China people will object to roll with the punches before the words are spoken, but when the words are spoken, they are proud and want problems. Change means admitting that you were wrong from the beginning. It is extremely difficult for a China person to admit his mistake and overturn his previous opinion. Be sure to give him a step, and he will make reasonable changes according to your meaning. -"On the Wisdom of the Three Kingdoms" is not in its place, and it does not seek its administration; We often ignore the other side of it: in its place, we must seek its own government.
People in China are the most reasonable, but you can't reason with people in China. Why is it so difficult for people in China to communicate? Two sentences finished: First, China people are the most reasonable people in the world; In the second sentence, it is also the most difficult thing in the world for you to reason with China people, because he only believes in his own reason and never believes in others. I listened to what you said as I did; It's different. I don't listen at all. In China, it is difficult to tell who is Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism. Often you have me and I have you. Classification is only a means of religious struggle. Don't be superstitious I advise everyone that people should learn more Confucianism when they are young, and only by constantly striving for self-improvement can they settle down; Learn more Taoism after middle age, and do nothing to protect Thailand; When you get old, you should participate in meditation and worship Buddha and be at ease with God. No matter how we behave or do things, we have three important things: the first is called direction, the second is called method, and the third is called method. As long as there is one mistake, it is difficult to achieve your wish and complete your mission.
We in China are very clever and have a strong understanding. There were many Kongming in the past dynasties, but there were many people comparable to Kongming in the Three Kingdoms period, and Liu Bei was too few. What we lack is not Kong Ming, but Liu Bei. Of course, Kongming is great, but without Liu Bei, ten Kongming are useless. Because there are more miles and less bole, three visits to the thatched cottage will be passed down as a beautiful talk through the ages. In addition to internal factors, a thing is also influenced by external factors. Internal factors can be controlled by themselves, but external factors can't. Therefore, we can only grasp the internal causes and try our best to ensure that we do nothing wrong. For external factors, we can only objectively observe and analyze their development and changes, and then make a reasonable response according to the situation. People are often arrogant, and it is easy to be arrogant if you are not careful, so modesty is a rare accomplishment. The so-called mental arithmetic is actually a process of scientific reasoning and drawing correct conclusions according to the objective law of things' development after mastering a lot of sufficient and effective information in advance. You are a planner. You have to think about what you should do if you are asked to carry it out one day. Would it be ugly to die? When making a plan, think: what will future generations think of you? In the final analysis, planners should not only consider the present. After your death, the result of the plan still exists. But now that many plans have been dismantled, it is better to dismantle them. There is no evidence. They are still there. Be scolded every day.
To have an effort to be close to the people is to understand what the people want. When there is no food, he tells you that eating is the most important thing, and nothing else is important; But don't trust him, because when he eats almost, he will start to pick this and that, which is called keeping pace with the times. The public opinion of ordinary people is changing at any time. You should walk in front of him, but not too far ahead. Too far and too close makes him uncomfortable. This is the difficulty.
The classic University is the unique essence of China's political philosophy. The way of university, from the goal of being well-known, being close to the people and stopping at perfection to the concrete implementation of the goal of sincerity, integrity, nourishing the spirit and leveling the ground; From Tian Zi to Shu Ren, one is the practice of self-cultivation, and the success of Zhi Zhi is the success of China society. Little people never say that they are little people, they all call themselves gentlemen, and they do things quite like gentlemen. When we found out that he was actually a hypocrite, he had lived for a long time and began to make trouble. At this time, the real gentleman has been hurt by him. Therefore, a gentleman should create his own conditions, find ways to do things well, and do his duty to be a real gentleman. -"Ceng Shiqiang's Comments on the Three Kingdoms: Three Kingdoms Characters"
Why can't a gentleman beat a villain? What is the reason? To put it simply, a gentleman thinks that since he is a gentleman, he should be upright and need not play any tricks. Just say what he wants to say and do what he likes. Actually, it's not his responsibility. And why do little people live so long? Because the villain knows that if he has nothing to hide, others will see that he is a villain, so he has to disguise himself as a gentleman and not let others see it. Seeking a good end is the highest goal in life! To die with a clear conscience is a good end, and to die unsatisfied is a bad end. Therefore, we in China swear that the severest sentence is that this person will die a natural death. With this understanding, there are some things to do, first ask yourself, can it be safe? In the west, the smallest unit of crowd society is the individual, but not in China. The Chinese nation believes that the smallest unit of crowd society is the family, not the individual. This is very different. As long as your family is not warm, your workplace will not be good, because you fidget there every day and get nervous after work. How can you quarrel when you go home? So China people must be carefree. Family can rule the country and level the world. In China, it is difficult to tell who is Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism. Often you have me and I have you. Classification is only a means of religious struggle. Don't be superstitious I advise everyone that people should learn more Confucianism when they are young, and only by constantly striving for self-improvement can they settle down; Learn more Taoism after middle age, and do nothing to protect Thailand; When you enter old age, you should participate in meditation and worship Buddha, and be at ease with God. Life is a phased adjustment. What is an expert? Experts are committed to hurting people.
