On a variety show, Dong Jie’s son Dingding greeted a foreign kid. When Dong Jie saw it, she was afraid that her son would neglect her, so she immediately turned on the coquettish mode and said to Dingding aggrievedly: You If you ignore me again, I will be sad. Tingding was so frightened that he quickly comforted him and said, "Don't cry, my little baby. Daddy loves you." Yes, you read it right, Dingding didn't call Dong Jie "son" but "daddy" in front of Dong Jie. He didn't call Dong Jie "mom", but "little baby".
As a single mother, Dong Jie places all her hopes on her son, and her request for him is to give her "husband-like love." In an interview, she frankly stated that being alone with her son was like "going on a date" and claimed that "this is what women in love are like."
From a happily married little woman to asking for love from her son, Dong Jie’s behavior is both embarrassing and emotional. She was once a smash hit "Mou Girl", and her combination with Pan Yueming was also known as the "Golden Girl" combination.
However, in just 3 years, the two people exposed each other's secrets, and went from being a loving couple to becoming strangers. Dong Jie has also changed from "the nation's first love" to a "black-bellied girl". She is no longer popular and loses both sides. Pan Yueming became a "scumbag" that everyone called him, his popularity was low, and his career fell into the bottom.
While both sides suffered losses, Dong Jie's "revenge" on Pan Yueming never stopped. I am deeply involved in a divorce, and the current situation is sad. What happened between them in the first place? Dong Jie is so worried that she won’t let her son see his father for 10 years? What was the once happy family of three like now?
Pan Yueming was born in an old alley in Beijing. His parents are both public servants. Because of his handsome appearance, Pan Yueming has been working as a minor player in various production crews since he was a child. "Ma Xiaojun" in Jiang Wen's movie "Sunny Days", and a little follower next to "Master Lei" in the movie "Fang Shiyu" starring Jet Li. Sun Xiu, Emperor Wu Jing, in the 1994 version of "The Romance of the Three Kingdoms".
Because of his acting experience over the years, Pan Yueming has always had a dream of becoming an actor. Therefore, when applying for high school, he did not hesitate to apply for Beijing Film Academy and China Theater Academy. However, because filming delayed their studies, they both failed. In the end, Pan Yueming had no choice but to settle for the next best thing and enter Beijing Normal University to study film and television production, as long as he was closer to the film and television industry.
For four years in college, Pan Yueming never relaxed his study of acting. As soon as he graduated, he got the opportunity to star in the movie "A Very Summer". With this role, he also won the 7th Peking University Film Award Festival's "Best Newcomer Award".
Exquisite acting skills have also allowed Pan Yueming to be recognized by more directors. In 2006, Pan Yueming starred in "Beijing Smoke and Clouds", "Red House" and "The Legend of White Snake" successively broadcast on CCTV. Pan Yueming became an instant hit and quickly established his status as a "jade-faced niche" in the world.
It can be said that Pan Yueming was going smoothly during this period, his stardom was brilliant, and love came quietly at this time. While filming "Red Clothes House", Pan Yueming and Dong Jie became attached to each other because of the drama, and their love suddenly blossomed.
At that time, Dong Jie was already a well-known "Mou Girl". She also had countless fans with the TV series "The Golden Family" and became the well-deserved "National First Love". The combination of the handsome young man and the innocent beauty made many netizens angry, and they became the "golden boy and beautiful girl" that everyone envied.
In 2008, the two of them, who had been in love for three years, got married. Five months after their marriage, their son was born. The happy family of three was the envy of others. Pan Yueming was even more excited for several days and nights. Neither could sleep.
He often held Dong Jie's hand and repeated over and over again: "Thank you, I will protect you two." Since then, Pan Yueming's social platform has also become a window to record the happy life of a family of three , whether it’s Dingding’s nonsense or Dong Jie’s illness, Pan Yueming can always use ordinary words to tell beautiful stories. The quiet years always hide a strong unpredictability.
Due to a scene, Pan Yueming fell from a 30-meter-high hillside and his lungs were squeezed and ruptured. The situation was extremely dangerous. The crew was far away in the mountains, and it took two hours for an ambulance to arrive at the scene.
When his life was in danger, Pan Yueming silently recited the names of Dong Jie and Dingding in his heart, cheering himself up over and over again, and thus survived the most dangerous moment.
After Dong Jie learned the news, she immediately gave up all work and took care of Pan Yueming day and night until he recovered. During the nearly 100 days of cultivation, the two saw the most beautiful appearance of love. After being discharged from the hospital, Pan Yueming, who had always been shy, publicly expressed his love for Dong Jie: "I married the best wife in the world."
In 2011, on the third wedding anniversary of the two, Pan Yueming excitedly posted on social platforms To express her cherishment of marriage, Dong Jie wrote "Three years of love, three years of marriage, next year... itchy" when retweeting Pan Yuemingxiu's affectionate post on Weibo.
