I like today's class very much, because Wang Jian has raised many questions, which have aroused our thinking. The questions are interlocking, so we will think layer by layer and go deeper, which is very enlightening ~
Course notes
1. Why can emotional value be changed to specificity?
Because people are not selective, because some needs can not be met, such as respect, worship, love and so on. The emotional value of the provider can meet these needs of the other party, so there is no need for the other party to be unspecific.
A man needs admiration, praise and praise to make him feel treated by his lover. 100% thinks that you only love him, and his tadpole 100% is his own gene, so he has a sense of security and trust ~
2. Why should we be single-minded?
Standard painting, cloth men with stone women, stone men with scissors women, scissors men with cloth women.
The man in cloth assured the barren woman's low, and then tried to make money for his son. Shi Min accounts for the vast majority of people, so they need to cut the emotional value of women, and then they will be sweet together for life. Scissors capture the girl in cloth by providing emotional value, and then let the girl in cloth fight and enjoy the results by himself.
There are three kinds of men in cloth: men in cloth (with barren women), men in stone (with barren women) and men in cloth (with barren women). Shi Min can be divided into three types: cloth people (with barren women), stone people (with barren women) and stone people (with barren women)? There are three kinds of scissors men: cloth scissors men (female with stone cloth), stone scissors men (female with cloth) and scissors men (female with cloth).
Let me ask you again, do you think there are more elites or ordinary people in this world?
According to the 28 th theory, 20% of the people in the world are elites and 80% are ordinary people. Ordinary people can't get great achievements in their careers, how can they get happiness?
Whether elite or ordinary people, feelings and needs are bottom-up. Feeling-feeling (emotional value). Social needs-interpersonal relationship (emotional value). Respect for needs-(emotional value). Finally, the need for self-realization.
The part in the black box is the source of happiness that every ordinary person has been looking for all his life, which is what we call emotional value.
If the daughter-in-law can provide her with emotional value, then the man's attention will focus on maintaining this relationship and avoiding everything being destroyed. That kind of persistent maintenance of the relationship, everyone's desire for singleness also appeared.
4. What are the four components of EQ?
1) Emotional self-awareness.
2) Ability to manage your emotions.
3) the ability to perceive the emotions of others.
4) The ability to guide others' emotions.
Which of these four steps do you think is the most difficult?
I think the hardest thing is the first step, consciousness. Perception, perception, emotion, expression, execution.
For example, you are angry. Do you know why you are angry? Every emotion should be respected and treated correctly. Have you ever cared about yourself when you are angry? Do you know the needs behind your emotions?
Emotion-need-behavior-meeting needs-changing emotions, this formula is the secret of managing your emotions. Only when you have the ability to perceive your own emotions can you further perceive the emotions of others. Fool others first, then fool yourself Learn to coax yourself before you know how to coax others. Meet your Maslow needs first. If you can meet your own Maslow needs, then you should learn to meet the Maslow needs of people around you.
So how do you provide yourself with emotional value? How to make yourself happy? What is the first step in providing emotional value? How to do it? This is the content of tomorrow's class.
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The essence of interpersonal relationship is emotional value. In other words, emotional value determines interpersonal relationships.
homework
Five things that have made you angry recently.
1. My mother wants me to be what she wants me to be. I especially hope that she can understand and respect my own appearance, so I am often angry about this.
What I expected didn't happen.
3. Can't sleep ...
Don't be angry, I feel flustered when I lose my job, and I'm afraid I can't finish my homework. ...
5. I don't think so, o