relatives and neighbors, inform them that the engagement has been made, and then engage in betrothal gifts.
employment, also known as sending employment. In the past, the bride price of rich people was gold and silver, colored satin, pigs, sheep and wine. The poor are betel nuts and chicken wine. Chaozhou people regards betel nut as a symbol of good luck, and it is a very distinctive employment gift. Modern betrothal gifts include in-kind and cash. There must be more than four kinds of objects: white sugar, noodles, Daji (Chaozhou orange), gold and silver jewelry, cloth, cakes, etc., but they must not be odd, but must be even. Cash, also known as betrothal money, is divided into one, two and four, but all of them are multiples. When buying and selling marriage is quite popular, the amount of engagement money becomes the key to the success or failure of marriage. In order to avoid naked bargaining, the two sides called the beauty of engagement money "tea instrument", which made it a reward for the woman's parents to have children. The "Tea Instrument" takes a load of tea as a unit, and both parties run through the matchmaker at both ends, setting a load that is satisfactory to both parties, and then changing it into cash at the market price before hiring. Some men advance some "tea instruments" as early as the betrothal stage, which is the most typical commercialization of buying and selling marriage (after liberation, this kind of buying and selling marriage has basically disappeared in Chaoshan area). In the engagement, the woman should return the gift, that is, return the cake and food in the engagement, and give back "Yuanyang banana", orange, pig heart and so on. Mandarin ducks and bananas are two bananas that coexist, symbolizing a hundred years of old age; The orange homonym "Ji" symbolizes good luck; The pig's heart (half left in the woman) symbolizes concentricity. At this time, the two sides will also solemnly distribute the cakes and food in each other's gifts to relatives and neighbors to report the wedding ceremony. Friends and neighbors should also return gifts to congratulate them.
please wait. After the betrothal ceremony, it is necessary to choose the date of marriage and tell the woman, including informing her when to cut the wedding dress, when to "pull the face" (open the face, that is, wring the hair off the face with thread), when to bathe and when to get married. Most of the time invited by the invitation is in the dark, and the tide custom keeps the wedding custom of welcoming the bride in the dark, which is really an ancient legacy. In ancient times, weddings always ended in fainting, so the wedding ceremony must be held after dusk or even late at night. Therefore, "Interpretation of Names" defines marriage and says: "When you get married, you will become a gift when you are unconscious; Marriage, female media also. " "Bai Hu Tong Yi Marriage Chapter" also said: "What is a married person? Salute when you are unconscious, so it is called marriage. "
When girls from Raoping in eastern Guangdong reach marriageable age, in order to pray for a desirable husband, they always run to the vegetable garden in droves at Lantern Festival night and sit on mustard greens (commonly known as Chinese cabbage) and pray devoutly: "Sit on a big dish and marry a good husband in the future." If the children are old and the marriage is delayed, parents are of course anxious. As a result, they often ask someone else's house for a straw rope to tie tobacco leaves, take it home and say aloud, "Anu's marriage star is floating."
Raoping people: After the man sent the bride price and betrothal gift to the woman, the woman should give back a piece of cut but not broken pork, which is called "Yuanyang meat" to show "flesh and blood". The bride pays more attention to bathing and changing clothes before marriage: flowers or leaves of 12 kinds of plants, such as pomegranate, must be put in the bathtub, and after bathing, the bride can sit in the bathtub and eat two boiled eggs to pray for a smooth birth after marriage. Moreover, the clothes worn by the bride can't be sewn with bags inside and outside, which is intended not to take the parents' luck away.