Unexpectedly, the unintentional joke turned out to be a magical prophecy for their future lives. In October 2012, a blogger revealed that "Pan Yueming and Dong Jie have broken up, and the woman has a new love." And this new love is none other than actor Wang Dazhi, who has collaborated with Dong Jie in TV series.
At this sensitive moment, Wang Dazhi, a person involved, suddenly jumped out to support Dong Jie in public. Once again, it attracted crowds of melon-eating people to watch.
In order to control the situation, Dong Jie's agent issued a statement, describing Pan Yueming in its entirety as a "superior man" who was unfaithful to his marriage, rude, and even gambled excessively, was heavily in debt, and needed to rely on his wife to support his family. At this time, the public's impression of Dong Jie still remains in the innocent memory of "Leng Qingqiu". Netizens have no doubt about her accusations.
In an instant, the "participant" Pan Yueming became the target of everyone's verbal criticism overnight and turned into a hateful scumbag. Immediately afterwards, Dong Jie's agent once again exposed a photo of Pan Yueming as a tourist in Macau, which once again proved his "gambling habit" from the side.
During that time, negative public opinions came overwhelmingly, Pan Yueming's image collapsed, and the outside world was convinced of his image as a heartless man. Dong Jie became the object of everyone's sympathy and received countless pity. Pan Yueming had no choice but to fight back immediately, but the target of the attack was not Dong Jie, but her agent. Until now, he still chose to trust Dong Jie, believing that she was just bewitched by her agent.
In the end, Pan Yueming won the case, but public opinion still did not clear his name. People always believe what they want to believe.
It was not until five months later that the paparazzi studio released a video of Dong Jie and Wang Dazhi kissing, that public opinion turned around and the target of the attack turned to Dong Jie. It turned out that in 2016, Dong Jie and Wang Dazhi fell in love because of drama, and regardless of it, they intervened in each other's lives. In the passion, Dong Jie filed for divorce from Pan Yueming.
Pan Yueming couldn't believe this was true and sternly refused, and the two separated. In order to quell the rumors from the outside world, Dong Jie's agent decided to take a preemptive strike and put Pan Yueming to death. The result did not disappoint Dong Jie. Pan Yueming lost completely and became a "scumbag" that everyone called him. But from beginning to end, Pan Yueming held hope for their relationship, and his defense was weak.
"I, Pan Yueming, have a clear conscience about your feelings for us. I have done nothing, I am still waiting, because I love my children and this family."
Even if it is When questioned by media from all walks of life, he still defended Dong Jie in his words: "I don't believe that is true. If it is true, then blessings." From a loving couple to turning against each other, and still causing such embarrassment, the divorce battle between the two has been still ongoing to this day. It is regarded as "the ugliest celebrity marriage in the entertainment industry".
Aside from outside rumors, no one knows the truth about what happened in their marriage except themselves. But there is an ironclad fact - because of divorce, both parties suffer.
In short, everything Dong Jie did next was incredible. After the two divorced, Dingding was awarded to Dong Jie. On the show, the host asked Dong Jie: Would she mind meeting Dingding and Pan Yueming? She said that she didn't mind at all, but the actual practice was another matter.
She refused Pan Yueming’s visit. Even on her child’s birthday, Pan Yueming could only wish her son a happy birthday on social platforms. For nine consecutive years, he has celebrated his birthday on time with the same emoticon. "Cow" represents the top, and "balloon" represents celebrating a happy birthday.
Because there are no photos of children, Pan Yueming’s birthday pictures every year are still the same as when he was a child.
In 2013, on Ding Ding’s birthday, Pan Yueming said sadly: If I could exchange for your lifelong happiness, I would rather suffer for a lifetime. Although I can’t be by your side, my father still wants to wish you a happy birthday. "Whenever he goes to a fun place, the first thing he does is to bring his son to play with him.
Whenever he mentions his son in variety shows, he can't help but choke up because he doesn't have the chance to accompany him. The son grew up with regrets. Later, Pan Yueming's father became seriously ill and wanted to see his grandson for the last time, but no matter how much Pan Yueming begged, Dong Jie refused to let his son see his grandfather for the last time.
This became the deepest pain in Pan Yueming's heart. , since the divorce, the old man has been watching the constant slander of his son on the Internet, and has become sick. Now he can't even realize his last wish. It's hard to guard his family, and Pan Yueming's career has been in a state of confusion.
He has been in trouble. In an interview, he confessed his experience of the marriage change, saying bluntly: "It was very, very scary, and I still have lingering fears when I think about it now. "At that time, the Internet was full of accusations and abuses against him. His image as a "young-faced young man" was shattered. He had no roles within a few years and his acting career was terminated. For a long time, Pan Yueming could not let go. He spent time in depression and struggle. He became greasy and fat, and every time he appeared on camera, his face was full of melancholy and haggard.