If you think that making money is happiness, then you have worked hard all your life; If you think happiness is happiness, then this kind of person is very shallow; If I say that happiness can only be achieved, then this kind of person is very upset; The true meaning of happiness is to be yourself. The home is warm and stable. It doesn't matter if you suffer a little outside, because when you go home, you will naturally relax. Not anymore. Now both husband and wife are carrying the burden of distress and pain after work and are ready to vent when they go home. The two men even jumped off the roof at once. You should understand from reality that everything between husband and wife is solved with companionship, mutual respect, tolerance and understanding. We in China attach great importance to facial features and eight characters. If you want to know a person, you often look at his appearance first, and then take a batch of his eight characters. In fact, these methods are not necessarily accurate. The most effective way to get to know a person is the actual test. In a group, it is good to have opinions, but it is highly dangerous to deliberately watch you fight to the death and fight among yourselves. Colleagues will hurt each other, and finally the boss will have bad luck. -"Ceng Shiqiang on the Wisdom of the Three Kingdoms: The Battle of Guandu"
There is only one reason why small reports are popular in any organization, that is, its leaders like listening to small reports very much. As long as this leader doesn't like to hear reports, there will be no reports. -"Ceng Shiqiang on the Wisdom of the Three Kingdoms: The Battle of Guandu" uses dissuasion to dissuade people, and uses no opinions to express opinions. This is the superb communication art of China people. When a person speaks, it is the most effective communication to let others listen. -"On the Wisdom of the Three Kingdoms: The Art of Speaking" In our traditional concept, dad is scolding children and dad is urging them. Now it is not his responsibility for dad not to scold his children and urge them. If you don't teach your children yourself, who will care about your children? If you don't scold, don't talk about others, he will certainly not be scolded when he grows up in society. If a father doesn't scold his children, he will give up his responsibility. China people believe in heaven. In fact, they believe in the laws of nature. What is our superstition? Do you believe in God's superstition? In fact, God is heaven, and heaven is the law of nature. Naturally regular. If we don't believe in the laws of nature, what else can we believe? But what is heaven and what is the law of nature? The ancients couldn't make it clear at all, so they created many "gods" to help them explain. We call it "God" if we can understand the difficult truth. Ghosts and gods are all imagined by China people. Therefore, if a person explains the laws of nature clearly, we will say: you are the true god; If it's messy, we will also say, what do you think? When a person has no money, he doesn't think too much, and his heart is also very practical. On the contrary, after having money, I worry about this and doubt that, and my heart is not practical. Therefore, it is best to say that money is just enough, and the more you have, the more trouble you will have, which many people have never thought of when they are pursuing wealth. Everyone has his own way of life. Don't envy others, be content with your own environment, and strive for yourself in your own environment to have a bright future in life.
"On the Wisdom of the Three Kingdoms" We believe in one sentence: Everyone's heart is fleshy. No one is completely heartless, and it is very difficult for a person to completely get rid of his conscience unless he lies to himself. Confucius said, "Don't deceive yourself" means don't deceive yourself. It is the most terrible thing for a person to deceive himself, which will make him feel uneasy. Self-deception is the most terrible thing for a person. -"Ceng Shiqiang on the Wisdom of the Three Kingdoms" We provide a standard of choice, which is called "the situation is better than others". Whether a person can do it or not is one thing. Only under the same circumstances can we draw the conclusion that who is strong and who is weak. However, there are few situations where both sides are exactly the same, so it is useless to be strong if you are in a good situation; My situation is good, and the initiative is naturally on my side. We often feel that we are sometimes led by the other side, which is the result of the situation. It is terrible for a person to believe everything; But if you can't believe anything, it's sad. Who caused Lu Bu's fate? Why? In a word, it is clear: everything is of my own making! There is nothing to complain about. We must be clear that everything has its roots. What book is that? There is a saying in "University": From Tian Zi to Shu Ren, it is based on self-cultivation. Conscience is fundamental. So we don't have to ask our children to be the first in the exam when they are young. Reading well has little to do with future development, because children are still young and need to accumulate. What is a prosperous time? Prosperity is the blessing that erodes you for hundreds of years in a few years. Which dynasty was not like this? Which country is not like this? Just look at America. The United States is a president who spends all his savings on his hands, and then the following people can't do it no matter how hard they try. In fact, the emperor who sang "Gong" and "De Song" spent all the resources saved by his ancestors in a few years. How many of them are close to the people? The value of life is material on the one hand and humanistic on the other. I think now we have gradually felt that material things are actually easy to satisfy. When I say that material things are easy to meet, I mean that material needs cannot be excessive, and once they are excessive, there is no way to meet them. Not satisfied, never satisfied. A leader should use his eyebrows, not his mouth. We see that the sky often changes yin and yang, and the clouds change color, just to show people faces. But it is wrong to say that China people are good at camouflage. Leaders should use their faces to hint at cadres, not to show their faces to cadres, which is a bit short. Show your face to cadres, and cadres will resent it: What face are you pretending to have? I won't work for you tomorrow! Since ancient times, China people have known that a good political order is the fundamental foundation of economy, society and education. For nearly a hundred years, western theories have always emphasized that "economy" should be separated from "politics", and moral influence is not as effective as law. However, we clearly know that the people of China have their own time-honored practices, and they can blaze a unique path in the wave of modernization. -"The Way of University"
