Modern people don’t pay much attention to traditional customs when holding weddings in rural areas. Many people leave it to wedding companies to plan and plan the event lively. Generally speaking, it includes welcoming the bride, worshiping the ancestors, hosting a banquet, welcoming the bride, serving the bride, serving the bride, and making noise. However, if you operate according to traditional customs, the procedures are not only troublesome, but also different from place to place. For the Zhanjiang area, traditional rural marriage customs have to go through various tedious procedures such as matchmaking, marriage ceremony, long essays, decorations, poetry collections, fan heads, ancestor worship, disturbing the house, hair oil, returning to Ning, aunt's family, and New Year greetings. In Dongdao in Zhanjiang area, in addition to the above customs, there is also the custom of crying before getting married.
According to the old marriage customs in Dongdao, after the marriage of a man and a woman is decided, the man asks the fortune teller to determine a good day for the wedding, and asks the matchmaker to tell the woman this post with a colorful post. This post should be written by someone with beautiful handwriting and talent. The gift ticket states that the person will be greeted on a certain day of a certain month in a certain year. After receiving the prophecy from the man, she cried and started to get married.
The Cry of the Girl from the East China Sea is a type of folk song. Compared with ordinary folk songs, the biggest feature is that she cries, cries, and cries in the song, with a low pitch, and the cry is like complaining. The content of crying breaks out at will and is very rich, including those who lament their miserable fate, those who accuse the unreasonable feudal marriage system, those who blame middlemen, those whose parents arranged marriages, those who thank their parents for their upbringing, the separation of brothers, sisters and aunts, etc.
In traditional wedding customs, this kind of crying usually occurs at night, and if time permits, it usually starts one month before the wedding. In addition to the married girl crying, the better sisters in the village also gathered at the married woman's home to cry together. Those who cried cried about the love between sisters, and some people were moved by the scene and chanted their longing for future marriage.
After the feudal system was overturned and young men and women achieved freedom of marriage, the custom of crying before marriage in Dongdao was gradually eliminated. Nowadays, those who will marry Donghai are old people. Not only do young people in the East Island not have to cry to get married, many traditional wedding customs have also been reduced. Especially in recent years, with the rapid economic development of Dongdao, it has become a reality for rural people to generally modernize weddings. Some people simply don't attend the wedding, get a marriage certificate, and go out into the outside world with their wedding reserves. It is the recently popular travel wedding.
In the rural areas of southwestern Shandong, some girls get married in cars, some in carriages, some in bridal sedans, some wear the "hot pot and cotton trousers hot pot" prepared by their husband's family, and some wear dresses, but no matter No matter what clothes to wear, the general etiquette is that women are prepared to bring noodles and money strings
The bride is neatly dressed and waiting in the room for the groom to call the door. When the groom calls the door, he must give a red envelope. Usually the door cannot be opened the first time it is called. Regardless of the size of the red envelope you give, the door must be opened at least twice before the door can be opened. In order to show women's prudence and wealth, they must be captured. The groom asked him to open the door, but the bride had to put her father's shoes on backwards. The father supported her and handed her to the groom, who carried her into the sedan chair. No matter how happy the bride was, she still shed a few tears. One is to leave golden beans for the natal family, and the other is to show the parents' love for their natal hometown.
After the bride gets on the bus, there are also boys holding chickens. They have to carry the basket of chickens and get on the bus with the bride-goers as the firecrackers are removed. On the way to her husband’s house, they encounter wells and stone mills. Wait, send out evil spirits, and stick green dragons, white tigers, etc. on the intersection.