The agent would not hesitate to get him a role or even half a role. He lost his face and searched for all possible resources, but couldn't find anything. However, from beginning to end, Pan Yueming, who had hit rock bottom and was extremely embarrassed, never publicly accused or exposed his ex-wife. Based on this alone, he can be called a Zhengzheng. A real man with strong bones and a pure man! The only time the two confronted each other was because of their sons.
On the program "Mom is Superman", the host asked Dong Jie: "What will I do to my father in front of you?" ? "Dong Jie said: "There is no way, we all have to accept the reality. It was this passage that made Pan Yueming, who had been silent for many times, respond. Late that night, he posted on Weibo: "If you really want to face reality, do you dare to tell the truth?" ”
This is also the harshest thing he has said to Dong Jie since the divorce. Because he has loved, he is compassionate and pitiful. However, Dong Jie did not continue to respond. Because, since the marriage change, Dong Jie’s Life was equally difficult.
Having an affair during marriage and throwing dirty water on the other party, Dong Jie ruined Pan Yueming and her career that she had worked hard for many years. She changed from a "beautiful girl" to a "black-bellied girl", and her popularity Things took a turn for the worse, and attendance at events was met with ridicule. The character collapsed and the resources were gone.
For so many years, she has been a single mother, raising her son alone. Needless to say, the hardships involved, her children have become the focus of her life, and the way she gets along with her son has always been It has been criticized by the outside world.
Once upon a time, the little Dingding would come to visit Pan Yueming’s class. As soon as he saw his father, he would rush into his arms from afar. The kind of family ties that are connected by blood, even Yi Nengjing beside him was attracted by it. Said: "It's very touching." However, since Pan Yueming and Dong Jie divorced, Dingding has never seen his father again. Whenever he mentioned his father, Dong Jie would reply perfunctorily: "Mom is too busy, and dad is on a business trip. I don’t have time to see you.”
Poor Dingding was filled with grievances. He didn’t know why his father didn’t come to see him, and he didn’t know how to make his mother happy. Dong Jie was seeking her son's attention all the time. When Dingding was having fun with the children, she called Dingding over: "You ignore me like this, I'm really sad." That tone was very much like a girl acting coquettishly with her boyfriend.
It’s understandable that a mother wants her son to accompany her, but Dingding always has to make her happy, and the names he uses between mother and son are also surprising. Ding Ding didn't call Dong Jie "son" in front of him, but "dad". He didn't call Dong Jie "mom", but "little baby".
These are Dong Jie’s requirements. She must kiss her son at least 100 times a day, and it is a mouth-to-mouth kiss.
Under this suffocating maternal love, is Dingding really happy? No wonder, from his young face, you can't see the innocence and happiness that children of the same age should have, but instead he is always depressed.
The "husband-like" love that Dong Jie seeks will not only ruin Dingding's childhood, make him bear the emotional burden prematurely, and have a wrong understanding of men and women; Dong Jie himself will also fall deeper and deeper into , and finally turned into a sick and controlling mother. It's a pity that Dong Jie doesn't know it.
Now, 10 years have passed since their divorce, and Pan Yueming has finally come out of that unbearable past and has become a better version of himself. Once the annual hit online drama "White Night" was aired, it received a score of 9.0 on Douban and over 800 million views on the entire network, which also allowed him to complete the transformation from a "young-faced young man" to a popular drama star.
"Ghost Blowing the Lantern and the Labyrinth of Longling" made Pan Yueming the best candidate for "Hu Bayi" in the eyes of the audience with a high vote of 52%. After becoming famous again, Pan Yueming also looked at the past a lot. When not filming, Pan Yueming updates his news every day and interacts with fans. I write and draw in my spare time, and my life is back on track.
On the other hand, Dong Jie, after experiencing a well-known scandal and the tragedy of being ruthlessly abandoned by her loved one, her former popularity is no longer there and her career is in the doldrums. To this day, She is no longer seen among A-list actresses. You can only share delicious food online to gain a certain amount of attention and favor.
I wonder, has Dong Jie ever regretted what she did? Especially when Dingding asks her for her father, as the child grows up, how long can she keep it secret?
After all these years, Pan Yueming still preserves the beautiful memories of his family of three. He didn’t delete any of the family’s photos or records. Someone once asked him: "Why not delete everything related to the past?" Pan Yueming said: "In order to let Dingding know that he came to this world because of love."
A man who loves children Father, vividly written on the page, makes people cry. In this war without gunpowder, if adults must bear their own faults and take responsibility for their past impulses, then the most pitiful one is the innocent child.
No matter how happy your childhood is, it will always be a pity without your father’s company.