To tell the truth, people will see right and wrong. If there is an invisible hand, it is called fate-the more you look, the more you look. There is no reason, the more you look at it, the more wrong it is. Therefore, most people who choose to take classes will choose people who are destined for them, that is, look at their eyes. Because there is no objective standard for talent. We believe in quantitative and objective standards too much now, but in fact they don't exist. -"The way to be an official" What is a legalist? It has three main projects, one is legislation, the other is justice and the other is law enforcement. Then what is Confucianism? Quite simply, when you legislate, enforce and enforce the law, you must be kind. It became Confucianism. Why do we think Buddhism is terrible and disgusting now? The law makes people feel terrible because they don't act according to their conscience in legislation, justice and law enforcement. -"The Way to Be an Official" Officials have the responsibility to be officials, and ordinary people have the responsibility to be ordinary people, otherwise it is unfriendly. Officials are corrupt officials and people are unruly. What are you kissing? Only when the officials are good and the people are good can we really be close to the people. This makes sense, and the point of harmony will come out slowly. -"The Way to Be an Official" Now some so-called education experts say that education should be modernized, so parents should be friends with their children. I wonder who they are fooling. A son should do his duty as a son, and his duty is not to embarrass his parents outside. It's all gone now I learned all the useless things and lost all the fundamental things. In our traditional concept, dad is scolding children, and dad is urging children. Now, if dad doesn't scold his children and urge them, it's not his responsibility. If you don't teach your children yourself, who will care about your children? If you don't scold, don't talk about others, he will certainly not be scolded when he grows up in society. If a father doesn't scold his children, he will give up his responsibility. "Stop at the best" doesn't mean finding the best and staying there. That's impossible. Stop is stop, stick to it in the best place and don't let it change. Stop at the best is the most reasonable way to find here and now. As time passed, it changed and changed again. If you don't change, you can't live at all. -"The way to be an official" In many enterprises, the boss does not study in class, and the cadres study in class. As a result, when I came back, the cadres had different views on what the boss said, and he had some newer ideas than the boss. What should this boss do? Why should a person study? Because as long as you don't study for three days, your language will be boring, and people will hate it if you keep talking so much. You always say the same thing, and the expression on your face hasn't changed. This is disgusting. Some people's faces are disgusting, and it is boring to listen to him. An important reason is that they don't study. -The second episode of "The Way to Be an Official" We must clearly understand that a person's ability means that you have the ability to let others accept you, welcome you and agree with you. It's hard. A young man is incompetent as long as he feels capable and frustrated. This is a very clear thing. -"the way to be an official"
When China people talk about the new, they must combine the old with the new, which is called inheriting the old and opening up the new. There's nothing wrong with that. As long as they talk about new things, they will all end up miserable. We are always talking about innovation now, and I shudder every time I hear the word innovation, because there are three problems: first, we will think that the new is good and the old is bad; Second, if you blindly pursue the new, you will like the new and hate the old. Third, blind innovation, and finally there is no foundation. No matter what you do, someone will have a problem. So I said: Tao can be done, Tao can't be done, and Tao is constant. If you say yes, someone will say no right away. It's good for you to say so, and then someone will say it badly. This is normal. Otherwise, what is normal? There is a saying in the Book of Changes called "Don't be orthodox", and it is also called "Don't be persistent" in the Buddhist scriptures. So what should we do? Only change is appropriate. But flexibility is often misunderstood. I was the headmaster of a middle school when I was young. I have a thoughtful plan. Anyway, something happened up there. I have to know first. Who would I be afraid of? But it's different now. Now everyone knows below, but the official doesn't know yet. Why? Because officials are busy, people put documents on your desk, so you have no time to read them. When you can't control the information, when you are not sure that everything is a prophet, your attitude will change. If the emperor rewards and punishes clearly, he is finally surrounded by villains, because every time the villains perform best, they are promoted as soon as they enter the DPRK. Finally, as described in the Water Margin, the emperor knows that there are only a few bad guys, but he is helpless. What can we do? Had to injustice sung river these loyal people. The clear distinction between rewards and punishments sounds natural to us, but in fact this idea is a bit shallow.